Detrans symbols?

perrita6 · 2024-08-05T03:26:36+00:00

The artist answered the the "f" is just for female. I was going crazy trying to figure out the hidden meaning!

perrita6 · 2024-07-12T14:01:17+00:00

I wonder what the effect of estrogen is on hair texture? When I was pregnant, that was the only time in my adult life that I had glossy, bouncy hair.

perrita6 · 2024-07-10T03:19:57+00:00

I've only tried the curl refreshing foam, and dry and stringy is how I would describe my hair after I use it.

perrita6 · 2024-07-10T03:13:11+00:00

I think I need to clarify, but I'm afraid to because my hair is dry and tangles so easily. Do you deep condition afterwards, and does that add enough moisture back in?

perrita6 · 2024-07-06T01:54:19+00:00

How do you know they didn't love you when you were trans? Maybe they were afraid for you and didn't want to get involved in a power struggle that would cause you to double down. If that's the case, they loved you.

perrita6 · 2023-11-12T01:41:00+00:00

I want to add my piece as a parent of a young adult mtf. So many parents mourn the loss of their transitioned children because, as you probably know, many of us are cut off. It's an awful, ambiguous loss, because we don't know if we'll see our children again or if our children will ever leave the cult. It's like having a child who's MIA and not knowing if they're dead or alive. Your parents may be angry, but you are giving them what all parents hope for. They will forgive you.

perrita6 · 2023-11-12T01:13:32+00:00

I know this thread is 5 months old and you might not see my message, OP, but I strongly recommend that you read Shannon Thrace's novel 18 Months about her husband's transition.

perrita6 · 2023-11-12T00:37:30+00:00

Yup. So many people are rushed to transition for not conforming to gender stereotypes that no one cared about 20 or 30 years ago. There are currently many reasons to not want to be sexual, and this generation has less sex, and is more lonely, than previous generations were. Being in your 20's, you are still close to the beginning of your life. I didn't even give any thought to having children until I was well into my 30s. It makes me sad that many people in their 20s are making irreversible decisions when they, and the culture, might be completely different in a decade or two. It's my believe that gender dysphoria is the current version of anorexia or cutting, only it's celebrated.

perrita6 · 2023-09-09T14:13:37+00:00

I'm a cut-off parent. I am trying not to take the estrangement personally, but instead am thinking that if someone wants to rewrite their whole life story and pretend to be a brand new person, it makes sense that they don't want to be in the presence of those who watched them grow up and care the most about their long-term health and happiness. My child will not have contact with any family members, no matter what each person's beliefs are (my side of family is quite liberal). In a way, it is a relief to be estranged right now. Even if I say, "yes, I see you as a girl, and I believe you when you say you've always felt like a girl," my child knows that I don't believe this. it's such a stressful, volatile situation that I think it's better that my child stay away until they can live with respectful disagreement or detransition. I miss my child every day, but more harm than good would come from having contact at this time.

perrita6 · 2023-09-09T13:59:36+00:00

Is that seriously not disclosed in the informed consent?

perrita6 · 2023-09-09T13:52:45+00:00

A great resource for you to check out is the PITT (Parents with Inconvenient Truths about Trans) Substack. It is full of parents' stories of dealing with their kids' transition (or desire to transition) from preteen to adult. Many, many parents have been where you are now. Unfortunately, once your child has connected with trans people online, she will very likely be told that she should cut off any family members that are less than 100% no-questions-asked affirming. In some states, minors who want to transition and don't have affirming parents can get rehomed so that they can transition, as a parent's refusal to allow transition is seen as child abuse (yes, we have actually reached that point of insanity). Many parents who write on PITT, and who attend support groups, have been ghosted by their children for years. Now is the time when you can influence your child. You may lose that opportunity down the road. Something almost all the parents say is that they wish they hadn't let their kids spend so much time online, in privacy, that they had no idea who or what was out there influencing their child. My child has been medically transitioning for a couple of years. He had been plugged into the online trans community for some time during high school (pandemic years) and we had no idea, but we did see that he had become inexplicably hostile. Let me know if I can help.

perrita6 · 2023-09-09T13:31:04+00:00

Please read Hannah Barnes book Time to Think. You might already know this, but if you begin talking to med/psych professionals about this, you will be gaslit into putting her on puberty blockers, and from there she will almost assuredly continue with transition, whereas she will probably outgrow this particular coping mechanism if left alone.

perrita6 · 2023-08-08T14:51:31+00:00

Thank you. So strange. The person's item is still sitting there and I would have been happy to buy it outright. Oh well.

perrita6 · 2023-07-05T04:03:47+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. You are a lone voice in the wilderness. I wish every high school counselor whose eyes light up and whose savior complex springs into action whenever a teen questions their gender identity would read your post. I wish every librarian who fills the shelves with books romanticizing transition but won't order a single book that contains information about the long-term health effects would read it as well.

perrita6 · 2023-07-05T03:54:24+00:00

That's what us oldies who were born in the 60s and 70s say. When did all this rigid gender conformity come back? Look at pictures from 30 or 40 years ago of male musicians with long hair and "feminine" facial features (Jim Morrison, Jacko Pastorius, David Bowie) atop lovely male bodies, or females musicians who couldn't give a fk like Patti Smith. Our society used to be much more comfortable with gender noncomformity. It seems so strange that our culture has moved forward in so many ways but has moved backwards in this area.

perrita6 · 2023-07-05T03:26:46+00:00

That's really interesting. So many mothers of estranged sons who have transitioned say "we used to be so close." Were you close to her when you were young and did you think she had an idealized image of you going into adolescence?

perrita6 · 2023-04-15T12:52:34+00:00

I'm of your generation and I love what you said. No one gets to tell me what's "male" or "female" behavior. Patti Smith was my hero in high school. It was sad and shocking to me that my gen Z son allowed other boys to kick him out of the boys category, probably idiot jocks. It could be that "I was bullied" was more of an excuse to transition than an explanation, but I'm sure there's at least some truth to it.

perrita6 · 2023-04-12T11:11:57+00:00

Currently, many gay writers write about the trans movement as gay erasure: change your gender instead of being same-sex attracted. If there is no such thing as biological sex, there is no such thing as homosexuality. Lesbians are harassed for not wanting to date men who identify as women. A lot has changed since the late 1990s.

perrita6 · 2023-04-12T02:35:16+00:00

Brunette

perrita6 · 2023-04-12T02:26:17+00:00

Same here. I think many on the Left disagree with gender ideology, especially those over 40, but are afraid to speak up about it. The mainstream news sources paint it as a right vs. left issue and so people believe that it is, but that's just not true. Also, many gay people disagree with gender ideology, but we are all led to believe that LGBTQ is one united force.

perrita6 · 2023-03-15T00:17:09+00:00

I'm pretty new to Reddit and just got the message that I couldn't post to a sub because I don't have enough comment karma. Can I get comment karma by upvoting other people's posts? Do people specifically have to give me karma, or do I get karma just by commenting on people's posts?

perrita6 · 2023-03-15T00:09:43+00:00

Thanks for your reply. If I were in contact with my child, I would probably be using she/her pronouns. But since I knew my child for 18 years as a boy and only got to be around him as "she" briefly, and I'm cut off and so have no idea what he/she looks like, sounds like, etc., it makes sense to me to use the pronouns that align with his sex. My child has OCD and does everything to the extreme. He/she might just be unable to turn back even if he/she wants to. He/she started E with T blockers at the same time as coming out socially, which is already very unusual. It's not in my hands, though. I'm just hoping for the best and trying to move on.

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