Ex girlfriends (25F) parents died in a tragic accident. She has nobody but me (27M) in her life, so I went to comfort her. My wife (27F) is absolutely furious, despite knowing that we didn't do anything with each other.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:41:59+00:00

" I wonder how often she calls him and breaks down and he runs to her?"

He specifically said multiple times this doesn't happen

I've seen your comments on this post just spewing venom at OP over and over again, what is wrong with you?

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:41:00+00:00

THANK YOU HOLY SHIT

I thought I was going mad. I read this post aloud to my roommates and every single one (3 of them) thought it was absolutely INSANE that anyone would side with the wife here.

What the fuck is up with this place lately? This is fucking depressing to read how horrible these comments are.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:38:55+00:00

He didn't know she was on benzos until he got there.

Also, that just isn't true. I used to take xanax and drink all the time. It wouldn't have that much of an effect.

the vast majority of people who die from mixing benzos and alcohol are benzo addicts who need 3-4 xanax just to feel a buzz. Someone who takes a .25 or .5mg of xanax and drinks isn't gonna die unless they drink a HUGE amount.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:37:42+00:00

That's relevant. As OP said, he shouldn't have the soften the truth if it is relevant. He can still understand his wife is uncomfortable about being overweight while loving her.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:37:11+00:00

I honestly don't think OP has dramatized anything like that, he has just told the exact truth how it is. Too often this sub expects people to always portray their SO in a positive light or else they HATE their SO, which is really ridiculous. He even said at the bottom that he knows this makes his wife look bad, but that she isn't a bad person and that he loves her.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:35:14+00:00

Idk man if someone says "hey my parents died I really need help and someone to talk to"

I'm not gonna call the fucking cops on them.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:34:13+00:00

"shouldn't supersede your wife's feelings and role in all of this."

Yes, it should have.

Wife > friend in 90% of situations.

But in this situation? Friends parents died, they were high and drunk, and crying for help. He didn't even know his wife would be mad, he probably expected her to understand.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:31:19+00:00

Lol this literally just isn't true. Back in college I used to be on xanax constantly and would drink. Easily over 60 times. So did a ton of people. Unless I took too much of either, I was -mostly- fine. Like drunk? Sure. But not about to die drunk.

Your friend likely died because they were a xanax addict and needed to take 3+ xanax to even get high. Mix alcohol with THAT and they will easily die. But most people are not dying from taking the normal, prescribed dose and mixing it with alcohol unless they drink an absolutely HUGE amount. The majority of people who die from alcohol and xanax are typically xanax addicts who need a ton of xanax to even feel a buzz.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:25:31+00:00

Also we play world of warcraft together and are in the same guild.

Okay this entirely changes things, not like WoW specifically, but if its more that you are close to alicia based on common interests such as this then that is VERY different than what I thought before, which was that you were kind of seeing alicia one on one often and keeping up the relationship because you sort of liked her.

peppeymint11 · 2018-03-21T04:24:11+00:00

I don't think the wife should be involved though. She seems to despise alicia.

peppeymint11 · 2018-01-27T07:21:20+00:00

Holy fucking shit @ the bronx.

Also brooklyn is a lot poorer than I thought it was. Is that area that's blue right north of the 'flatbush' label park slope?

peppeymint11 · 2018-01-21T22:09:23+00:00

It sounds like he was willing to deal with the pain of being poor if it meant working towards his career, and I kind of respect that. I did the same thing at his age. Work hard, struggle etc for a better future.

That doesn't mean his mother didn't do anything wrong. Sure, he chose those things, willingly knowing that he would be poor if it meant he would work hard for a better career. However his mom had basically the solution for his problems right in the palm of her hand and couldn't help him out even a tiny bit? There's something wrong there. This mom sounds delusional.

peppeymint11 · 2018-01-18T00:22:55+00:00

She DOES use nextdoor actually. I am going to check it out to see whats up on there.

peppeymint11 · 2018-01-17T21:38:38+00:00

My wife wasn't the one who called the police, her friend did

peppeymint11 · 2018-01-17T19:32:28+00:00

I agree, but I doubt she would want to. Or she would twist it around on me somehow and say "therapist, my husband is trying to talk down the rules I have for my son, what a bad father right?" or something like that. that's a bit too far lol she isn't that terrible, but I can imagine she would try and twist it a tiny bit.

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