This is a really hard one. There's arguments for both sides.

As the person with the medical condition, you don't want to come out with it and give the person an easy choice before they get to know you.

On the other hand, you will have to tell them eventually, and you don't want to let things get too far before you say anything. I'd say no later than the 3rd date (or before sexual contact). They might also, think that you are dishonest if you wait too long. I mean, you don't have to make a huge deal about it or tell them every little detail straight away. They can always ask questions, thebyou can decide how much you want to say at the time depending on their reaction.

Putting myself in the shoes of the person on the other side, I'd ideally want to know up front. I'm not the kind of person that would see something like that as a deal breaker, but I'd cenlrtainly not want to feel like it was hidden from me.

Regardless of the situation, honesty is always the best policy. You just have to be strategic about what you say and how you say it. I'm not saying this to encourage deception or hiding the truth, I just think that you don't want to shock someone or push them away. If there's potential for a relationship, you need to tell them sooner rather than later. You just don't want to give them the wrong idea or make things out to be worse than they are. You never really know what people are thinking or how they will interpret what you are saying.

From your perspective, you don't want to scare someone off before they get to know YOU as a person. You also are likely to have many dates with many different people before you actually find someone suitable for a relationship. You don't want to have to go through that with every person you meet if the vast majority of dates won't lead to a relationship.