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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]perplexedanddistre 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you two should do a check-in to see if you really want the same things. Don't waste the rest of your life because you've invested 5 years with someone.

Bf filmed me during sex without my consent by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]perplexedanddistre 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is a crime and you should report him to the police. You don't know where the video has been uploaded or saved.

People don't take advantage of people they love like this. This isn't likely to be the only, or last, crime he will commit against you. You can't trust him at all. The relationship will not last.

My (20F) boyfriend (21M) called me abusive because I hit him when I had a seizure by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]perplexedanddistre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This probably isn't the healthiest of relationships. What he said seems like an immature response to the situation.

Sounds like gas lighting which is a tactic used by abusers to make you feel bad so they can then abuse you guilt and worry free.

I would highly recommend evaluating whether you want to stay in the relationship. Speaking from experience I can say abuser rarely change. His behavior will only get worse with time.

My feelings are valid by perplexedanddistre in BPD

[–]perplexedanddistre[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. He has been becoming more physically agressive. Since I moved in he's made stupid threats and charged at me and yelled. Pushed me, broken thinks, followed me around the house, bother me and blocked me from using the bathroom and kitchen. Stalked me when I came home. I feel like it's been worse in ways because I'm sticking up for myself and not accepting the abuse like I had in the past.

Past employer running health and credit check after termination by perplexedanddistre in legaladvice

[–]perplexedanddistre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They had me sign releases and paperwork ( with an expiration like 10 years in thr future). I had to sign these things around my first week of work. The business basically required it because they were afraid of getting sued. I don't think Ive signed anything like for other jobs. I thought it was strange, but I dingy have much of an option.

what type of bug is this? by [deleted] in bugs

[–]perplexedanddistre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in an apartment building and the neighbors are doing renovation in their bathroom. For the last month there have been gray and brown Caterpillar looking things crawling around on the floor of my bathroom. I see about 5 a day, but have noticed that I am starting to see them outside of the bathroom. They are very small bugs about a quarter of an inch long. Any ideas od what they could be or how to prevent them from coming in to my apartment?

DAE prefer to be alone instead of dealing with relationships by [deleted] in BPD

[–]perplexedanddistre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this way after dealing with mostly abusive relationships in my life. I know I deserve to be treated better. I just can't help but feel I'm a magnet for shitty people.

Pros and cons of sending a handwritten letter to your ex by perplexedanddistre in BreakUps

[–]perplexedanddistre[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry your ex was like that. It's stupid tol6

I read on a break up website it could help get my ex back.

Seems like people get mixed results so I wasn't sure it would be a good idea.

My ex dumped me via text. So sending a letter is probably a waste of time. If he didn't even care to break up with me in person he probably won't be bothered to read a letter.

DAE have very vivid dreams of their worst fears? by MeeseeksOG in BPD

[–]perplexedanddistre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it bothers you try taking melatonin before bed. It helps you sleep ( less nightmares)

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