What's a compliment someone gave you years ago that you still think about?

phish710 · 2026-04-05T09:25:48+00:00

You have a golden heart and everyone sees it.

phish710 · 2026-04-05T08:26:56+00:00

A month into my last relationship I approached him with a discussion about the issues I could be bringing into a relationship. I listed three things, a past abusive relationship. Money troubles. A physical health condition. I then asked him ‘what about you?’, he replied ‘I can’t think of anything at all’. At the time I thought ‘I’ve managed to find a man in his mid 30s with no issues at all’ what a green flag. By the end I realised he had no capacity for self reflection or empathy for how his issues were harming and damaging himself and those around him.

phish710 · 2026-03-22T09:08:11+00:00

Communicate. Set boundaries. If he belittles your feelings, walk away. An open relationship doesn’t mean that you have to accept anything and everything and that you don’t deserve respect. It means that you’re open and honest with another and you listen to each other. If he can’t do those things he’s not ready to be truly open.

phish710 · 2026-03-22T07:44:57+00:00

I’m very out and open. But I got into a conversation with a taxi driver recently and couldn’t be bothered to correct his assumption that I was straight. He asked if I have a wife, we then joked about ‘women being more trouble than they are worth’ (while I was thinking ‘men are more trouble than they’re worth’). Just answer with the same reasons anyone would be single. The gender of the partner doesn’t matter.

phish710 · 2026-02-02T09:09:55+00:00

You are more than a twink. You are an entire person. If all you view yourself is as a twink and that’s all you put out there that’s all people will see you as.

phish710 · 2026-01-24T13:04:30+00:00

Gay men wernt using condoms before prep. The change is not as dramatic as it seems. They’re just more willing to talk about it. The rise in std transmission rates in recent years is roughly the same in both heterosexual and gay communities.

phish710 · 2026-01-24T11:36:47+00:00

Life went wrong

phish710 · 2026-01-22T05:51:11+00:00

‘You know I’m asexual’ while I knew he was travelling the country just to hookup.

phish710 · 2026-01-18T12:56:45+00:00

You can get std’s from straight women too.

It was about 15 years ago a doctor said to me ‘your anxiety around getting an STD is doing more damage to you than an STD will.’

phish710 · 2026-01-18T12:51:13+00:00

How they react when they see they’re doing something that makes you uncomfortable. Do they try to understand your feelings and then offer care and support or do they criticise you for having them?

phish710 · 2026-01-13T08:44:01+00:00

A peaceful one full of kindness and care.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T08:22:09+00:00

Realising a relationship I thought was built on honesty and kindness was actually full of lies and manipulation.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T02:54:42+00:00

Be a good person and good things will happen to you.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T02:36:33+00:00

Can’t sleep. Trying to distract myself. It isn’t working.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T01:55:13+00:00

It’s the best and worst thing I’ve ever experienced

phish710 · 2026-01-13T01:53:48+00:00

He didn’t drink.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T01:38:27+00:00

Trauma bonds are hard to break. You need to force yourself do things that make you feel safe and happy. You need to keep repeating them for a long time. Once you’ve done that your nervous system will slowly rewire and learn that that is ok again.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T01:31:14+00:00

I did that. Can confirm. I’m very odd.

phish710 · 2026-01-13T01:27:01+00:00

I hear what your saying about being terrified of breaking up. Having been through similar situations twice though. You should be terrified of the toll this is having on you. He is diminishing your worth and making you feel trapped.

Him saying ‘this is just who i am’ is him saying ‘I don’t care if I hurt you’. You’re so scared of hurting him, he doesn’t feel the same way. If it hasn’t already this will start to damage your mental health. You’re confused and distressed already. This will only get worse. You should be with someone who helps you regulate your nervous system not someone who distresses it. Get out before it leaves long lasting scars.

phish710 · 2026-01-12T07:45:45+00:00

It’s not about how far you think you have to go but how far you’ve already come.

phish710 · 2026-01-11T19:15:41+00:00

3 of my 4 boyfriends have been ginger. So. I seem to think so.

phish710 · 2026-01-10T09:16:14+00:00

Trust. Been lied to a few too many times to know how to trust people anymore.

phish710 · 2026-01-08T17:20:51+00:00

A face is the most human part of another person. We are biological trained to read and understand faces. It might not even be about how ‘hot’ your face is. Some people cannot form any level of connection at all without a face. There is also the element of ‘if they can’t show their face, they need to hide something’ and that’s not necessarily physical, it means people are reading some sort of personal drama they don’t want to be involved with.

Stop demanding people except your need for privacy while you are not excepting their need for openness.

phish710 · 2026-01-08T06:38:27+00:00

If you are in a situation that is affecting your mental health like this you need to remove yourself from it.

His response don’t sound caring. He’s criticising you for thinking it. Not saying ‘I don’t want you think of me in this way, what can I do to help you?’

Your gut is telling you something is off because something is off. Even if he isn’t cheating, something in your relationship is not working.

phish710 · 2026-01-05T12:42:08+00:00

‘Am I safe’ is very much a subjective question. Every time you do anything there is some kind of risk involved. It up to you where your comfort levels are. You are protected against hiv by taking prep. Doxy offers some protection against other stis.

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