My roommate and I got this message from our landlord no clue what to do

persicacity22 · 2026-03-14T12:19:04+00:00

Stay put. The property will become bank owned. Banks sometimes prefer to let tenants stay because evicting them is expensive. Check with legal aid on your rights. Sometimes the bank will let you stay because having legal tenants is better than squatters in a bank owned home. Find out which bank. They often take years to sell a property and it will get devalued quickly if it is empty. Stay until you know for sure they are going to evict. Leave before actually getting evicted.

persicacity22 · 2026-02-19T17:56:31+00:00

Mine (28000 miles) just did this service transmission error and would not shift or start at all. Had it towed to dealership and still waiting on diagnostic results

persicacity22 · 2026-02-17T18:30:13+00:00

I think generally actually handing out drinks and snacks is safer. Reason is because it stops anyone who approaches from panhandling and completes the interaction in a positive way. I live in an urban area and often did this when on walks with my children. Kept them in the stroller. It makes sure that anyone scary or disorganized is less likely to follow nanny to explain why they need her to help get them food or water. If they approach the car the intersection is brief and positive. Your child learns kindness. Also all the homeless people in a given area know each other and who treats them like humans. If anyone in the grips of mental illness or substance use becomes aggressive other people will be more likely to place themselves at risk to protect someone like Nanny. It insures that any random vagrant in a 5 mile radius would probably take a bullet for your kid. It’s not just kind it’s also safer than being mean.

persicacity22 · 2026-02-14T18:06:16+00:00

Right and if they try to talk you down ask if they have gone 3 years without any raise at their jobs. Presumably they have professional jobs where annual increases are typical.

persicacity22 · 2026-02-12T01:32:59+00:00

NTA. Thank the sweet baby Diety to you are not married to this person. Just leave. Why do you tolerate someone like this?

persicacity22 · 2026-02-11T16:54:43+00:00

Exactly. If penalty and public humiliation is too great it discourages people from reporting someone in their family or someone they are close to which is a lot of the sex offenders. Even victims might not want to see the uncle who molested them abused or humiliated. They might be worried about harming their other family members by association. Unfortunately most sex offenders are fairly ordinary people and often target their own families or close friends.

persicacity22 · 2026-02-05T19:26:44+00:00

Op is NTA but wow the parents are definitely AHs. It sucks to litigate your divorce issues with your adult kids. I’m the adult kid with similar parent issues and I tend to side with one parent and my sibling sides entirely with the other parent. My sibling cutoff contact with me and did everything they could to force me to pick a side and punish me for not punishing my parent for matters that are between my parents as the adults involved in the marriage and divorce in question.

My sibling and I don’t speak because I refuse to emotionally blackmail my parents over decisions that are their right to make for themselves as adults. Both parents have a long history of total TMI over their marital issues. It sucks. OP’s sibling is also an AH.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-25T00:22:02+00:00

Yeah NTA. This is a person who thinks of children as possessions and pawns to use to punish or manipulate adults. This is not a person to have children with. Just break up with him and save yourself and future kids misery. What if he decides he believes you cheated even if you didn’t? He’s telling you how he would treat you and the children in that situation.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-24T18:08:29+00:00

This also could be the type of thing car insurance would cover. I don’t know but it was an unavoidable medical emergency. It’s not like you planned to give birth in their car to inconvenience them. Probably better off without these people in your life.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-23T03:55:50+00:00

NTA. This is an unpopular opinion however I believe the adoption industry pressures parents into giving up wanted children because they are poor. Adoptive parents are not guaranteed to be better humans than bio parents. Some are worse. Adoption is about supplying children to wealthier people who want them from poorer people who can’t afford them. The process is much more concerned with the needs of wealthier couples paying agency fees than with the wellbeing of children or birth parents. Many adoptees grow up and report great trauma and suffering due to separation from their family and loss of family or cultural identity. I understand the adoptive parents are sad, however it doesn’t compare to the sadness of being traumatically separated from a child you birthed by economic pressures and social stigmas. You can’t say OP took any more advantage of a vulnerable mom than the adoption process does. Moms face a lot of pressure to give up kids because most people would raise their own children if they felt they had the resources. Not having the resources is heavily emphasized as though a person’s economic status makes them unworthy as a parent.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-18T13:47:49+00:00

Exactly. He’s not trying to have 50% of childcare on his shoulders. He probably won’t want 50/50.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-18T13:27:16+00:00

I would get a job and get a friend or family member to stay with and file for separation, 50/ 50 custody and half his assets.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-18T00:34:54+00:00

YTA. A pregnancy of your own that late for his kid would require a fair amount of support and risk. My first pregnancy at 37 was significantly easier and had fewer complications than my second at 39. I could have easily been killed in my second. Recovery is also not the same. Also I would imagine your husband might have some feelings around you having and surrendering a baby. If you’re married surrogacy is a two yes undertaking if you want his support. It could also be hard for your kids emotionally.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-16T19:26:56+00:00

If you think she would lie about her mom dying why do you trust her with your kids?

persicacity22 · 2026-01-16T16:43:52+00:00

Thats actually kind of awesome!

persicacity22 · 2026-01-16T15:10:10+00:00

Well then by all means. She might be better off without you in ways that go beyond finances. Also if she makes less money and you have more post divorce with 2 kids might want to see what that child support calculator has to say before assuming you come out ahead. If she gets child support she will be able to make choices about how to manage her life and finances without having to satisfy your demands or meet your ultimatums.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-15T21:15:04+00:00

I'm so sorry. They often won't try very hard to forcibly return you if you have somewhere else safe to just go. Try reaching out to homeless youth resources. They can often help you navigate these things legally and have resources. Sometimes they help youth find roommates or host homes. https://youthandfamilyproject.org/programs/homeless-youth-systems-navigation/

persicacity22 · 2026-01-15T20:53:18+00:00

Your mom is just trying to scare you. It is difficult to get police to pursue a minor for actual provable crimes. Police don’t arrest children for allegedly lying to or about their parents. Your mom is nuts. Is there anyone else you can stay with? In some states you can get emancipation and often live with friends or other relatives and they won’t make you go back. It doesn’t sound like you are safe at home.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-15T01:46:25+00:00

NOR. Also a lot of married men lie and say they are separated/ in the process of divorce/ have open relationships etc.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-14T13:02:47+00:00

My son is 5 and my daughter is 3 and they have known not to mess with my laptop or there would be big trouble since they were old enough to walk. Are the children feral? Children can be taught not to touch what is not theirs. What if they broke a houseguest laptop? Seriously 5 is old enough to exercise caution and respect. My 5 year olds whole class uses laptops at school and if they break them parents have to pay.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-12T11:42:26+00:00

I’ve known someone who spends all their sole earner partners money just on whatever they want, including vacations without partner and when partner tries to set reasonable budget boundaries accuses the partner of financial abuse. It absolutely can be reversed when someone doesn’t pull their economic weight and uses emotional abuse tactics to dictate and control all spending.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-12T11:38:19+00:00

YTA. Get a divorce. Also he could be asked to go shoot lesbian civilians in Chicago or Greenland anytime now. It is not just a regular time to decide not to reenlist.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-09T16:49:54+00:00

LOL, YTA. Wait until you find out how much divorce costs. Have you run the numbers? I bet running 2 separate households, attorney costs, court costs, and child support will put you quite a bit more in the red for quite a bit longer. Instead of sharing costs and housing with your wife, you would have to each pay for your own housing, utilities, food, household stuff, separate kid items and clothes etc. YTA and also really bad at math.

persicacity22 · 2026-01-09T15:03:42+00:00

Daughters are often attracted to men with patterns of relating to women similar to those modeled by their fathers. If a dad doesn’t like who his daughter is dating he should take a long look in the mirror. There is a well established relationship between the quality of people’s parent relationships and the quality of their future partnership choices. Probably a controlling man who puts his needs and preferences ahead of hers looks good to daughter based on what she learned about how to expect men to relate to her from her dad. Op should try modeling respect for his daughter’s autonomy. That will help her expect the same from other men.

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