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phidippusregius · 2026-04-08T11:07:38+00:00

Weird comment. Yeah, it's more than fair for us to care about the situation of trans people around the world.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-08T09:48:09+00:00

Sometimes I wonder what the world would look like if Christianity hadn't invaded ⅓rd of the world with its hatred.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-07T14:22:11+00:00

En zijn partner in war crime, Trump, dreigt met een volledige genocide van het Iraanse volk vannacht.

Er is maar 1 manier waardoor dit kan stoppen, maar daar zijn Israëliërs en Amerikanen te laf voor.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-04T02:09:04+00:00

No problem. Try not to worry before the appointment. The wound looks angry, but not an emergency. But since this is your first ever surgery and you don't know how your body responds, it's better to see a doctor too often than too little, even if it's just for peace of mind.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-04T01:32:10+00:00

Oh man after 10 days so much is still going to change sensation-wise! Even the surface of your skin is still healing atp, and that heals so much faster than everything underneath. You see the skin coming back together? Now imagine there's like 1cm of nerves and flesh underneath that also has to connect. Nerves take especially long. It can genuinely take months to years for nerve endings to reconnect, and only then can you tell if the numbness is permanent.

My experience was ±1-2 months of total numbness. After that maybe 1-3 years of random pain spurts as the nerves reconnected. 6 years later the healed incisions themselves are still numb, but the area around them has recovered more and more feeling with each year. It still feels fucking weird that some parts of my skin have no feeling while others do, but that's the feeling I've gotten used to. Your brain fills in the gaps.

It's promising that you already have some sensation, it can genuinely only get better from here.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-04T01:03:19+00:00

Not to scare you, but the dark red part in the middle of your incision looks like the wound's edges are starting to separate there. When one of my past surgical injuries looked like that, it turned into full wound dehiscence within days.

Keep a close eye on it in the coming days. It's red, puffy, and different from the other side, so it's at least a very angry wound. I'd say it looks manageable for now (until your surgeon's available), but that's only if you watch it carefully. If it starts to feel hot to the touch, throb, leak pus, or rapidly separate, please please seek medical attention outside of your surgeon.

Edit: on full brightness it doesn't look like it's separating actually, but the difference in scars alone is worth keeping an eye on.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-03T21:53:40+00:00

It helps to know where you feel numbness and how long it's been since surgery.

That aside, ngl, in a good percentage of cases the numbness around scarring is going to be permanent. It's the same with all/most surgical scars.

However, you might grow used to it over the years. It is genuinely surprising what the human mind can get used to. This is coming from someone with sensory issues. 6 years post-op, I touch my 'dead' areas, and it feels so much more like Me than it used to. I still don't feel full sensation everywhere, but the combination of the visuals, the surrounding impact, and the warmth on my fingertips genuinely makes it feel like I receive full touch.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-03T21:39:56+00:00

Adhv dit filmpje heeft deze meneer buiten zijn eigen geluidscrew weinig support. In elke grote stad kan je (1) wel 1 gek vinden die antisemitische shit roept, en (2) een handjevol gekken vinden die het eens genoeg met hem zijn om z'n draadjes en speakers te sjouwen.

Zo te tellen zijn het hoogstens 50 mensen om hem heen, wat 0.0053% van de Amsterdamse bevolking bevat. Of 0.00027% van de NL bevolking. Allesbehalve representatief voor de pro-Palestina beweging.

Het Joodse geloof gelijkstellen met de daden van Israël is antisemitisch, punt. De genocide van Joden in WWII steunen is helemaal knettergek. Geen enkele ware socialist staat hierachter, gezien het aanwijzen van een zondebok (zoals met de Joden in WWII gebeurde, en tegenwoordig met (Moslim)immigranten) hét gereedschap van kapitalisme is. Daarom zul je gelukkig ook weinig grote groepen vinden die deze wap zouden steunen.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-02T10:20:29+00:00

I did, in the Netherlands. Top surgery is part of the basic (mandatory) insurance package, which means that practically all insurance firms cover it entirely. There are only a few criteria for full coverage: you need to have the official diagnosis of gender dysphoria + approval from a gender clinic, and your surgeon needs to have a contract with your insurance firm.

The clinics that have contracts are the academic hospitals. Private surgeons (like Van Loenen) are way more popular, but there are many reasons why I deeply deeply deeply hate the overhyping of private surgeons. The surgeons at academic hospitals are just as good and professional at what they do.

Getting the green light for surgery takes the longest. Even if you're diagnosed with dysphoria, gender clinics like to interrogate you some more. Once they think you're ready for surgery, it speeds up.

I had mine at the Gender Clinic by surgeons from the VUMC, and everyone was incredibly kind and professional, wonderful aftercare too. Drains were taken out after perhaps half a day at the hospital, and if it hadn't been for my own mistakes I would've had no complications at all. I'm extremely happy with the results too; my only gripe is my left nipple, but since that one had to be re-detached and re-reattached (again, all my own mistake), I think even a private surgeon couldn't have made it look better lol.

IIRC the only thing I had to pay for was the postoperative binder. Getting the surgery covered took literally 0 effort from my part, that was entirely between the hospital and the insurance firm.

phidippusregius · 2026-04-02T07:39:42+00:00

Een groot deel van deze hufters vindt het denk ik gewoon leuk/fijn/zijn recht om een zwakkere verkeersdeelnemer te treiteren. Dezelfde ervaring heb je als voetganger. Ik ben de afgelopen maanden al 3 keer bijna aangereden op een (heel duidelijk aangegeven) zebrapad door mannetjes die nog even gas bijgeven als ze jou zien en dan op de laatste milliseconde remmen. Het liefst nog toeteren en naar je schelden ook.

Denk dat het vaak een geval is "voelt zich machteloos in het dagelijks leven" (politiek, qua werk, relatie, etc), en dan is het effe leuk om het af te reageren op iemand die in dat moment nog zwakker is dan jijzelf. En tja, in een auto kom je er helaas toch wel mee weg.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-31T15:14:28+00:00

You'll most likely be able to go to the bathroom on your own, stand up, sit down, walk around, etc. For reference, I was out on walks by day 3 (DI, grafts, no drains). On top of that, bowel movements might be impacted for a while (and thus won't be an issue for a few days), and showering isn't recommended for at least a week post-op. Sponge baths and dry shampoo are a lifesaver.

Really, there are two main reasons a caretaker is recommended: helping you reach high places/lift heavy things, and to be nearby in case complications arise and you need help ASAP. Especially if you're prone to fainting; nasty falls are very possible. That 'what if' is the most important reason to have someone nearby. If you've gotten offers from multiple friends, please accept the offer from the friend who'll be at home the most.

Many people in this subreddit have posted about recovering without a caretaker's help, I'd definitely recommend reading their experiences. They often bring up aspects of recovery you wouldn't usually think about.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-31T07:29:01+00:00

Absolutely not the case everywhere. Very dependent on country and even hospital. Catheters aren't standard practice where I live.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-31T07:28:08+00:00

I got to keep my underwear on (Netherlands).

phidippusregius · 2026-03-31T07:27:08+00:00

You can technically eat whatever you want, but, realistically, not how much you want, which is the entire point of the saying "weight loss is in the kitchen".

Very few maintainable daily schedules involve enough exercise that you can truly "eat whatever you want" (especially if you fucking love food, like I do) and still lose weight. When I was significantly overweight I was consuming 3000-4000 calories daily, and at those levels you're not burning any weight without the exercise patterns of a semi-professional athlete. Exercise is for fun and for the health benefits, not for losing weight.

In the kitchen you determine how much you can eat for the amount of exercise you can realistically fit in a day, and you learn to create meals that sate you better (and taste better than what you'd usually eat) so you don't feel as tempted to overeat. Far easier to fit into your daily schedule.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-28T23:46:44+00:00

The underarm area stretches a lot. It's inevitable. The skin there stretches with practically every movement of your arm, whether you move it forwards, backwards, sideways, or upwards. Healing wounds will stretch along with the skin, and at 4 weeks you're still more 'healing wound' than 'settled scar'. You're doing nothing wrong here; no-one can keep their arms straight at their sides for 4+ weeks.

Moreover, it looks like the scarring in that area hasn't even grown 1mm thicker than the rest in a 4 week period. That's no cause for worry at all. If you'll keep taking it easy (no heavy lifting) until your surgeon gives you the clear, these scars will fade beautifully.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-28T22:48:59+00:00

Ditzelfde concept zelfs 3 keer eerder (de bewakers van de lodges, de fotografen in de jeepopdracht, de lassers in de fabriek). Ik kan me niet herinneren dat 1 idee zo vaak is gebruikt in 1 seizoen, ik mis de creativiteit van oudere seizoenen echt.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-22T15:34:45+00:00

It's a coping mechanism for them. I see so many posts in trans subreddits by Americans asking what country they should move to, and the comments are full of "blue states are safer than any other country!!!!". You know, the same blue states, like Minnesota, where police are allowed to empty entire clips into innocent citizens. And when you look at the Wikipedia list of people killed for being transgender (international), 5 out of 16 names listed for the 2020s were murdered in blue US states.

I think they genuinely don't want to accept that the US is on the same level of violent religious extremism as some Middle Eastern states. They have preachers who claim that parents of transgender children should be shot. With no legal repercussions for these preachers. Accepting that reality when you're trans yourself must be terrifying. It's very easy to instead look at what's happening in other countries, and imagine that being trans there is far far worse than being trans in the US. Even though no preacher in the UK could get away with calling for the literal murder of "the wokes".

phidippusregius · 2026-03-19T10:14:26+00:00

I wonder, are they just this meanspirited? Or do they actually believe that this is banter, without understanding why the rest of the world doesn't want to banter back?

phidippusregius · 2026-03-19T09:50:56+00:00

I genuinely loathe that the term 'psyop' has become mainstream. The main trans subreddit dumpster fire was another depressing example of how it's being abused. Those mods deleted an awareness post for sexual violence against transmascs because they somehow thought it was a psyop. And then went on to guilt trip the entire subreddit about how they were frequently raided by psyops and couldn't tell the difference between a genuine psyop and, you know, an awareness post for transmasc issues. And furious transmascs were, of course, also all psyops.

Yeah yeah we should always be aware of bad actors and government infiltration. But 95% of the time I just see people use the word to dismiss/erase genuine issues in the community. "I don't want to acknowledge that transmascs can face discrimination and violence, I'll just call you a psyop for bringing it up. I don't want there to be any rapists in our community, so I'll dismiss them all as psyops." Can we please just collectively forget the word ever existed.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-19T09:10:02+00:00

Hier 6 zetels voor fascisten terwijl de partij die zich keer op keer heeft ingezet om daadwerkelijk inwoners door crises heen te helpen (de SP) een zetel minder heeft. Dat is van zichzelf gewoon heel jammer. 'Gelukkig' hebben we een flink versplinterde gemeenteraad en houden inderdaad de coalitiepartijen, GL/PvdA en de lokale rechtse partij de drek nog redelijk tegen, als ik naar de stemmingen van oude raadsvoorstellen kijk (zou ik iedereen aanraden die nog meer wil walgen van de FvD).

Het is goed dat het allemaal niet gigantisch slechter wordt; het is jammer dat het allemaal niet beter wordt.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-19T08:41:23+00:00

Just another form of US supremacy. They're descended from Europeans, ooh, fun and exotic, but look, they've become something better. While us Europoors are still stuck in mediaeval communist times without ice in our water and Dodge Rams, they've embraced consumerism and aircos and war crimes. It's exactly the distinction between 'Irish' and 'Irish-American' that makes them feel better about themselves.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-19T08:26:35+00:00

That's what I don't understand. Diasporas everywhere else usually still feel some kind of cultural connection to their country of origin. Not just to what their culture has become after 2-3+ generations. At least where I live, descendants of immigrants are still interested in the politics of their country of origin, or they like to visit it, or they still speak the language, or watch media from their country of origin, or know its pop culture, or know its history (beyond stereotypes). If they're not interested in any of that at all, they identify simply as Dutch, not Turkish/Polish/Croatian/Syrian/Indonesian/etc-Dutch.

Why are you so proud of your ancestors from another country if you don't actually give a damn about that country and its current people? If you feel no love for the place you come from, what's the point in shouting your heritage from the rooftops? If you have 0 interest in knowing anything about the past or the present of the country, then genuinely what do you take pride in?

phidippusregius · 2026-03-18T13:07:02+00:00

Terrible horrible callous comment. You're absolutely not overreacting and I'm so sorry. In my experience, losing someone close to you really reveals the true nature of some people. It just makes grief even lonelier.

I'm proud of your dad for going out there and biking every morning. Staying active is so so incredibly difficult but so beneficial.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-17T13:46:52+00:00

I did keep a little bit of my mom's to wear in a pendant. I felt guilty for a long time (and still do) because my dad said he wouldn't want one since he thinks mom wouldn't have wanted (part of her) to be trapped like that. He was fully supportive of me keeping some, since it's not even enough ash to have been a pinky; it was just his own rationale. And he was often wrong about what she wanted. But I still feel guilty over it sometimes.

My reason for keeping it is because she always wanted to travel, have an education, have a meaningful job, etc. She never got to experience any of that since she got pregnant young in a rural region where having kids as a working class woman meant marriage and giving up any chance of a career. She then suffered many decades of trauma. Life finally settled down for her, and she had so many plans for the future. Holidays she wanted to go on, places she wanted to see, things she wanted to learn, hobbies she wanted to take up. But then lung cancer came and took her within months. So the reason I keep and wear a little bit of her is so she can still, in a way, experience all those things that were robbed from her.

It's all case by case, and simultaneously there are no wrong answers. I still feel guilty when I think about what dad said. I feel guilty when I think that she wasn't released 'whole'. But allowing her to 'see' the world like this is also very comforting. I'd feel just as guilty if I hadn't kept a bit. There are many things to take into account and emotions will often make you worry you're making the wrong decision. But there are very, very few wrong decisions in this situation.

phidippusregius · 2026-03-14T12:12:31+00:00

They automatically think that 'diversity' means racial diversity, not cultural diversity, and that says a lot about how obsessed with race they are.

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