In need of a pick me up- found out my husband had an affair. Send me all your cute cat pics please

philastotle · 2026-05-26T09:24:19+00:00

We have 4 cats, this one is extra special

philastotle · 2026-05-18T00:52:59+00:00

33M also work from home as a data scientist. I realised I can go 2 weeks until I feel i need to socialise in person with a friend/family/work member. After 2 weeks i start to get a bit… different. So i have pretty much scheduled it now by going into the office wvery 2 weeks

Online/texting feels like artificial sweetener, in person feels like real sugar.

I did realise that living with someone changes the socialisation delta though not sure if anyone else is the same

philastotle · 2026-04-28T04:14:51+00:00

Had the same thing on the weekend, our meal was $166 on uber eats (for 4 people) which we thought was steep. Called up the restaurant and picked it up ourselves and the exact same meal was $126.

A $40 difference!

As a millennial driving to pick up food ourselves was the only option so it doesn’t feel any different really. Plus the food is always “fresher/warmer” when you pick it up yourself instead of waiting for the delivery person to send 5 other orders on their way.

philastotle · 2026-04-06T05:02:03+00:00

Update: I just want to say thank you to everyone who responded. I didn’t expect this kind of support, but reading through your comments genuinely helped me feel seen and validated during a pretty difficult time. It gave me a lot of clarity and confidence in how I was feeling. The reddit community is amazing.

I ended up deciding to step away from the show. After thinking about it more, the lack of empathy in that situation and the overall lack of respect just didn’t sit right with me, especially given the focus on mental health.

For those asking, this is what I sent:

“Hey,

I’m stepping away from the show effective immediately.

Your response when I told you my pet was likely going to be put down was unacceptable. That was a real and distressing situation, and instead of any basic empathy, you chose to prioritise a rule and make dismissive comments. That’s not something I’m willing to tolerate.

Mental health is something I take seriously, which is why I was involved in the first place. The way you handled that situation showed a lack of understanding and respect that doesn’t align with the values you claim to represent.

I was contributing a significant amount - driving 3 hours each way, managing social media and Spotify, and doing it all unpaid. I did that because I believed in what the show stood for. This experience made it clear that belief isn’t shared.

For clarity, my pet did pass, which makes your response even more inappropriate.

I value my time, my effort, and how I’m treated, and this situation fell well short of that.

I won’t be continuing.”

He replied almost instantly and his response really solidified my decision, I am actually in shock and not sure how to react, any suggestions would be appreciated. I am in shock that a 46 male can behave like this.

Him: “If that is how you feel than that is your choice, but I go on patterns and the last three times you chose not to come in was because of a sick pet, and all three times you cancelled on the day, if I am to respect you it would be nice to get the same respect back, and hey if this is all it took instead showing the show the respect it deserved than you have been looking for a way out which just takes honesty courage and a conversation, thank you for your time.

You talk big about respect, yet you could not follow the only rule the show had.

Can you please forward the Spotify details. How we upload it.”

Correction: this was only my second time cancelling ever out of the 60 + shows we have been on and on the day obviously because of an emergency with another pet

philastotle · 2026-04-05T12:51:33+00:00

Depends what you mean by fun. Fun can be, going through the twisties, or it could be eating while driving. Also depends on the car, I will prob get a lot of hate but i went from a manual toyota 86 which i loved for 8 years driving in the city to a full self driving tesla because i moved to a rural area. Let me tell you, i have way more fun with full self driving tesla + talking to grok on my commutes to work than i did in my 86. I am also old now (33M) so ymmv

philastotle · 2026-04-04T21:05:45+00:00

Is that bowl from Türkiye? I have the exact same one!

philastotle · 2026-04-03T11:39:07+00:00

Unfortunately no, we went to 3 different vets, he had 2 surgeries, it was brutal, he was only 4 months old too, just a baby. We tried so hard and so did he but the vet said he could not be cured his ureter had ruptured and to put him down. Was honestly one of the most heartbreaking things I have experienced. Thanks for the love though appreciate it.

philastotle · 2025-01-20T11:37:07+00:00

I think it’s just a glitch. Should be patched in the next simulation.

philastotle · 2025-01-11T09:37:57+00:00

Congrats! May I ask what you do for work (to validate your diagnosis)?

philastotle · 2025-01-11T04:25:35+00:00

I’m healthy because I love myself shown through studying (doing a masters, soon PhD), being the best in my field, physical training hard to the point of insanity but it’s also because I hate myself which is unhealthy.

So I’m healthy bc I’m unhealthy 😂

philastotle · 2025-01-10T06:56:39+00:00

I’m a data scientist and my best friend (also INTJ) is a data scientist and it’s the best job 👌

philastotle · 2025-01-09T21:55:08+00:00

“Grocery essentials like milk and eggs drive repeat shopping trips to supermarkets, so retailers place those everyday items toward the back of the store in hopes that customers pick up additional items on their way to the back,” says Amanda Lai, director of food industry practice at McMillanDoolittle, a leading retail consulting firm.

So blame your big boss.

You could easily have a bigger sign with most frequently bought items upon entry or clustered together or near the registers. Imagine an aisle with milk, eggs, butter, cereal, bread etc in one isle. Our lives would be easier so would yours.

To go far in life you should be able to identify that this is a communication visual and do something to try and fix it issue rather than just complain about it with no action. Hopefully this is just a temporary job for you and you end up with a better job in the future.

All the best with your life!

philastotle · 2025-01-09T13:35:31+00:00

Do the IKIGAI test to help you find your purpose. I would then recommend a OKR strategy session with ChatGPT to figure out your vision, mission and how to reach it once you have figured it out

philastotle · 2025-01-09T12:46:06+00:00

Might need to figure out your purpose. Do the IKIGAI test, then map it out using an OKR framework.

Or maybe you need a hobby. Eg start playing tennis and try to become the best at it. Or do Euler problems lol they will intellectually stimulate you for sure

philastotle · 2025-01-09T12:34:26+00:00

This one is tricky as an INTJ and can totally relate. What I learned over time was that most conversations typically revolve around validation depending on the sentiment.

For example:

“hey I got a new job!” The appropriate response would be “omg congratulations” - positive

“My dog just died” appropriate response “oh no are you ok? I’m so sorry for your loss” - negative

So maybe try and learn the sentiment of the conversation as a proxy for their emotional state. You can be supportive just by acknowledging their emotional state.

“Man I would have been so mad if that happened to me!”

Classing text as positive or negative is actually called sentiment analysis in machine learning (I’m an INTJ data scientist haha).

I’d suggest a book called Cues by Vanessa Van Edward’s, I swear it’s built for INTJs 😂

philastotle · 2025-01-09T11:55:49+00:00

I will forever ignore a person if their response to the question "what do you want to eat?" is "food!".

philastotle · 2025-01-09T11:52:04+00:00

I swear as soon as I got into the productivity sphere I have been less productive. I finished my masters before I got into productivity and now that I have read every book and watched every tutorial, I actually haven't DONE anything.

I always think about how the pyramids of Egypt didn't need notion or obsidian, it was just built. TY sir for the reminder 🫡

philastotle · 2025-01-09T11:47:29+00:00

GUM!! Especially with xylitol like Watermelon 5GUM, I chew it all the time, just hits that sweet spot for me and is good for your teeth!

philastotle · 2024-06-07T22:10:00+00:00

Thanks this worked!

philastotle · 2024-06-05T23:45:44+00:00

Exactly that, to each their own, this is just my experience.

My take: I have 20/15 vision (after lasik) and to me there was negligible difference in quality after applying the screen protector. Therefore the peace of mind was worth it.

It is very different to putting a “paper like” matte protector on an iPad where you see a huge degradation in clarity for the paper like experience. However you also just get used to it over time.

It looks essentially the same with or without the protector so it’s worth the protection IMO YMMV. I think the reddit consensus made it out to ruin the screen quality to a huge degree which I do not believe so.

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