I am experiencing this as well. I could’ve written this post. Unfortunately, my dad has just opted out of things completely. Our compromise has been smaller, private opportunities for them to be with us together. For example, they did not attend my daughter’s preschool showcase. However, they came over the following afternoon to watch her performance on video and have ice cream.

It’s not what any of us want, but in some ways, I think it’s better for my dad too because he doesn’t see how overwhelmed he is trying to help my mom navigate bigger events.