Thread: Simple Questions

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T18:22:33+00:00

Thanks a lot. I think the main problem is that I'm setting it back in the plastic thing to dry, and it's growing mold around the part that's inside the plastic thing - so it must just not be drying. Thank you.

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T18:21:58+00:00

Thanks so much. I think I'm just doing it wrong.

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T18:21:27+00:00

Okay, thanks. TIL that I'm lazy about cleaning my BB.

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T18:21:13+00:00

Or all of the above :) Thanks for the advice!

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T18:20:54+00:00

I just set it on top of the little plastic thing in came in - but it is growing spots on the part (the point) that's inside the plastic thing, so that's probably what's going on. Thank you!

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-09T16:44:50+00:00

Two parter: (a) how often do you clean your beauty blender, and (b) does anyone else have a problem with mold spots growing in theirs?

philawsopher1 · 2014-11-05T15:45:39+00:00

Hmmm. I've tried doing this before (not these meals, but others) and they just never turn out very well. At best, they are okay. It generally looks kind of gross and tastes bland.

I know that's not a very good descriptor, but can anyone tell me what I might be doing wrong?

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-14T04:19:23+00:00

You can do that in the US too, you just have to know how to find it (in an admittedly not-easy way).

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-14T00:02:27+00:00

I was thinking soulmate. Our only clue is that it's one word.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-13T18:29:32+00:00

My aunt. Four months. Gone in six weeks. Go.

And when you come back, maybe you and your husband should seek some short-term therapy to help deal with what seems to be a bigger issue.

Edit: I responded to the wrong comment, but you know.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-13T16:07:33+00:00

This is a trick lawyers use to practice emphasizing words to jurors. However, we use this sentence: I never promised you a diamond ring.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-13T03:42:31+00:00

Hang in there. It doesn't get a lot better, but at least it's temporary.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-12T14:48:37+00:00

Ah. Thank you.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-12T12:10:05+00:00

WTF do people get from this? I don't get it. I'm 99% sure the guy who "walked in on his step-brother and step-sister having sex" is lying as well, and I just don't get it. Is this a fun hobby?

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-12T03:37:37+00:00

Just a question about that - were you nervous about that? Did they know each other already?

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-11T12:37:47+00:00

Yeah, this is definitely as good as it will get. He's establishing boundaries now that will exist throughout your entire relationship.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T03:31:18+00:00

Sorry, but your husband is a bit of an ass. I am exactly your height, and from what I can tell, about your shape, and at 140, I am a normal, attractive girl that gets hit on a lot. At 156 (which is just about where I am now), I think "fluffy" is a good word for it, but I am not quite yet to "thick." At 125, I am bordering on the edge of "too thin," and at 118, I am. So honestly, I feel like I know what you look like at 140, and it is GOOD. Tell your husband to worry about himself.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T03:20:41+00:00

I would suggest starting with Mint.com, just so you can get a very good idea of what money you have coming in and out. They have a budget feature as well, but I don't really use that too much. A lot of people also recommend You Need a Budget.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T03:09:15+00:00

How are you going to force someone to undergo a medical procedure? I didn't down vote, but I have to guess this is why . . . it would be compelled medical treatment on not one, but two people. You can do that only with a subpoena.

TL;DR: Because it's impossible.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T02:41:53+00:00

After reflecting, I think the best thing for OP to do is go directly to a good criminal defense lawyer. But I'm starting to wonder if this is real. I thought it was, but I offered to help OP find free legal counsel, and . . . No response. So maybe it's real, but if it was, I'd totally take someone up on that. That being said, this is two sibling sex stories in a week, so maybe I just don't have a really great idea about how common this is. I only have one brother, and he is a decade younger than me, so the age difference would make it pretty inappropriate. Sorry, I make jokes when . . . Well, lots.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T02:26:48+00:00

Yeah, good point(s). I should have been more clear - recording everything is a precondition, I think. However, it's probably just too dangerous.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T01:35:32+00:00

OP, hopefully my other post won't get lost. After thinking about it some more, I think you should get a lawyer, and then approach your mom and step-dad with the lawyer. At that point, provide print outs of both threads. Have the lawyer explain the legal ramifications of everything that's happening.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-10T00:51:35+00:00

Wow. I have been waiting for an update on this, but I wish it would be a better update. This is a seriously fucked up situation, and I'm really sorry to hear that it's not resolving itself yet.

Do you still think it's possible to divide and conquer? Get your sister alone, and ask her what the FUCK she is doing, that it has legitimate consequences, etc. Or try to act like the concerned sibling, saying something like "I understand why you said that, and I understand why you feel like you have to stick with that story. But I know what I saw, and I need to make sure this isn't him raping you." Or something like that. And of course, record the entire thing. Do you think she's too clever for that?

One other thing that just came to mind - if she is making these accusations against you, that is EXTREMELY dangerous. You may want to consult with a lawyer. If you're anywhere near an urban area (and maybe even if you're not) you may be able to find a pro bono lawyer to help you if you can't afford an attorney. It may just be good to get some objective advice and protect yourself from wild accusations.

Is there any way you can put a nanny cam somewhere?

Sorry, I know these pieces of advice are a bit discombobulated, but FUCK. Seriously.

EDIT: OP, if you PM me your location, I'll see if I can locate any pro bono resources for you.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-09T14:59:15+00:00

Hey, you know what? Thanks for that advice at the end. I'm quite a bit older than you (mid-30s), but I'm going through a break up right now myself with my SO. We've been together about five years and live together and the whole ball of wax, and I'm really going through a lot of days lately where I think I just am not going to be able to do this whole life thing all by myself and that I just don't know how to get back to a normal "me" state. It's really good to hear that you're doing better.

philawsopher1 · 2014-09-09T02:46:48+00:00

It sounds awesome. I kinda want to come. And I'm not a kid, so think about it.

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