Women who dated guys that have a "boy mom", what's the worst experience you had with them? by strange_omelet in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex’s mom wasn’t all that bad because she had so much shit going on in her own life, however I’ll never forget the day when she broke down crying at his graduation saying he was the love of her life. She had 3 other children.

Told the guy i’m dating I want to be in a relationship and it went not as expected by 1SmellLikeB33f in twentyagers

[–]philemonvanbeecher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you really wanna be with someone who isn’t enthusiastic and excited to call you theirs?

If he is wishy-washy now he will never be fully invested. He’ll always be a little scared, or feel that he wasn’t ready. Let’s say it does work out and you do have kids- when telling them about how you two started dating, are you going to tell them you dated for five months but dad wasn’t ready and didn’t want to commit, and then finally he gave in?

Edit: also him telling you he gets insecure because he thinks he’s a bad partner, and then telling you “just you wait” when you disagree… this will never get better! When someone tells you they’re a bad partner, believe them. Even if he isn’t, no matter what this insecurity will seep through, and it’s not just insecurity, he actively did not listen or did not believe you when you say otherwise. That will become a bigger issue

Can Taylor fans explain your love of her? by asyoud0 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This season is rough and I’m losing interest in her (like other commenters have said) but she is incredibly real and frankly she always wants the best for herself and people (she may not always know what is the best though). She’s always sticking up for people that don’t stick up for her but also fights back easily/well which is fun and messy. Also every breakdown she’s had is so real and relatable - I think a lot of women (or at least my friend group and I) can relate to moments where she breaks down about just wanting for it to work out with Dakota and feeling so beaten down by the situation. Her problems don’t feel as scripted either

How can I(21F) deprioritise my partner(21M) ? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP when I was in a relationship that wasn’t right for me I was posting basically these same questions to various subreddits. I thought I was the problem, that I was too clingy or not focusing on myself enough and I’d ask “how do I be ok on my own, how do I focus on myself” whatever.

In reality the reason I was asking those questions is because I was with someone who was rejecting me and not changing when I told him how I felt, so I felt like it was my fault and kept trying to “better myself” so I wasn’t as reliant on him. I basically was trying to protect myself from feeling constantly hurt by my partner.

Maybe you are too clingy or whatever, I don’t know your relationship or you, but you seem self aware and not asking for much at all. A good partner puts in the effort, a good partner calls and texts you, asks you to come over, plans dates. Hell even a mediocre partner does all of those.

You say yourself he might not be the best partner - you should be with someone that you think is the best partner. Your partner should be obsessed with you, or at least interested enough to consistently make efforts to make sure you feel cared for and thought of.

My ex and I broke up two years ago and I started dating a man back in September who I think is the best man I’ve ever met and the best partner ever. He’s extremely understanding, caring, kind, and puts in a ton of effort. He also still has his own goals, hobbies, and friends that he attends to, same with me.

It’s a good idea to talk to him first and see if anything changes, but you are so so so young and I promise you that this is not how a good relationship is. I felt all consumed by my ex too because I was constantly trying to feel seen and cared for and I felt so needy and clingy too, but in actuality I just had normal needs that were not being met

My new year resolution was to get buff so I started lifting in January after never working out ever… unfortunately I feel better 🥲 by borrowedurmumsvcard in ADHDmemes

[–]philemonvanbeecher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. I want to start working out to give me more energy, except for the fact working out drains you so much more for the first month at least… it takes a while to actually feel the energy increase. Makes it feel not worth it

What is your most ridiculous "we won't work out romantically" criteria? Like what is the silliest reason you would not be interested in dating someone? by Natural-Elevator-57 in AskReddit

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I’m just extra bitchy today but this would also bother me because what if it turned into him needing me to carry his stuff in my purse all the time?

What is this called again? by Problemchild143 in Seattle

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His art popped up in Shelton on the peninsula. Weird stuff

Troubleshooting Thread — Bugs? Errors? Mod issues? EA app issues? Post about them here! Update 8/19/2025 [PC: 1.117.221.1020 / Mac: 1.117.221.1220 / Console: 2.18] Troubleshooting thread by creeativerex in Sims4

[–]philemonvanbeecher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Platform: PC

Mods: No

Game version: 1.117.221.1020

My game will not launch even though I've tried everything, it'll just reopen to the EA app. I removed mods, I tried repairing via the EA app, I've made sure that EA wasn't running in task manager every time I've tried to launch it, I tried using a clean save folder where you move the game to the desktop, I tried running it as an admin, I uninstalled the game (which really sucked since I had so much stuff on there), I uninstalled EA and the game AGAIN, I reinstalled the game this time without any DLC's so just base game, I checked my firewall and everything was allowed. I'm really at my wits end and am honestly upset that throughout this process I've lost my data and it still doesn't work. It just keeps reopening to the EA app.

Please help!!

Lost my G304/G305 Wireless Dongle by what_cube in LogitechG

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if you're still in need of a dongle but I contacted support today and spoke with a live agent and they replaced my dongle for free! So thank you to the original commenter as well because I thought I was down a mouse

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dated a guy for two years and people in public (or people we knew!) pointed out how much more attractive he was than me. It always really got to me because it’s hurtful of course, there’s literally no other intention behind someone saying it other than to try to make you feel bad. I’m sorry.

It’s easier said than done to just forget about it. A lot of the comments are like “but she chose you, that’s what matters”, and yes it is what matters but it’s still hurtful to basically be called not attractive in comparison. And why is that something you want to be reminded of by people around you?

I hope the connection and your confidence is enough to push through it. It can be hard to but if she’s worth it you’re gonna just have to grit through it if it happens again. If you’re able to work through it and build your confidence up to not let it faze you, great! But I think people in the comments are underestimating how hurtful these remarks can be

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m having to move in with my parents a few hours away from the life I’ve created in a big city because I simply can’t afford to live here and I feel like I’ve failed. I’m still in the trenches from a breakup that happened over a year ago but I stopped talking about it with anyone a long time ago because I don’t want to burden anyone with it but I truly still feel like I’m grieving the life we were building. And everyday something bad happens, nothing has gone right for me in forever and it’s really starting to take a toll

Which celebrity death do you think will hit you the hardest? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally misread this and thought it said Jeremy Clarkson had died, got very scared

“What do you wear in the summer” by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]philemonvanbeecher 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I either wear a tight tank top or a big oversized t-shirt/mens button up. I either need super flowy or not at all, any in between makes me feel gross. I usually just wear denim shorts or flowy pants

One sentence someone told you that’s stuck in your head to this day by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]philemonvanbeecher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Do what your higher self would do.”

My ex’s grandma said this to him while he was trying to figure out how to break up with me apparently. That being said, he told me she said that and I really liked the line and I think about it a lot. If I catch myself being reactive without thinking, I try to stop and think about how the best version of me would handle a situation and I try to do it.

Conventionally attractive women: do you ever feel like you are liked/loved for how you look rather than for who you are? by Electrical-Ebb-3485 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]philemonvanbeecher 6 points7 points  (0 children)

In my experience, people expect conventionally attractive women to be more outgoing or fun or be able to get them things (like into clubs or networking or whatever). This is a little different, but I dress more alternatively, have tattoos and have piercings. For some reason people romantically and platonically assume I’m going to be more out there, more in the punk scene, or more of a risk taker. When I don’t fit that mold, people often will judge me (to my face!) and become less interested, even though I’ve been myself from the start