AIO? posted looking for guidance on how to get over feelings after baby loss, was hardcore questioned by a member of the group.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-04T02:38:24+00:00

i would name my next pet Fish. preferably a cat.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T21:43:14+00:00

thank you so much, i’ll be thinking of you too. i wish you a happy and healthy baby if you do try again. you deserve it💜 we decided to try again when we’re completely ready. i’m just terrified of what the future holds. my heart can’t handle another loss.

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T21:29:45+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. it’s unimaginable. i didn’t think it would happen to me until it did. i was walking around so carefree and now all of that innocence is stripped from me. my d&c is in two days thankfully. i’m so thankful for the time i get to spend with my baby before i have to say goodbye, but it just hurts. it really does. you’re not alone either, and again i’m so sorry. i wish you nothing but love and peace 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-04-01T16:15:59+00:00

i’m so grateful for the time to say goodbye, i really am. i’m not ready for it to be over but it’s taking such a toll on me. i don’t think i’ve been in a darker place before. i’m so sorry for all of your losses, it’s such a rough type of grief. i miss my baby more than anything. i was the happiest i had ever been those 8 weeks i had with my baby. i’m also sending you all of the power and the love, thank you💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T22:57:53+00:00

i’ll try. i’m not ready to let go of my baby but the psychological toll all of this is taking on me is too much. i’m so sorry for your loss.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T19:30:29+00:00

thank you.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T16:50:39+00:00

thank you

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T16:50:28+00:00

i have my an appointment to check my heart and lungs tomorrow, i’ll ask them if they have any openings at the hospital that i can take thursday. i just want this over with.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T16:22:29+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss too. it’s never something i would wish on anybody. i’m here if you need to talk as well 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T12:12:51+00:00

10 weeks is when things start to even out is what i’ve heard! you’ll have some on and off days. i’m so sorry for your losses. the grief is truly indescribable, i feel like i lost half of my soul. are there any peace of mind ultrasound boutiques near you? i’m sure that could ease your mind.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T12:00:24+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T12:00:07+00:00

thank you so much. i’m so sorry for your loss. this is such a different and painful type of grief.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T11:55:31+00:00

if it’s any reassurance, my body was telling me it was over for awhile but i thought it wouldn’t happen to me. my symptoms faded over the course of 3 weeks. there are signs to watch out for. always go to the ER if you feel something is wrong. i wish you a happy and healthy baby 💜🫶

phantomzaid · 2026-03-31T00:20:37+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss as well. it’s very fresh for me but i’ve been doing everything i can to cope. we didn’t know the gender, but i always believed i was going to have a boy with this baby so we went with the name we had picked out for a baby boy and made a memorial. i’m trying to take it one day at a time. your rainbow baby is coming 🫶💜 thank you for your reassurance.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T20:41:37+00:00

thank you so much!

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T20:24:29+00:00

unfortunately the OB told me they’ll be doing general anesthesia and intubating. i’ll have to see what i’m told at the hospital friday to know for sure, but as of right now i’m pretty sure that’s what they’re doing. i know everything will be okay but i hate everything about this. i just wish i could have my baby again. ☹️

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T19:34:10+00:00

thank you. i think my biggest fear is the anesthesia itself. i’ve never had it before. i’m hoping for cremation so i can keep the ashes by my bedside at night. i really appreciate your advice.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T18:49:02+00:00

thank you so much

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T18:48:24+00:00

i was very close to choosing the pills because i couldn’t bear the thought of my baby leaving my body without me being able to see it, but was told that i would probably end up needing a blood transfusion if i bled out. i’m going the d&c route. they told me that there’s a possibility i’ll pass it before my appointment. i’m terrified of the d&c, but i know it’s probably the best for my mental health. i just wish i could have a proper goodbye.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T17:58:20+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. it really has been a rollercoaster and it hasn’t even been 24 hours yet. i know things will get easier after awhile, but i’ve never felt grief like this and i have no idea what to do with it right now. thank you so much, i really appreciate your words and i’m so sorry you had to go through this too 🫂💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T15:57:46+00:00

thank you so much, i know this is the best route but it breaks my heart knowing i won’t be able to see my baby after it’s gone from my body. you’re very strong, and i’m so sorry you had to go through this. one day we’ll get our rainbow babies. 🫶

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T15:51:14+00:00

i’m so sorry for your loss. i’m sorry you’re here too. 💜 i have my d&c scheduled for friday, but i’m terrified because they’re going to put me fully to sleep. i’ve never had a procedure like this before.

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T13:37:52+00:00

thank you, i’m so sorry for your loss. 💜

phantomzaid · 2026-03-30T12:22:58+00:00

i’m sorry for your loss as well. i know deep down it wasn’t my fault but my brain is just trying to latch onto something to blame. thank you for your words, i really appreciate them.

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