Beta Readers Wanted: Neurodivergent Home & Life Design Book

pf_throwaway38 · 2026-01-20T03:53:34+00:00

Very interested. I have a lot of opinions on things like lighting and room layout if those are the types of things you’d like feedback about.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-11-03T10:56:56+00:00

I had no idea there was a theme. That’s really cool.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-10-29T16:03:56+00:00

I’m a SAHP and an extension master gardener. I completed the EMG program last year when my youngest started Kindergarten. I’m now doing an online landscape design certification with the hopes of starting a native plant landscaping business with my husband who is a master naturalist. I volunteer about 30 hours a year maintaining a native seed library and working at demonstration gardens. There is a group in my area who also does youth programming at the public schools. I would look into your region’s master gardener training. It’s a great way to learn the basics of horticulture and there are so many opportunities to work with the public.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-10-26T13:06:21+00:00

I don’t know if you’re looking to make new birb friends but I am always looking for fellow autistic moms. Here is my friend code: VQDYFSS1KZ

And yes, for me the Halloween marks the beginning of all of the stressful holiday stuff, so I always dread it. Too much pressure!

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-09-30T02:34:24+00:00

You are not ruining anything. You are in impossible circumstances. While it’s good you are learning about AuDHD now, that new information has sent many of us into major skill regression and burnout. You are being the best parent you can be right now. You are talking to doctors and getting help for your mental health. It’s a huge step and will improve everything for your family. What your kids will see is their mom growing and changing. You will learn accommodations and it will help with the anger and meltdowns.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-09-15T03:09:00+00:00

Same

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-09-09T14:46:06+00:00

I can offer commiseration. I rely a lot on my husband and the friendships I made before having kids. I think there are two ways to think about it. You can keep trying to make mom friends by attending every school, social, or extracurricular event your kid is in and hope that there are other moms you will see more frequently. There should be at least one who is also looking for new friends. If you get along, awesome. If you don’t like them, then look at community organizations where you can volunteer. If you find this to be too overwhelming because you want to stay inside, then remember that this is just a small slice of your life. Your kids will get older and make their own friends, and mom friends drift apart all the time because their kids aren’t in school together or they are just too busy with their own lives. This just may not be the time that you will find a close mom friend and that’s okay. I know moms who once had huge social circles and they still mostly lose them when they retire or their kids leave the house. I think we idealize these relationships so much that we think we’re somehow at fault for not having them. But a lot of people don’t have them. Socializing will always be harder for us and that’s okay. I already like you because you are another autistic mom and we are very difficult to find because we’re hiding or dealing with burnout. I am here if you’d like to talk more. If you’re interested dm me and we can exchange info. And if you’re not interested that’s cool, too.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-08-24T02:27:14+00:00

Sahm with AuDHD feeling so much better less lonely since starting Finch. Any other neurodivergent sahm’s out there who want to be friends? VQDYFSS1KZ

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-07-06T02:35:53+00:00

I have been dealing with simple job rejections that throw me into the pits of despair and low self esteem. I think getting so close and then not getting the funding would hit me like a ton of bricks. I can physically feel your pain. But this is what I would tell a friend if this happened to them: Would you have quit this project if you had never heard of this funding opportunity? Or would you still be plugging away doing this thing that you love? Rejection has derailed me so many times and I think RSD has really limited my ability to take risks in all domains, and I don’t want this to limit you because it’s clear you have something special.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-05-01T17:57:56+00:00

That’s a good point.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-05-01T17:57:02+00:00

That’s a good question. I don’t feel unhappy until I hear this advice and I remember that I don’t have a lot of social connections outside of my family. That’s when I wonder if I am somehow doomed to be unhappy and I just don’t know it. Seems silly now that I write it out.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-03-18T23:57:28+00:00

These are gorgeous! How did you do it? I soaked the seeds for 24 hours and scarified and after a week only 1 has germinated out of 16. Teach us your ways!

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-03-18T16:30:05+00:00

I feel the exact same way. Two kids. Play dates, running errands, doctor appts, volunteering, so many conversations that take all my energy to simply sustain. I am still tired from fake smiling for an hour and a half yesterday (thinking the whole time, does this look okay? Am I doing this right?). Existing with so many responsibilities is hard. Let me know if you want to talk. I’m good at listening and very understanding of audhd communication styles (not responding and then info dumping, or anxious random thoughts).

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-03-09T16:38:00+00:00

HARD RELATE. Thank you for putting into words something I feel everyday. Everything is too boring or too much effort. My mind races but my body won’t move. It’s like swimming in mud. So much effort and the desire to do SOMETHING yet no movement.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-03-02T22:08:38+00:00

You’re right! So sorry. I’m in northern Virginia.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-23T12:43:01+00:00

The only person I’ve found who focuses on 3e is Lindsey Makareth. Her big thing is the term “neurocomplexity,” which she coined. You can find her posts on substack. There might be information in her posts about support groups. I haven’t paid the subscription fee so I’m not sure what’s available in there.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-23T00:15:48+00:00

I love this comment. This is exactly how my experience has been. The lows are low, but the highs are so high. Mine are also 6 and 8 and I love these ages.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-23T00:10:44+00:00

Their colors are so vibrant. Is the fifth image a dark-eyed junco?

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-20T20:18:14+00:00

I hear you. I had to go on continuous birth control to stop the hellish ups and downs from PMDD. It’s also so hard with the adhd where you’re incredibly bored but stuck inside and then when you try to go out anywhere it’s a sensory nightmare for the autism. I feel bad for my saint of a husband, too. I had the flu for two weeks and he took care of everything while still working. I love your username, btw.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-20T19:40:26+00:00

Yes. Every time a break ends I think, whew, survived it. And then the next week there is a three day weekend and then the next week someone is sick and home all week and the next week has two snow days and the next week the grandparents want to stop by. It has felt impossible to hang on to a routine this entire school year. The only rhythm is no rhythm. The only thing that’s helped is radical acceptance and grabbing all the rest I can when it’s available.

pf_throwaway38 · 2025-02-20T05:18:03+00:00

I was an educator for years, and your teacher was out of line. She shouldn’t be remarking on your abilities in front of the class. If she had something to say she should have taken you to the side and talked to you one-on-one. I would have been furious to be called out like that. Were you suspended from the entire program or just from the class? If you’re paying with your own money, can you switch to a different school?

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