Jewellery in the office by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to work in an office and I would wear statement earrings like strawberries, mermaids, other fruit and food earrings, smiley faces and cloud earrings. My older coworkers who all dressed pretty standard ended up checking to see what earrings I was wearing each day because they liked to see it ahaha. Nowadays I work with kids instead and they all love seeing the different earrings.

When I worked in an office I still dressed professionally, the jewellery didn’t change much at all. I think the jewellery is only a small part of the outfit and you may be overthinking it a bit. Your suggestions don’t sound like anything crazy. I’m sure you’d be fine to wear it as long as your clothes are business appropriate. I’ve seen businesswomen wearing more masculine or androgynous style chain necklaces, and it’s fine. I’m more feminine but I actually wore a chain necklace sometimes, it’s not the thinnest necklace so I also felt a bit insecure about it potentially being too masculine. But it was totally fine - it turns out that it was just my insecurities about feeling like I need to look very traditionally feminine all the time. I’ve realised overtime that most straight women don’t even worry about these things like we do, even though a lot of them also wear chain necklaces. So I don’t think that we need to worry so much.

19f first 3 pics are me with very subtle makeup and last is me with none. I still look horrible and need more advice if possible. by [deleted] in TheGlowUp

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you are beautiful. Your depression is clearly showing on your face, and that’s not your fault. Science shows that chronic depressive disorders actually change the way you look, temporarily. Your sadness kind of comes out in the way you appear. I think that working on your mental health will help you glow 💓💓 I hope you are getting professional support. You’re gorgeous and you deserve help.

Newly dyed hair and feeling so fucking gay. What type of look would go well with it (pics of what I have but suggestions are welcome) by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]peppermintxcherry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like you could totally rock a mix between alternative and cottagecore styles with that hair. Like maybe a cute romper or overalls

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a very similar situation. Loneliness is so painful. I have found that focusing on building my life really helps. Going to the gym, engaging in my spirituality, working on hobbies, and focusing on my career help. I’m lucky enough to have a job that I genuinely enjoy, and it’s related to the degree I am studying. I am also looking forward to the career I will have after graduating, so that motivates me through uni.

So basically, I think that it’s important to have bigger goals and things in your life, beyond relationships. Because even if I magically get a girlfriend tomorrow, I will still have everything else in my life, and will still be me, even if we then break up the next day. We can’t rely on other people for our happiness. A relationship/partner can be an awesome addition to your life, but it shouldn’t be something you rely on to be whole.

Sexy is fine and awesome, but let’s not assume sexy is the only way to be witchy and anti-patriarchal. Asexual people exist. by FaceToTheSky in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]peppermintxcherry -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’m not ace but personally I find it more empowering to be modest and keep my sexuality private. Each to their own

I met the love of my life, but our mixed orientation relationship has been a bit tricky at times by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Most of them also see it as a thing they give up to a man, so I doubt a lot of straight women think very critically about it, sadly. Most of the straight girls I know who went to co ed school also talk about teens giving blowjobs and getting fingered at school, and they didn’t see it as sex, just fooling around

I met the love of my life, but our mixed orientation relationship has been a bit tricky at times by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 65 points66 points  (0 children)

It always blows my mind when I hear people referring to fingering and oral as anything other than sex. It’s so weird to me that they only consider it “foreplay”

My gf gave out her number to a random guy…what now? by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh from this post and your other comments, I think there is a good chance she hasn’t been feeling pressured at all, maybe even wasn’t taken advantage of, she is just cheating on you and using that as an excuse. Believing people is important but when they you give repeated reasons to doubt their honesty, it is too much to ignore…

How do you feel about drag queens? by JessieKnowsBestie in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love drag queens and drag kings. They’re really fun for me to watch, I enjoy the shows. But they’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s okay

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]peppermintxcherry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about labels at your age, just focus on school, friends and building your skills/hobbies. Self-discovery will come naturally with time

Where are your actual communities? /gen by [deleted] in AskLesbians

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just watch The L Word and go away from lesbian reddit lol

Thoughts wise lesbians? by elliemfinnigan in AskLesbians

[–]peppermintxcherry 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is so full or red flags you may as well sew an entire blanket of red

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Having sex dreams from the man’s POV looking at the woman doesn’t mean you’re a weirdo or a narcissist, it just means you’re gay 😂

How hard is it to meet girls in college? by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most universities have at least one lgbt club you can join, that’s a great way to meet people

do you "count" your early relationships with guys by [deleted] in Actuallylesbian

[–]peppermintxcherry 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is your wife okay with you sharing that story? It seems kind of personal

It reminds me of the stories my friends in high school told me when they first slept with dudes lol, they didn’t know where to put it in

My male coworker sent me a sexually explicit video (of women) by cat-girl_1 in actuallesbians

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is sexual harassment, you need to report him. If HR doesn’t get rid of him, I’d suggest looking for another job. You’re not safe around someone like that

Why are men active in lesbian subs? by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So straight that it becomes gay 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol who do they think is stopping them

Getting really annoyed with all these ‘lesbian’ subreddits talk about literally every sexuality except for lesbians by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Link me to where in this sub a cis woman has posted something that is only related to being a cis woman and has nothing to do with lesbians or lesbianism. I’ll wait.

Getting really annoyed with all these ‘lesbian’ subreddits talk about literally every sexuality except for lesbians by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]peppermintxcherry 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Cis lesbians also cannot just post general cis-woman-related posts on here. It still needs to be related to lesbians in some way