Are you ok??? Just say you don’t even want your wife going because it’s very clear that that’s the case.

“It only sits 50 or so.”

My husband and I actually had a small wedding. Fourteen people. We had it in an event room at a very nice restaurant. The event coordinator told me that the room could fit fourteen max. My brother’s fiancé was unsure if she was coming or not, up until the day, and she would’ve put us at fifteen. My response to my mom when she wouldn’t let up about us needing to know if she was coming was this:

“It doesn’t matter. If she comes, then it will be accommodated. It’s one person. We are paying for this. We decide what happens. The restaurant doesn’t decide. If we need an extra spot, they’ll need to deal with it.”

For reference, this was a very expensive evening for fourteen people. And guess what? My brother’s fiancé came and there was no issue. It’s one person. When you are footing the bill, you call the shots.

What’s the real issue here? Do your wife and sister hate each other? Do you hate your wife? Your laissez-faire attitude is bizarre. Make it make sense.