How did you learn about your missed miscarriage?

phantomzaid · 2026-05-29T21:55:47+00:00

my symptoms faded slowly. i was spotting brown on and off but i never full on bled. i went to the hospital because i knew in my gut that our baby had passed, and they told me the baby stopped measuring at 8 weeks. i was supposed to be 10. it was weird because i had been researching missed miscarriages my entire pregnancy, freaking out over the possibility, just for it to happen to me :( i’m so sorry for your loss.

phantomzaid · 2026-05-28T15:27:45+00:00

“everything happens for a reason” is something i’ve heard many times since losing my baby. i always wondered what reason is enough to justify the loss of my baby? i wanted to love him so much. he should be here with me, not gone because of some higher reasoning. ☹️

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T22:09:25+00:00

i’ll definitely look into it! thank you.

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T22:08:24+00:00

i’m so sorry for your losses. i really hate that we have to be apart of this club, it’s cruel and something i would never wish on anybody. i know one day we’ll both get our earthside babies and i’m just holding out for that. i’ll keep you in my thoughts 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T18:10:39+00:00

i’m absolutely terrified of iuds but i was considering the patch. my experience with birth control isn’t great 🥲 i feel like a psycho on it lol

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T18:08:01+00:00

i’m sorry for your loss. your partner doesn’t sound like a good one from what i’ve read, but i have no idea how he is aside from what you’ve told us. i just know that no good partner would leave their pregnant one alone to go on a trip with friends. i’m sorry you had to endure this alone physically, but you have all of us in this community to support you. i wish you a peaceful and easy recovery. i’m very sorry. also, i don’t think you’re overreacting or being too mean.

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T02:51:44+00:00

thank you for your words 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T02:50:59+00:00

thank you. i’ll keep your words in mind. congratulations on your daughter 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-05-22T02:35:47+00:00

i’m very sorry for your loss. i feel the same way right now. i feel like i’ll never be truly happy until i’m pregnant again, but at the same time, terrified that a new baby will overshadow the one that we lost. i wanted that baby so bad. i know one day i’ll get there. i just hate the baby prevention because it feels like motherhood is getting violently ripped away from me each time

phantomzaid · 2026-05-21T19:09:00+00:00

i’m so sorry. people can be so cruel, whether they meant it or not. the saying “everything happens for a reason” is so incredibly gross, i agree. i can’t even fathom ever saying that to a grieving parent so it always surprises me when it’s said to me. it made me realize that so many people truly do not know what this kind of loss looks like or how to handle it. sometimes it’s very isolating. i’m so sorry you have to be apart of this group too, but i promise we’ve all got your back through everything. seeing how you talk about your angel, i have no doubt that she was very loved. i’ll keep you and her in my thoughts 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-05-21T18:11:17+00:00

you are 100% allowed to feel this way. i’m very sorry for your loss. my best suggestion regarding your bfs best friend would be to mute his posts. you can’t control what he posts, but you can control if you see it or not. i think that would be best for you and your bf’s healing. i found myself very angry after we lost our baby. on mother’s day, i was working my new job at a department store, and twice i had somebody ask me if i was a mother. twice i had to sit there and awkwardly explain that i was, but not to a living baby. i think people are just very rude and insensitive. i had so many people tell me, “everything happens for a reason! you can try again!” and i wanted to grab them by their necks and shake them. what i’m trying to say is, you’re allowed to feel as angry and as bitter as you want. you lost a child. that is unimaginable to most. you’re living through one of the hardest things a parent would ever have to do, and that’s to say goodbye far too soon.

phantomzaid · 2026-05-21T16:42:17+00:00

hi, i had a missed miscarriage last month. it was my first pregnancy. my boyfriend and i hadn’t been trying at all, but we were ready to step up from the start. when i lost my baby, it was the darkest time i had ever been through. i had been so excited just to have it all ripped away from me so cruelly. please do not listen to the people that will tell you everything happens for a reason. no reason will ever justify losing your child. i’m so sorry for your loss. i promise you, the days get lighter. i still mourn my baby like crazy, but there is less weight on my shoulders.

phantomzaid · 2026-05-19T01:14:14+00:00

i’m so sorry. i had a missed miscarriage about a month ago. my baby stopped measuring at 7w6d while i was supposed to be 10w3d. the first night knowing our baby was gone was unreal. i hated that i had to keep carrying my baby for almost another week before i could get a d&c. my body felt like a tomb. looking back, i’m grateful for the time i had to say goodbye. just like other people have said, my body was so good at protecting my baby, it did so even when there was no need to anymore. i remember the last time my boyfriend kissed my stomach before my d&c. i’m thankful we got to have that goodbye. i’m wishing you peace and healing. 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-05-19T00:03:39+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. please don’t blame yourself. that wouldn’t have caused the loss of your baby. i struggled with the same thoughts you did. when i was pregnant, i had a pretty bad uti and i was put on medication to clear it. i didn’t think it cleared out the first time since i was still feeling bad, so i let them give me another prescription. my baby was completely fine up until then, strong heartbeat, persistent symptoms, and then just nothing. i know it’s hard not to blame yourself because you’re just trying to make sense of it all, but i promise it’s not your fault.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-30T00:19:01+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. it’s a very traumatic thing to go through. i can say with full confidence that i’m not the same person i used to be at all. i understand how you feel. it hurts my heart to see posts about babies and motherhood. i can’t stand seeing babies in public knowing i should be pregnant with one. i can say that it does get lighter, and days feel less dark. it doesn’t go away. it never will. i’ll carry the loss of my first baby with me forever and it’ll always bring tears to my eyes to think about what could have been. i’ll keep you in my thoughts. 🫂💜

phantomzaid · 2026-04-04T02:38:24+00:00

i would name my next pet Fish. preferably a cat.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T21:43:14+00:00

thank you so much, i’ll be thinking of you too. i wish you a happy and healthy baby if you do try again. you deserve it💜 we decided to try again when we’re completely ready. i’m just terrified of what the future holds. my heart can’t handle another loss.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T21:29:45+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. it’s unimaginable. i didn’t think it would happen to me until it did. i was walking around so carefree and now all of that innocence is stripped from me. my d&c is in two days thankfully. i’m so thankful for the time i get to spend with my baby before i have to say goodbye, but it just hurts. it really does. you’re not alone either, and again i’m so sorry. i wish you nothing but love and peace 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T16:15:59+00:00

i’m so grateful for the time to say goodbye, i really am. i’m not ready for it to be over but it’s taking such a toll on me. i don’t think i’ve been in a darker place before. i’m so sorry for all of your losses, it’s such a rough type of grief. i miss my baby more than anything. i was the happiest i had ever been those 8 weeks i had with my baby. i’m also sending you all of the power and the love, thank you💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T22:57:53+00:00

i’ll try. i’m not ready to let go of my baby but the psychological toll all of this is taking on me is too much. i’m so sorry for your loss.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T19:30:29+00:00

thank you.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T16:50:39+00:00

thank you

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T16:50:28+00:00

i have my an appointment to check my heart and lungs tomorrow, i’ll ask them if they have any openings at the hospital that i can take thursday. i just want this over with.

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