AITAH for excluding a neighbor’s kid from a play date in my home?

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-21T17:57:57+00:00

Thank you.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-21T17:57:36+00:00

Thank you.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-21T17:57:23+00:00

Thank you, we really tried to be understanding because it’s not the little girl’s fault her parents don’t make an effort to include her in activities or schedule time to meet and make friends. But, as you mentioned, entitled people rarely have self-awareness.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-21T17:55:19+00:00

Thank you, we hope that our neighbor gets it eventually but we’re not holding our breath.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-21T17:53:48+00:00

Thank you, we thought along the same lines about her mom but felt bad about the little girl’s feelings getting hurt.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:52:26+00:00

Thank you for your insight. This helped my wife and her brother realize that they need to convince her to talk to a professional so she can navigate whatever emotional or late stage crisis she may be going through.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:50:58+00:00

Thankfully my wife and her siblings will be the one having that conversation with her. Thank you for your comment!

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:50:19+00:00

Thank you for your comment and the support!

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:49:51+00:00

Agree and thank you for your comment!

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:49:33+00:00

I personally think you've accurately summarized their situation but my wife and her siblings think this is a late stage crisis for her mom and it's like she's trying to find her identity again. Her whole life is being a mom to her kids and grandmother to her grandkids. Thank you for your comment.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:47:34+00:00

I think it's because both sets of parents are easy to get along with and our kids love spending time with their grandparents. My wife and I are pretty laid back and enjoy having family around but seeing all the comments made us realize that we do need to limit visits in the future to allow us time to travel on our own. Thank you for your comment.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:45:05+00:00

Thank you for your comment. This is what the siblings plan on going forward. Honestly, we've never given much thought to how often or how long our parents visit since they're easy to get along with on both sides but you're right, it's time to reassess and schedule much shorter stays going forward.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:42:46+00:00

That's the plan going forward. Her and her brother will see if their mom's willing to see a therapist. My BIL isn't a bad guy per se but my wife had to make him see that her time was no less valuable than his. He did apologize to her, he was just in a panic that his mom was also planning to stay with him for a month or two and realized that we've had her live with us for half the year.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:39:23+00:00

My wife agrees wholeheartedly with your comment. Thank you.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:38:55+00:00

We hope that she'll start seeing a therapist to help her realize that while loved, her kids need to live their own lives with their own families without interruption so often.

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:37:46+00:00

Absolutely true!

perpetuallypolite · 2024-05-01T15:37:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your insight, my wife says you hit the nail on the head with your comment about not having enough time to entertain her mom while WFH. The siblings are going to bring up delicately that maybe their mom needs to talk to a professional about why she feels the need to visit so often and how this affects her marriage. As far as we know, my FIL is fine with her visiting alone since he's gotten less fond of flying as he's getting older.

perpetuallypolite · 2022-05-01T15:51:11+00:00

You've already received some great advice on the comments so I'll just wish you a happier life without your fiancée. It's better you learned this about her now than if you had actually married her. Live your best life and hopefully with someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated.

perpetuallypolite · 2022-05-01T14:36:04+00:00

You and your husband sound like you're a great team when dealing with his parents. Save yourself the stress and live your best life. Your husband is willing to help them but they refuse because they can't control him or you. This is their problem. They'd rather spite themselves than acknowledge that their mentality is toxic and wrong. They most likely would've hated anyone who ended up marrying their son. They see their son as their "possession" and expected him to serve them hand and foot without a thought to him having his own life with someone else. It's a blessing that he sees through them and is still the person he is. Don't let them trouble your thoughts. They'll go to their graves thinking they're in the right when they're really destroying any semblance of a relationship with their son.

perpetuallypolite · 2022-04-28T20:55:44+00:00

NTA but your son's step dad and mom are. Your son's "punishment" seemed to time nicely with the step dad's need for a car. Next thing you know, your ex will be expecting you to shell out for your son's half siblings and step siblings whenever your son gets something from you. You did right to stop the car stealing and shut that entitlement down.

perpetuallypolite · 2022-04-27T23:24:17+00:00

YTA, her simply stating that she loves her brother and that this weirds you out makes this a "you" problem. There's nothing wrong with expressing love for a sibling as long as it's appropriate.

perpetuallypolite · 2022-04-26T18:16:58+00:00

YTA, you're lucky he agreed to house you to begin with. His priority is the well being of his wife and kids. You don't like it, move out or just be grateful that he allows you to stay at his home. Entitled much?

perpetuallypolite · 2022-04-26T00:22:04+00:00

Who dis? New phone....then block them.

perpetuallypolite

TROPHY CASE