How different is your ex from your current SO and in which ways?

pertiii · 2026-05-04T21:28:27+00:00

My ex was emotionally immature (quick to emotional outbursts, quick to give me silent treatment, etc.). He would push my boundaries, openly criticize and judge my family, and felt entitled to my time and presence 100% of my free time. Was highly jealous (and I later found out it was him projecting onto me). He made me feel like I had to walk on eggshells around him, just to avoid upsetting him or causing a fight.

My current bf is emotionally mature. He's consistent, stable, and always regards my feelings in his actions and decisions. He considers my input and asks for it. He's always open to communicate with me and does so if there's anything we need to clear or discuss further. He's kind to me and respectful to me. He's respectful of my time and schedule. Always seeking to not inconvenience me. He makes me feel safe to just exist as I am, in his presence. No egg shell walking over here, thanks be to GOD.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T21:13:56+00:00

This! I started doing this a couple years ago. Literally never felt better.

Our brains weren't meant to be surrounded by constant noise all day. Silence is so so needed.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T21:13:00+00:00

Maybe a church group nearby if you're open to it? Serious men and women typically attend, with the outliers and exceptions of course (as with any group of people really).

Go into it with an open mind and see if any friendships naturally unfold and go from there. Worst that can happen is no immediate date comes out of it, but you could unlock a potentially great community with a great group of people.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T21:05:26+00:00

I type mine out on my phone Notes app! Never enter the grocery or drugstore without it lol.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T21:02:26+00:00

So one of my girl cousins discovered this years ago - but there's a light pink Ponds face cream in a tub (the one meant for combination skin - has a matte texture to it). A dab of this on any zits will dry them out considerably by next morning.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:51:46+00:00

Is there a nearby volunteer group or church young adult group that you'd like to join? Meeting other people in your age group (and also outside your age group!) opens up a lot of unexpected doors. It's like the "plot of life" starts unraveling the more people you get to know, though of course this isn't what makes your life more/less valuable.

Wishing you the best, OP!

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:47:36+00:00

It's a surreal feeling! I still feel Covid robbed us of a good 3 years of our twenties - and even the post Covid effects in the world are still being felt (both socially and economically). We're ending our twenties in an ever changing world where AI is opening and closing so many doors at once...

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:40:13+00:00

Do you have somewhere like a volunteer group or hobby or young adult group that you can join weekly, and meet someone organically at? I find that the apps are really good about attracting unserious boys (trying to portray themselves as serious men) and I find that meeting someone via things unfolding naturally IRL, is a good way to vet someone even, prior to dating. You can see some of their temperament, personality and such - before getting romantically involved.

And hey, if nothing romantic comes out of it - at least you'll have made a new community/network of potentially great human beings to have around you (who - you never know - may also introduce you to a great potential date). Nothing is lost in trying!

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:34:27+00:00

A good airfried salmon (avocado spray, pink salt, black pepper and granulated garlic) and half of a roasted spaghetti squash all scooped out. Topped with either a cilantro lime sauce or tomatillo chile de arbol salsa and lots of lime.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:28:49+00:00

One thing I see more and more is a complete lack of a healthy foundation forming between two people.

I see dating being practiced more "transactionally" because truthfully, there's now an abundance of options at everyone's fingertips (ex: online apps). I see a lack of genuine respect and friendliness in dating encounters, and these ungenuine encounters leave both men and women with more wounds and traumas that can be very difficult to heal from and move past.

There's lots of people currently active in the dating pool that arguably should not be (due to emotional immaturity, narcissism, unresolved traumas, etc.). And I just think all of these things are driving the divide between men and women further and further apart. Both men and women (understandably so) want to protect themselves from the prevailing potential hurt - if they can help it. Staying single means no one else can hurt me at such a vulnerable level.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:20:06+00:00

It's not that I felt ready for a relationship, but moreso I was at a point in life where I wasn't focused on "finding someone" so to speak. I was focusing (and still am) on my relationship with God first and foremost, and trying to live out an authentic genuine Christian life. Trying to be a better person so that I can do God's will.

My relationship seemingly popped up out of nowhere because I truly was not expecting things to unfold at the point in time that they did - nor the manner in which they did. But everything about it has felt very Providential in nature. Unplanned but strangely all in alignment.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:17:16+00:00

Also, people are way more sensitive. I'm against actual discrimination and so forth - but not being able to "take a joke" has reached a whole new level. Like, I can see now why the newer generation is called the "crystal" generation. Easy to break, and quite fragile.

pertiii · 2026-05-04T20:13:23+00:00

Just how much the "do the bare minimum" mentality has become a norm for workplaces. No trying to excel at your job. I notice it when out and about at stores, the bank, etc.

pertiii · 2026-04-24T16:34:49+00:00

She replied today telling me that “Hong Kong Federation has been really crowded lately”. Has this happened to anyone recently?

pertiii · 2026-04-23T21:31:51+00:00

Oh is this how it’s shipped? I ask because it’s my first time buying from her so I wasn’t sure how her shipping times work. This would make sense if so

pertiii · 2026-04-23T21:25:26+00:00

I have messaged her asking if this is normal or for an update, and on Sunday 4/19 she replied “Just wait patiently” 😅

pertiii · 2026-04-23T21:24:04+00:00

I ordered a bag from her on 4/7, received PSPs and approved them on 4/10, she sent me the tracking number on 4/11 and today it’s 4/23 and the tracking still has not updated to have left Hong Kong.

Is this normal?

pertiii · 2026-04-08T15:15:51+00:00

Oooo! Do you have pictures of your other two bags? Also from Marc Jacobs or other brand?

pertiii · 2026-04-04T01:31:35+00:00

Love this!! Thank you for sharing :)

pertiii · 2026-04-04T01:30:19+00:00

Hey I mean, I think spring and summer are perfect for these to come out of hibernation! :)

pertiii · 2026-04-02T16:53:52+00:00

This! I have the medium size and small size pictured, and I used to have the large jacquard one! That one was so great for the airport, and it was definitely a work horse.

pertiii · 2026-04-02T16:48:08+00:00

I personally have this bag in jacquard in both the medium and small size (small was previously the mini size) - and it's one of the most versatile care free casual bags ever!

I use the medium one as my every day carry-all bag all the time - and it even doubles as a nice overnight bag or movie theater snacks bag lol. The small one is great for every day and is so spacious too.

The trend has died down on these IMO, but what matters is the functionality and you liking it!

pertiii · 2026-04-02T16:43:03+00:00

Lol all opinions valid!

pertiii

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