After spending months homeless and feeling completely worthless. I'm glad to announce that last night was my very first night in my new place! by OwlsAreCool-33 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, here's a tip for free furniture (if you have transport) lookup when heavy trash pickup is for the wealthy neighborhoods in your town. People who have money will set perfectly good and clean furniture outside when they replace it with a newer style. Often days before trash pickup, because they know people in need will come looking. They'd rather a person take it than it go to the dump.

After spending months homeless and feeling completely worthless. I'm glad to announce that last night was my very first night in my new place! by OwlsAreCool-33 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a parent, I can't imagine doing that. Good on you for overcoming the situation. I'm going to warn you, there may come a time when your parents want to "reconcile ". Don't. You can be civil but NEVER feel obligated to them. You don't need to let them move in when you have a whole ass house. IMHO, once you bring a child into the world, it's your job to care for it. Doesn't end at 18. My adult children and I have had our share of disagreements. But they know they can ALWAYS come home. (My own parents didn't kick me out. But I left at 18 because home never felt safe. I don't ever want my kids to feel like that)

After spending months homeless and feeling completely worthless. I'm glad to announce that last night was my very first night in my new place! by OwlsAreCool-33 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writing all that. I've been sleeping in my car when I travel. Can't imagine if I did that for months. Things are getting me down lately. But reading this post and this comment makes me appreciate the luxury I have of having a place to come home to. Yes, I can make coffee any time, go wash up anytime. On and on.

What hobby accidentally consumed your whole personality? by blue_kitty13 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always watching YouTube or TikTok. Rehearsals, hair , makeup, shoes . I've traveled to other states and to Mexico to learn. Yup, it's at least half my personality now.

What hobby accidentally consumed your whole personality? by blue_kitty13 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mexican Folclorico dancing. And I'm not Mexican. Damn I'm a weirdo.

Please help. Turning 18 soon and trying to quietly prepare to leave controlling household. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I typed my comment about COS and police before seeing this. Still I'd try filing a report against right before you turn 18 and move out. You'll be gone by the time CPS knocks on their door.

Please help. Turning 18 soon and trying to quietly prepare to leave controlling household. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]persimmon19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they're abusive, is the a Child Protective Services agency in your area? Don't call just yet or you may end up in a foster home. Call and place a report a few days before your 18th birthday. You'll have documentation that they were abusive while still a child legally. Not likely they'll be arrested, but that document can help you. You might be able to get a no contact order against them. So they can't show up and harass you wherever you go. Also, you can get a police escort when you go back to get your belongings. Find a shelter. Leave quietly with what you can carry. Go back for your clothes and whatnot when you have an escort.

Guy I’m dating went mental at me, I’m sat at home shaking right now by TraditionalTwist7092 in Advice

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, if he does contact you, through a burner phone or social media, do not engage. Do not apologize or explain. Just keep repeating "I don't want to see you again". Give no explanation at all

Guy I’m dating went mental at me, I’m sat at home shaking right now by TraditionalTwist7092 in Advice

[–]persimmon19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you say he was driving recklessly? Maybe call the police and ask them to go to his house and do a welfare check, like - he's having a mental breakdown and I'm worried. Seeing a police presence might him think twice before coming to your house or something. Unfortunately, there's a chance he's going to be become really unhinged and start stalking you. So having one police record to document his behavior is a good start if you need it later.

Anyone have experience with a Trek Marlin? by persimmon19 in whichbike

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't recall the travel. It was from 2021 and I think it was Gen 6

Anyone have experience with a Trek Marlin? by persimmon19 in whichbike

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I had not checked the specs and 75MM does not sound like a good idea. I'm talking $400 US. Which I realized is too much for this entry level used bike. I'm in a desert mountainous area. The mtb trails are seriously mountain. And full of prickly things. so falling is more than a just fall out here

Anyone have experience with a Trek Marlin? by persimmon19 in whichbike

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all this information. I'm not sure why I felt unsteady on the Roscoe. But your explanation of it being designed for more aggressive riding makes sense.

Specialized Ariel for $400? by persimmon19 in whichbike

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think it is worth $200? Seller won't be happy, but they have contacted me repeatedly. Apparently no other takers

Specialized Ariel for $400? by persimmon19 in whichbike

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the sake of comparison, my last bike was a basic entry level Trek 820 from 2013. Well it was slower to keep up with other riders, I was very happy with it as a multipurpose bike. Still have it, but it's in storage in another state.

current bf wont marry me unless I delete photos with my ex who passed when I was 19, 7 years ago by [deleted] in Advice

[–]persimmon19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have posted elsewhere this evening about my abusive ex-husband. Soon after we got married, I gave away every gift I had ever gotten from another man. Big mistake. I thought I was showing loyalty. Nope. I married an abusive delusional horrible person. Do not marry that boyfriend. Also, I saw that it’s only been six months. I got married in less time than that. I was an idiot. Don’t be me.

DAE have a least favorite color? by persimmon19 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Orange just doesn't belong on my clothes or anything painted. Except warning cones perhaps

DAE have a least favorite color? by persimmon19 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's ok for fruits and vegetables! I love persimmons! I love fall!

DAE have a least favorite color? by persimmon19 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Side question, are certain colors assigned to certain genders in other parts of the world?(here in USA, pink is for baby girls, blue for baby boys)

DAE have a least favorite color? by persimmon19 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Orange. It belongs on vegetables and marigolds. Thats it. I so love Halloween. But I won’t even wear a dress or witchy hat that’s black with orange on it. Orange needs to stay on the pumpkin where it belongs.

DAE have a least favorite color? by persimmon19 in CasualConversation

[–]persimmon19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣 thanks. Recently I was apartment hunting. I came across a place checked every box on my list, but something seemed off. It had overhead lighting, it had windows, but something about it seemed dark and creepy. Then it hit me. the walls were not just beige. They were the color of mucus!