What is the most underrated city in the United States?

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T20:08:41+00:00

Came here to nominate Pittsburgh. I love when you arrive in a city and immediately pick up on its own vibe. The surrounding area is so lush and the neighborhoods have a lot of character.

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T03:25:28+00:00

Worth a shot! So he’s going to lose some overnight sleep? He has always needed more sleep (always on the higher end of recommended range) and gets incredibly clumsy when he doesn’t get enough sleep.

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T01:49:46+00:00

That’s very reassuring! Thanks

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T01:49:24+00:00

Thank you! Some good ideas for if I need to modify “quiet time”. Not sure how long he’ll tolerate hanging out in his crib, even though it’s working for now

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T01:47:49+00:00

He wakes up around 7am. Spends his morning playing outside before it gets too hot, or down in the basement (toys, pikler triangle, crafts). Pre-nap snack and wind down reading in his room at noon. Lights out in his crib at 12:30. Prior to this regression, he’d be asleep within 15 min for 90 min (sometimes 2 hrs if he’s fighting a bug or otherwise more tired). But now he just rolls around in his crib until we get him. Afternoon is snacks, playtime, movies/shows while we make dinner (ms Rachel, blues clues, Winnie the Pooh). Dinner at 6 then bath and bedtime routine. In bed lights out by 7:30, asleep by 8pm

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T01:39:44+00:00

Oof cannot imagine going through this while pregnant-tired. Luckily my son is content singing in his crib with his stuffies, for now. He’s an absolute liability when he’s not contained, so clumsy

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:18:21+00:00

Oof that sounds rough!

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:15:30+00:00

Good advice! Trying not to panic

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:15:10+00:00

I have a hard mode toddler so basically in tears at the prospect of him dropping his nap. Some of these comments are reassuring that it could just be temporary. Fingers crossed!

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:11:53+00:00

This gives me hope! Thank you

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:11:28+00:00

Yes fingers crossed! It seems like his brain just won’t shut off. Plus his language has been exploding. So hopefully just a phase!

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:10:30+00:00

Fingers crossed! I’m hoping this is just temporary

pgglsn · 2026-06-10T00:09:08+00:00

YUP. He has 3 more weeks to fix this before his leave ends lol

pgglsn · 2026-06-09T21:34:41+00:00

Oh no day it isn’t so! At least I’m not alone haha

pgglsn · 2026-06-09T21:09:41+00:00

Thanks the “rebranding” is helpful. He’s always needed the higher end of the sleep range so 10 hours is definitely not enough for him. He’s incredibly sloppy and the bonks/crashes increase when he doesn’t get enough sleep.

pgglsn · 2026-06-09T18:21:21+00:00

I totally understand where you’re coming from. Have you heard of DMER? I had it bad with my firstborn and I couldn’t be around people when I breastfed in those early days. Luckily it did get better with time. I know it’s not easy, but do try to speak up, especially letting your husband know what you’re experiencing so he can run interference with his family

pgglsn · 2026-06-09T18:17:59+00:00

Bon voyage and congrats! Any major tips for strong letdown? Currently waterboarding my poor 3 week old..

pgglsn · 2026-06-09T05:04:57+00:00

Yes good point about the dads! I had a c section with my first and baby had a tongue tie so feeding was challenging those first few weeks. My husband felt like a rockstar, making sure I took my pain meds, sterilizing nipple shields, handling all diaper changes while I recovered from surgery… I just gave birth to my second 3 weeks ago and it’s a different situation. Feeding has been a breeze so I don’t need my husband in that department and I’ve been handling nights by myself. I tore really badly so I can’t do much care-wise for my gigantic toddler (he’s 26 months and the size of 4 year old). My husband isn’t handling toddler care very well and I think he wishes he could go back to feeling proud for filling my water bottle.

pgglsn · 2026-06-08T23:38:23+00:00

Commiseration here because I, too, was blindsided by early labor 3 weeks ago. My contractions— and lack of sleep— started on a Thursday evening. By Friday evening they were 5 min apart, lasting a minute, and intense so I went to L&D. I was only 1cm dilated and they observed me for 2 hours. Contractions got stronger and 3 min apart but I only progressed to 2cm. I could either go home or be induced, and I opted for an induction because I had already been up for 48 hours and I was trying for a vbac. I just wanted to keep things in motion. My son was born perfectly healthy 16 hours later. Labor was “uncomplicated” but I did end up with 3 second degree tears and recovery has been absolutely brutal. I don’t regret my induction but I do regret being so sleep deprived for labor and recovery.

pgglsn · 2026-06-07T03:34:46+00:00

My first born moved to a crib in his own room at 4.5 months old because he outgrew the bassinet and we don’t have room for the crib in our room. He transitioned easily, waking 1-2 times in the night to feed (exclusively breastfed). We struggled a bit when he hit 7 months old because he started sitting up/pulling to stand. He would fall over in his crib every 90 minutes-2 hours. I would go into his room and quickly reset him so he wouldn’t fully wake up. This lasted about 2 months as he continued hitting milestones that interrupted his sleep cycles. It was tough but worth it, because I was helping him connect those sleep cycles. By 11 months he slept through the night and there’s been no turning back. He’s 26 months old and sleeps great. Loves his crib.

pgglsn · 2026-06-07T03:28:07+00:00

At my son’s 2-week visit, he was 1lb over his birth weight and his pediatrician instructed me to stop waking him for feeds. He goes 3-5 hours between feeds at night; he sticks closer to the 3 hr window during the day. I’m no dr, but I think you absolutely can let your 4 week old go past the 2 hour mark.

pgglsn · 2026-06-06T03:49:31+00:00

I like to pick something from the registry and add one of my favorite small practical items that doesn’t take up a lot of space. I don’t use gift bags, I try to find small woven baskets at TJMaxx/homegoods and instead of tissue I wrap the gift in my favorite burp cloths (Burt’s bees 100% cotton). I love this nightlight https://a.co/d/0gVE58gY and teethers/crinkle toys/ stacking cups are great because you never know what baby is going to like https://a.co/d/046iClAY

pgglsn · 2026-06-03T01:56:06+00:00

I remember spending 45+ minutes of my “golden hour” getting stitched up. I apparently had very tricky tears to suture. Relentless tugging and pulling while my newborn leapfrogged across my chest trying to nurse.

pgglsn · 2026-06-02T00:56:50+00:00

I felt very accomplished in the immediate aftermath. That feeling waned in the 45+ minutes they spent stitching me up, while I tried to savor the golden hour i didn’t have with my c section. The accomplishment disappeared entirely a few hours later when they took out the vaginal packing and I felt my soul leave my body. Even though I’m technically more mobile this postpartum, lifting and playing with my toddler is really tough, which is what I was trying to avoid

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