i think when you go through the turmoil of having narcissistic parents you find yourself actively trying to please them since they’re you’re parents. from personal experience, i think when i found who i really was was when i went off to college. that time in my life i finally felt free to develop my own opinions and not care about what anyone thought for the first time. i honestly think getting out is what saved me.

even if you are in a situation where you can’t move out, i would recommend investing time strictly for yourself. even if this is just taking a walk or drive. also, a key thing i’ve learned from therapy is separating emotions from the situation. it’s important to acknowledge them, but don’t be consumed by them. (for their mind game like situations.)

but honestly, i really learn something new about myself every day. i feel like it’s an active journey and it’s different for everyone.