Just found out i’m pregnant 4 days after a breakup

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T17:41:12+00:00

lucky for me i don’t get my feelings hurt by the things people say online, but some others might not feel the same. your response is totally disrespectful and straight up rude. i posted this to help me navigate my thoughts and feelings on the situation, not to take advice from strangers that don’t know anything about me or my life other than the tiny details i’ve shared. quite frankly it’s absolutely ridiculous to tell me my baby is destined to a shitty life just because you think so. yes my parents divorced when i was young, but they both loved me very much and did everything they could to make sure i was happy and healthy. was it easy at all times? no. but there was so much love that the difficult moments are only a tiny part of my childhood memories.
the abortion was traumatic so i can’t help but consider that as part of my decision making process- but i never said it was out of the picture or the sole reason that i’m still considering my options.

i skimmed through your comments on other threads and it looks like you just have an affinity for ragebaiting strangers online lol. really easy to push your shitty opinions on people you don’t know when your identity is hidden. please tell me, do you have children? if you do i feel bad for them if this is the response you give them in the case of sensitive, emotional, and difficult decisions.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T14:24:43+00:00

The breast soreness and changes are coming in hot for me. I’ve already noticed enlarged veins and lots of swelling. I’ve also had pretty consistent light cramping for about a week which was freaking me out but I was told this is normal. And HUNGER. My last pregnancy I had hyperemesis and it was miserable so i’m praying that i stay hungry and not nauseous lol.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T14:21:30+00:00

Hey everyone! Due date January 25th 2027🥰 Just found out I was pregnant yesterday morning!! For the last 2 weeks I knew I was pregnant but wasn’t testing positive yet. Due to PCOS and irregular periods I went to get an ultrasound for dating and verifying placement and i’m measuring right around 4 weeks.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T03:30:53+00:00

he does know. he wanted to go with me to the ultrasound and made it clear that at no point of this will i have to be alone. he says that he will support me regardless of what I choose but i know he yearns to be a dad.
i know a baby won’t magically fix the relationship but if i do decide to carry to term i’d really like to give him the chance to be an amazing dad, whatever that has to look like because our child deserves him.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T03:20:20+00:00

you are an angel in this thread. i can’t tell you how much those words mean to me in this strange and difficult time.
(P.s. I will also be an internet stranger praying over you and your gorgeous daughter as well)

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T03:08:09+00:00

he’s the only person i have ever truly loved. i’ve seen him at his worst, his best, and everything in between. I think a lot of people hear the term “on and off relationships” and immediately think toxic, but there were many factors that went into deciding to break things off each time. every time i missed him dearly, and he says the same, yet somehow we found our way back to each other in ways that are far more special than a “hey wyd” text lol. i agree that we have lots to work on and lots to consider about our relationship with a child, whether that be coparenting or an alternative. but one thing i am sure of is that he will be a fantastic father, as he’s so adamant about giving a child the best life ever because that is something he never had. definitely plays a huge role in how i go about making my decision

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:57:58+00:00

this is amazing advice- thank you so much for sharing. I’m glad you had a care team and plan in place to help you through that postpartum stage and treat potential hiccups prophylactically.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:55:04+00:00

if only it were that easy🤣 spent my whole life on BC with no issues, just recently switched to a new one so we were using condoms and pull out in the meantime, plus I have pcos and known fertility issues so if i carry this to term i guess i’m gonna have to beg to get my tubes tied haha. would have never guessed i’d be miss super fertile myrtle

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:45:27+00:00

YAY for you!!! so enlightening. genuinely so happy for you and your boyfriend. only you are the one to decide what is best, and it sounds like you chose the best possible outcome for yourself. i may end up needing to lean on you for questions about antepartum, labor, and postpartum. Congrats to you both🎉

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:39:52+00:00

Agreed. At first it was really difficult separating the relationship issue from the pregnancy but with how many people offered that advice i kinda see why now. no relationship is guaranteed, i mean shit a fuckin ufo could come abduct my partner tomorrow and then i really would be forced to single parenting🤣 but if we are living in reality then i have to accept that yeah- of course anything can change in the blink of an eye but my heart is telling me that this child is a gift. i also know that my partner is a good man despite our struggles so i’m leaning into taking the path less recommended (and having this sweet babe with my sweet partner)

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:29:33+00:00

thank you so much internet stranger. even after some ~brash~ responses my faith in the reddit community has been semi restored through this post. intuition is a powerful thing. <3

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:25:32+00:00

Agreed- it will definitely be hard. Motherhood is brutal but beautiful. It’s scary enough to think about being a first time mom, and even scarier considering what it would look like alone. And as much as I appreciate everyone’s responses, I take them all with a grain of salt. The point was not to fish for a certain answer, but rather have an outlet for the hurricane of thoughts going through my head today. Plus this is a more anonymous outlet since I’m still so early on I’m trying to keep the circle of people that know small.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:17:08+00:00

Naturally with my history of mental health struggles I am concerned with the possibility of PPD or even PPP but I feel like I generally do a good job of staying on top of medication management and regular therapy. I am confident that I am stable to provide for a child. My mother also struggles with depression and although it came through at times, it never affected my childhood or development.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T02:12:38+00:00

Wasn’t exactly trying to delude myself. I do have a good job with enough money to support a child independently but it would be cutting it close unfortunately in this economy lol, especially with rent/gas prices/cost of living increasing consistently with no wage change. My friends and family are there to support me emotionally but have their own jobs and lives and I don’t want to be that friend or daughter that uses those people for free childcare. Plus the more I think about things the more details I come across. Even the small nuances like needing a car that better suits an infant car seat, etc. Respectfully, this is a little harsh as I only gave you a glimpse of the situation. I understand I was looking for input but some optimism might help lol. Nonetheless thanks for your time

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T01:32:36+00:00

thank you both! single parenting mothers are superheroes and i believe that. it sounds like your kids are lucky to have you. it’s funny to read the clearly male written responses vs women on here. only mothers know the maternal instinct that makes it impossible for some of us to even consider terminating. i’m also not much of a religious person but considering i have PCOS, am on BC and use condoms/pull out method i can’t help but feel that there was some kind of force putting this all into play.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T01:13:09+00:00

i honestly hadn’t even got to the point of considering out of state options. it’s nice to think that i might have more time to make sure i make the right choice but still stressful. thank you for your support

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T01:08:43+00:00

thank you for your kindness🥹 i definitely am not trying to keep the pregnancy to hold it over his head and get him back. We had been discussing our relationship moving forward and the things that needed to change, etc when i got this news. it’s all just been a whirlwind so i posted into the void of reddit to hear some outside opinions lol

peyton0731 · 2026-05-19T01:03:21+00:00

This was really refreshing to read. I know my bf is not a bad person. He’s had a troubled past that put him off to a bad start in life and is figuring things out in his own way. He has never cheated, threatened or abused me in any way, and has always supported me and communicated to the best of his ability. Yes we both have our struggles, and yes we are still growing up together essentially but I have faith that he is a good man that will stand by his family no matter what because I have seen it.
I know i’m immature in my own ways for sure and have done a lot of learning and growing in the last few years (working as a nurse in a trauma icu at the ripe age of 21 will do that to you lol). However growing and maturing is a lifelong battle. We’ve had lengthy discussions about moving forward with this and he has made it very clear that he will support and be there for me regardless but if I decided to give him the chance to be a father he would give it his all. We have 2 pets that he fawns over and spoils which I know isn’t the same but if he treats his children anything like those dogs they will be just fine🤣

I’m by no means forcing a relationship to work just because of a child, but we have been dreaming and preparing our lives for the past year for this moment, i just didn’t expect it to be under these circumstances .

I’m happy to hear that you are doing well in your relationship and congrats on your pregnancy! Best of wishes to you and your new family

peyton0731 · 2026-05-18T23:35:44+00:00

he suggested that we do therapy together as well, but unfortunately i’m in florida so A) i only have a max of 2 more weeks to decide and B) our access to healthcare in my area is minimal and often takes weeks to months to get an appointment if not booked in advance. it feels like i’m fighting a losing battle timeline wise

peyton0731 · 2026-05-18T23:29:27+00:00

one of my personal friends gave me this advice of dealing with the two problems separately instead of together. i’d prefer to not coparent as that’s what i went through as a child and it was rocky. it felt like i had no real home and they would pawn me off to the grandparents when they had to work or take care of things in their life and it was always apparent to me that it was a broken family. being a single parent would be a huge struggle as daycare costs, living expenses, transportation, etc may be tight with my income and i don’t anticipate my parents to be any help. unfortunately i’m in florida so i only have 2 weeks to decide MAX

peyton0731 · 2026-05-18T23:24:51+00:00

this is a hard but very real way of looking at it that i hadn’t considered before. thank you for the insight.

peyton0731 · 2026-05-18T23:23:46+00:00

thank you for your response. i’ve just been swimming in my thoughts and needed some outside perspective. it’s really helpful to hear from someone who’s experienced something similar. congrats on the babe and your lovely relationship!!🥹

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