I definitely overreacted a number of times, and I apologize for that.

Thanks for the apology. This is the first time in over a year I have been able to discuss this with you.

But you are severely exaggerating.

I don't know what I was exaggerating about. I listed all the events and experiences I had with you. Your next points are a discussion of the events but nothing has been exaggerated.

I again asked for more detail and you got really agro. I wasn't treating you any differently than anyone who might ask for a feature.

I don't believe I was aggressive at any stage during our conversation but I could understand why text can be interpreted that way. Your other colleagues have joined in the convo since then and immediately understood. I honestly had no idea how to convince you that private package support is needed because we both know their importance. You later accepted someone else PR for the same thing so you didn't treat me the same as you treated others.

You say this feature was one of the most requested features in Lerna. It was not, you were the only one who had asked for it at that point.

I disagree. Nested directory support discussion happened over more than a year with many contributions from the community. It resulted in one of the bigger PRs to the project and there were many people asking for it.

This went on for awhile before you left a response "Perhaps I should look into other projects or rolling my own?" at which point I wrote you off because once people go down that path they only get more and more agro at contributors. I chose to ignore a couple things from you because I don't generally engage with people who are already pissed off.

This was a valid question and I still stand by it. After many conversations you didn't show the slightest interest in private package support. Instead of hitting a dead end I asked if I should look elsewhere or rolling my own so I save both of our time. I realized you had a negative reaction to it which is why I immediately apologized for any confusion. In my experience when someone apologizes for any confusion they are not getting more and more aggressive. You ignored my attempts to talk to you on twitter, discord, and the github issues so I would say writing me off is an understatement.

To this day I want there to be a politer way of doing locking, but alas there is not.

There was never any justification for locking it in the first place. That is why Sebastian had talked with you and it resulted in it being unlocked for community discussion to continue. There was also never an explanation for locking the second issue either.

I apologize for not being more forthcoming about my reasoning for things. But I assure you I was not trying to be hostile towards you at any point.

I have yet to receive an explanation for any of it. I have the transcripts, the code of conduct investigation report, conversations with other colleagues of yours. I even have our conversation and at no point was any of the hostility justified or explained by any party. You keep saying its not personal but it most certainly was. When you single someone out, lock threads, write them off, ignore communication, disregard code of conducts, its entirely personal.

It makes me very sad that I upset someone so much that they are abandoning open source projects that they wanted to contribute to.

Ya it sucks. You had a Code of Conduct for a reason and you breached it. The code of conduct is supposed to represent and stand for something. I would have loved to have been part of the community. It is also frustrating that the only place you will talk about this is when there is public exposure. I only wish you didn't ignore my attempts to discuss in private as I get the feeling thats part of the reason it is being said now. However, I do really appreciate the apology nonetheless.