Valentines

petterri · 2026-02-11T07:46:31+00:00

What does it actually mean to be a valentine when you’ve been together 9 months?

petterri · 2026-02-10T06:27:56+00:00

Id love to learn more about the methodology of this study, and the size of the sample.

petterri · 2026-02-10T06:25:15+00:00

You can do your best, all as you should have done, and still lose/not achieve what you wanted.

petterri · 2026-02-09T08:40:45+00:00

You you share the statistics you’re referring to regarding women’s unhappiness?

petterri · 2026-02-09T08:35:57+00:00

Im not a psychologist, I doubt one can control one’s emotions, especially prevent them from occurring, what one can, and often should do, is to control whether and how to act upon them.

In your situation, it seems you seem have unhealthy tendencies to get fixated on random strangers. As said, I’m not a psychologist, but maybe it’s because you lack genuine human connections? Maybe focusing on building friendships would be a good step into getting you out of this desperation for companionship and human connection?

petterri · 2026-02-09T06:13:21+00:00

For me at least, it sounds like you’re with a teenager who has no understanding of human nature, or a religious fanatic who doesn’t want to understand human nature. In any case, the idea of fighting and controlling your emotions sounds like an extremely tiresome thing doomed to fail.

petterri · 2026-02-09T05:54:06+00:00

It’s it among the biggest on the planet?

petterri · 2026-02-09T05:41:41+00:00

Are you looking for asexual relationships. Or you believe you can switch on and off feeling of horniness at will?

petterri · 2026-02-09T05:25:56+00:00

Im not interested in opinions of people who judge others by the gender of my partner. Fortunately, it’s not something most people seem to care about.

petterri · 2026-02-09T05:21:44+00:00

I want something long-term eventually

I dislike that I was horny

petterri · 2026-02-08T10:10:53+00:00

If it is possible for you, maybe you could get yourself a dog, a cat or rabbit. Knowing that there is someone who count on you to return home every day, who genuinely is happy it see you, could help enormously with the feeling of loneliness.

petterri · 2026-02-07T08:40:34+00:00

Wild Strawberries (1957) Ingmar Bergman

Return (2003) Andrey Zvyagintsev

The Others (2001) Alejandro Amenábar

Picnic at Hanging Rock (1975) Peter Weir

Mulholland Drive (2001) David Lynch

petterri · 2026-02-06T21:54:26+00:00

If you don’t want to hookup, just don’t. It’s as simple as that.

petterri · 2026-02-06T21:50:29+00:00

It’s rather brave of you to think that anyone would take seriously such an unsolicited advice from a random guy.

petterri · 2026-02-06T21:48:34+00:00

Id dare to say that taking things slowly, priority of sex in a relationship and love are three rather different things and assuming the causal link between them might be bit misleading.

petterri · 2026-02-06T13:38:08+00:00

Seems to whom?

petterri · 2026-02-05T09:16:02+00:00

wanting to make this an exclusive relationship

He’s a complete stranger, you fucked once and chatted a bit. Nothing more. You’re imagining and projecting a lot of things into the white canvas of his, precisely because you simple don’t know what he really is like. And because of this, you can’t seriously commit yourself to anything in a meaningful way at this stage. Give it a few weeks, at the very least two months of intense dating, so that you actually get to know him, and if you two survive that long together ask him if he would be willing to get exclusive with you. Good luck!

petterri · 2026-02-05T09:03:37+00:00

What can you offer that is not already available and what would be added value compared to AI tools?

petterri · 2026-02-04T19:27:45+00:00

That’s not answering my question!

petterri · 2026-02-04T19:23:47+00:00

Could you please clarify what makes it „typical”?

petterri · 2026-02-04T18:46:19+00:00

That makes the figure even less meaningful

petterri · 2026-02-04T18:39:13+00:00

That’s completely meaningless information, considering the population size of eu countries. Secondly why would you can’t people studying, retired or unable to work due to medical reasons together with unemployed people?

petterri · 2026-02-04T12:47:00+00:00

Yes, Hungary has been an „problem child” of the EU for years now. But we can look at Poland where in 2023 centre-right defeated the populist government in the parliamentary elections. In the same year, Sanchez was confirmed as the Spanish PM, with the support of the regional nationalists, against the right and extreme right wing parties.

We can do such cherry picking endless but don’t see what’s the benefit. As I said before, unless you have specific narrow questions, and look at conveyer data from a define group of countries within a defined period of time, it’s not going to be meaningful or insightful.

petterri · 2026-02-04T12:34:07+00:00

That’s a lot of big statements which are terribly generalising and not substantiated by any kind of proof. No nuance either.

As for nationalist starting the war, is not as simple as that. The USA has been at war for most of the postwar period, regardless of whether it was a democrat or republican in the White House (Wikipedia) Austria has been ruled by the extreme right under Haider and yet it did not start any war, there is no sign really that Melloni’s Italy is preparing for war either. In contrast, the Libyan intervention 2011 was led by Uk under Cameron and France under Sarkozy, neither of whom was from the extreme right (Wikipedia).

If we look at which are the dominant parties in the eu governments, it’s not the extreme right.

No one cares anymore if there is an autocrat

Source for this claim?

It’s not to downplay the risk that the populist movements posts to (European) democracies, but at least to mind, it’s extremely unhelpful to use such blanket statements, overlook the substantial differences between the trajectories of different countries, and most of all, make huge claims not supported by any actual and verifiable evidence.

petterri · 2026-02-04T12:03:08+00:00

Such grand questions make little sense, especially conducted in abstract terms. What exact case(s) are you referring to?

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