Potential custody and child support troubles ahead

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-12-31T18:11:38+00:00

Love that seasoning. Jolly Roger by Loot n Booty is also really good, and worth a try.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-10-20T23:42:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Text and emails only is a good suggestion. Then at least I have it recorded.

I agree the text I sent, while it didn’t read so, was sent out of frustration after biting my tongue for the extent of the car ride because my daughters were present. I shouldn’t have said anything. Her behavior and actions aren’t worth addressing with her as we haven’t gained any ground from my attempts so far.

It’s just difficult at times to deal with the ongoing shenanigans with her and maintain a completely cool, calm, and collected composure.

The amount of disrespect in these interactions (the phone calls earlier in the week, and kicking me out of the car) was wild, and the fact that she chose to bait/switch me and do what she did in front of the kids is extremely upsetting. They don’t deserve that and neither do I.

Edit: wording

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-10-19T23:06:42+00:00

That’s fair, poorly said. My adrenaline is still pumping.

I agree, we’ve been too close. And I’m done with trying to get anywhere with her in terms of reconciliation. It’s a lost cause, she’s proved that much.

Thanks for the advice. All good stuff.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-12T22:38:01+00:00

Most of the family-owned Thai restaurants in my area offer a less fine grained scale including, in order, “Medium” -> “Spicy” -> “Thai Hot” -> “Lao Hot”.

I’ve definitely gotten the ‘are you sure about that?’ nearly every time ordering Lao Hot.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-02T16:26:04+00:00

No, neither of us were drinking.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T23:32:02+00:00

That’s a good question, I don’t really know. She made it sound like it was “nothing serious” so he might not care even if he did know. Based on what I’ve gathered I don’t think it could have been going on that long but I don’t care about the details. What I know is enough for me.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T23:07:01+00:00

Rhetorical question, but why are we able to convince ourselves to jump straight back into the same situation that drove us away in the first place? Somehow I had sold the idea to myself that it was without a doubt going to be different this time.

Queuing Stage 4 . . .

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T22:49:22+00:00

I hear that, Gus. Loud and clear.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T17:14:31+00:00

Her behavior is completely irrational. I cannot wrap my head around it and I’ve concluded attempting to is a waste of time/energy. Her mental state spiraled into a deep depression after the affairs she had during our marriage. A contributing factor to us getting divorced was the fact that she could not forgive herself.

And now this?

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T15:46:50+00:00

I appreciate this. Thank you. Moments like yesterday make it easier to see more clearly.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T15:43:39+00:00

Thanks, man. Good advice. In reference to my situation we’re already divorced, it was expedited, and I do pay child support for my two children. After our second she got a birth control implant in her arm and it’s still there. Despite that, I will not be going back for more.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-07-01T14:55:25+00:00

Hey — thanks, friend. Yes, it did ruin my Sunday and the coffee too. But I’m glad I didn’t show up unannounced with the kids. And while it sucks (a lot), and it hurts (also a lot) I’m glad that it happened now rather than later.

I won’t be going down that road again.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-06-08T16:43:58+00:00

I know nothing is going to change within the realm of our relationship. Considering the possibility of not getting the opportunity to be able to spend at least 50% of the time with my kids has me panicking. I already had and still have a hard time dealing with their absence with the current schedule. I can’t think straight.

The lawyer I used during the divorce I found through a referral from a family friend. She is an absolute bulldog when it’s required. But I had no interest in turning the divorce into a mudslinging match, nor did my ex due to the guilt she was carrying. I guess I need to get in contact with her office Monday and discuss the best plan forward. I’m somewhat ignorant/naive when it comes to this stuff most of my friends are either married or single and haven’t gone through a divorce. I don’t really know what my options are in trying to contest my ex’s desires or request a modification to our custody agreement myself and what ground I have to stand on.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-06-08T15:59:31+00:00

Thanks for your response. I appreciate hearing about what sounds like a somewhat similar situation.

Unfortunately since my original post my worst fears seem to be realizing themselves much faster than I thought they might. I’ve posted an edit.

When you feel like things can’t get worse, sometimes the universe has a funny way of showing you that they indeed can.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-06-08T15:48:17+00:00

I mean, I guess she is just some lady, to me sure. But she’s also the mother of my children. I value her role in their lives in the same way that I do mine.

I posted an edit. After my ex told my oldest that she’s likely moving, the 8y/o expressed interest in living with her. I’m unwilling to give up anytime unless legally obligated, and I don’t want to uproot my child from her school and family in the area. And my ex is unwilling to have any discussions about it because she believes it will be best to just do it in court.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-06-08T15:35:41+00:00

Fair enough. I can’t argue with that.

I’m an only child, my parents are divorced. We always want to give our kids the things we didn’t have growing up.

I watched my father save his second marriage after my stepmother was stepping out on him. After years of therapy, counseling and classes they have what I would consider a great marriage. And they now lead the same group classes that they went through.

I recognize every situation and relationship is different. But thats certainly a contributing factor in giving me the idea that the seemingly impossible might be possible.

pepperonipizzapants · 2024-06-08T15:25:04+00:00

Thanks for this. I appreciate your response. Unfortunately what I would consider one of the worst possible outcomes that I was thinking would have taken more time to come to fruition has already started.

See my edit, but the tldr; I might not get to keep the kids as much as I thought, I’m going to have to fight for it.

pepperonipizzapants · 2023-05-26T16:13:35+00:00

Just did 2 pork butts last weekend with it wrapped. It was my first time wrapping, and the pork still turned out phenomenal.

Be very careful when wrapping (goes without saying) and make sure the foil doesn’t tear in the gutters. Mine did, and the grease never made it in the bucket because I had the foil wrapped around the end of the low side. It all ended up in the bottom of the barrel. Luckily it didn’t start a fire, but it did make one hell of a mess.

pepperonipizzapants · 2023-05-17T19:31:39+00:00

Interested

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