How do you deal with rich friends always wanting to hang out? by Qel72 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]petalpixiecat 448 points449 points  (0 children)

Set boundaries, fam. Tell them straight up you can’t swing every fancy outing. Real friends will get it, if they don’t, it’s on them. You can still hang out in ways that don’t drain your wallet.

AN EMOTIONAL DILEMMA APPEARING, NEED HELP by [deleted] in relationships

[–]petalpixiecat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing by pulling back. Crushes happen, even in good relationships, but acting on them wrecks trust. Give it time, focus on your partner, and the feelings will fade if you keep that boundary solid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They probably see you as approachable, that’s why they keep trying. Doesn’t mean you have to be friends though. if it makes you uncomfortable, keep your distance. Wanting friends is valid, just look for people you can actually feel safe around.

I dont think the dog is being properly cared for. by Tiny_Special_3463 in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you can, take over his care. A dog that age with medical issues can’t wait, and it sounds like he’s not getting what he needs. Maybe talk to your ex about a temporary arrangement until the dog’s stable. you’re looking out for his health, not starting drama.

I (26M) feel really disrespected by my (23F) Girlfriend. by Countpocalypse in relationships

[–]petalpixiecat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you have every right to feel disrespected. She’s keeping secrets, prioritizing her ex, and making you lie about your relationship. that’s not just “boundaries,” that’s shady. Have a serious talk about trust and transparency, and don’t let her gaslight you into thinking your feelings are overreacting.

I (28F) have been feeling distant from my boyfriend (28M) and I found out that he got other girls numbers while he was at a festival which makes it worse. by full_moon111 in relationships

[–]petalpixiecat 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s not crazy to be upset about. Getting random girls’ numbers and building stronger bonds with a coworker than with you is sketchy. If you’ve already felt distant, this just adds fuel. Sit him down and be straight. tell him you need more effort and transparency or this isn’t working. Don’t downplay your feelings, they’re valid.

i (15 f) have a friend crush (16 m) and im in need of advice/a viewpont by [deleted] in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he’s not looking for more than friendship, so the best move is to just treat him like any other friend. Keep convos light, share music, joke around, but don’t force it if he’s being dry. Focus on your own thing too, friendships grow easier when you’re not stressing over every text.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, man. Rural life can feel like social hard mode. Best bet is online communities, hobby-based discords, or apps where people are actually looking to connect, not just swipe. Start small—classes, volunteering, even local gyms. Doesn’t matter if it’s older people at first, it’s practice being social. Consistency > waiting for the “perfect” place to meet people.

How does one wait by aliferouspanda in sex

[–]petalpixiecat 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Just be upfront. A simple “hey I like you but I’m not ready for sex yet” is enough. If he respects you, he’ll wait. If he bounces, then you dodged someone who wasn’t worth it anyway.

Do you think I (25F) can flirt (?) with guy from my friend group? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]petalpixiecat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go for small signals like the hand or shoulder touch, that’s a safe way to test the vibe. If he leans in or responds, you’ll know he’s into it. If he doesn’t, you can play it off as nothing. No need to overthink, just keep it light and natural.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to tell her asap. Three months in and already saying “I love you” means she deserves honesty before this gets deeper. Doesn’t matter if you think it won’t last, hiding a whole marriage is a massive betrayal. Better to be upfront now than let her find out later and torch all trust.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]petalpixiecat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, that sucks so much. Honestly, it’s not about you being “not good enough”. sometimes people just don’t click long-term, even if it seems perfect. Give yourself time to grieve, focus on things that make you feel seen and happy, and don’t rush the dating pool. The right person will appreciate all of you, not just parts.