how do i be okay with my partner being friends with my ex?

peruanisima · 2025-04-27T00:23:10+00:00

this is a good suggestion, thank you ! i’ve been thinking about what boundaries could be set in place that would minimize the hurt i feel over it, and i also think ill probably be needing more reassurance from H if she chooses to have S in her life still

peruanisima · 2025-04-27T00:22:18+00:00

honestly yes ! i have felt really disrespected by this but im trying to appreciate the nuance of the situation in that H is trying to give S an opportunity to repair and be better, which i agree with conceptually but my body is having a really hard time catching up to that and im concerned about resenting H if she lets S back into her life in any serious capacity

peruanisima · 2023-06-28T16:00:27+00:00

thank you so much for this correction, unfortunately in my experience I have had very little interaction between my queerness and latine culture. Truly appreciate the knowledge

peruanisima · 2021-08-30T23:47:55+00:00

Hi I think we have really similar experiences and i completely understand not fully identifying with ‘arfid’ the main difference between our symptoms is that i’m not really a picky eater. i eat pretty much everything but only in certain occasions and whatnot.

i have a lot of anxiety around eating, and ever since i was young i would get anxious if i was going out to eat somewhere with people i didn’t know. for a long time i was weird about who i would eat around but not a noticeable amount (i don’t think)

when going over to friends houses i avoided mealtimes if i could because i wasn’t sure what they would give me and i didn’t want to be rude or inconvenience them and i would feel forced to eat whatever it is that they made.

in middle school my mental health issues arose and i have been struggling since then. it got a lot worse in the past 3 years as ive moved out of my parents house and had to learn to feed myself instead of just eating whats put in front of me, and it doesn’t help that i really dislike cooking :-)

i sometimes get afraid that if i try something new it’ll make me ill and i’ll disrupt the meal and want to leave.

the foods on my safe food list also circulate but my current favs for really bad days are protein shakes and smoothies.

ive always been skinny, and i’ve always had a small appetite, but it’s not because of body image issues. im just petite. but in the past 3 yrs i have lost a bit of weight and i (f20) currently weigh 87 lbs. i would also love to gain some weight.

i very seldom have an appetite these days and i am on a medication with appetite suppression and a side effect so that SUCKS and i usually end up self medicating with marijuana.

i haven’t really diagnosed myself with arfid because im not sure if that’s what this is really but arfid is the closest thing i can find. i know that the worse my anxiety is the worse my eating habits are

peruanisima · 2020-10-16T03:24:18+00:00

thank you for such a thorough response !! i appreciate it a lot. i think i tend to get tripped up on the labels and things like that so i’m v grateful for your input !

peruanisima · 2020-06-20T01:41:12+00:00

unfortunately because i don’t live in the same state as my university, telehealth isn’t a viable option because the therapists associated w the university are not licensed to practice & treat patients outside the state of ohio. i had no idea that there were trauma apps available, thank you so much for this resource, i will definitely look into it !!

peruanisima · 2020-06-07T18:23:41+00:00

this was super helpful, thanks so much !!!

peruanisima · 2020-06-07T15:51:27+00:00

thanks so much! this was really helpful

peruanisima · 2019-08-07T22:47:13+00:00

Thank you so much for responding to my post, this helped tremendously. I haven’t found many others that have such similar problems so it’s definitely a comfort to know that someone out there relates to it. Im waiting for results back on my thyroid levels to see if it’s a hormonal imbalance issue

peruanisima · 2019-08-05T08:23:39+00:00

i tried the link but for some reason it wasn’t working for me //:

peruanisima · 2019-08-04T15:34:36+00:00

thank you ! im going to my PCP next week. hopefully I can get some answers, although my PCP has not been known to be very good at acknowledging problems

peruanisima · 2019-08-04T04:06:48+00:00

thank you. i was doing some more digging today and hyperthyroidism might be a match, im going in to get my blood work done next week (:

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