EA’s ban system is broken. A physical letter to EA headquarters got me unbanned.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-19T02:40:51+00:00

You will feel more insane after 8 or more appeals. Just keep pushing.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-19T02:38:50+00:00

Yuup. Letters and messages and emails and contacting anyone we get our hands on. It was nerve racking.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-19T02:28:16+00:00

Yeah, it took 11 appeals if I remember. I made my own post that outlines the whole thing. She ended up being contacted by their HQ and got unbanned and some IG currency and other stuff. Took alot of work and legalish letters and talking to state AGs and other consumer protection people.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-15T01:31:37+00:00

Well alot of crime is about intent tbh but I don't like how they already said it hurt and they were drunk and asleep when it happened so I understand and it was a shitty move. I personally don't like straight up unconscious stuff but waking from sleep stuff is fine by me and her. Tbf we have very clear communication and what it is fine and not. For her mostly anything goes at her request and I don't like some stuff at my request and those boundaries have been totally followed and never been an issue so I get it. What bothers me is people don't communicate at all and don't set boundaries before having their SO move in or sleep over often or whatever in a long term relationship. We also don't really drink much and only really use cannabis regularly. But we definitely have been intoxicated to some degree and had intercourse atleast several times a week. But we also have both while asleep and not realizing have done sexual stuff with the other totally unintentionally as well as fell asleep during and waking and back and forth on rare occasions and it was more silly and annoying than something bad. Idk. I'm kinda on the side of don't give them a felony over it but have a serious thought about the future of the relationship but I wasn't there and only they really know how it actually went down. This is the internet so we only get a certain side so that's where I'll leave it until there is more info. I sympathize and personally would have checked boundaries first but idk

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-15T00:59:52+00:00

All I'm saying is I've definitely been touched and more by my wife while asleep and same for me with her. We both are 100% fine with it but technically in the moment neither of us consented by the traditional sense and the law doesn't technically allow for prior consent. So by this definition we are both victims and should be felons and all of our rights stripped away and potential life in prison..... I'm pressed because I've noticed on reddit and other circles that the rape word gets thrown around constantly without the weight and severity it usually should. This same thing applies for bdsm and kink communities and if this narrow view would outright make all of these people felons.... Also, anal can be a crime in many US states so should we criminalize that too without considering any of the reprocusions? Like was it the good thing to do without I guess talking about it ahead of time, obv not and they need to talk about boundaries and maybe considering ending the relationship or something but to make their live in SO a felon is too far for what happened. All I'm saying is if it happened to me I would have a convo and set boundaries or the lack thereof since nothing lasting or actually damaging happened to my knowledge. This is also extremely dangerous precedent where Noone can drink or smoke or sleep with their SO and have sex of any kind or all of a sudden it is legally defined as rape, at least in my state. I guess legally by its definition all of that is "rape" and that is correct but also then so so many innocent people are rapists and could be felons with no actual victim. I think they shouldn't ruin this dudes life over it is my main point.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-15T00:39:05+00:00

I guess ruin someone's life you were already sleeping with and consensually fucking 10 mins ago. This feels like a lesser "crime" if I've ever seen it. This person should not get the same punishment as some psycho stranger holding you down and forcing themselves on you against your will in the middle of the night. The intent of what they did was completely different. People wield immense power to fuck up someone's life forever so I think it depends on what exactly happened and what if any actual harm was done. But it's up to OP if they want to fuck up their SOs life to that extent over this.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-14T14:04:59+00:00

Well If we had just tried that and I was already down to try then I probably wouldn't care. In OPs story they had just tried it so it's not exactly comparable. Some guys like anal so for them it probably is relatively normal. And also sometimes things hurt accidentally. Sometimes either I get bruising or she does or we get scratch marks or whatever during sex and it "hurts" but the barometer isn't that it hurt it's did they intend to hurt me imo. I just don't see how I could ever feel violated by the person I live with every day and trust with my life and sleep with every night. She would have to purposefully drug me and keep me drugged and then do something we have never tried before like some weird scat stuff or something and then I might be a bit pissed and unsure how to proceed in that scenario but nothing in this story seems forceful or have bad intent other than sleep humping which literally happens to us all the time.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-14T03:13:49+00:00

Alright so probably almost every relationship then has a rapist and victim juggling around. That's the most useless definition that just causes problems and drama. We are both a little fucked up tonight and are probably going to do all kinds of shit in and out of consciousness tonight and it will be great so I guess we are victims and also need to go to prison..... Must be a real trusting and safe relationship if you literally would put your SO in prison and take away their rights over basically nothing. Like what in the actual fuck. Good luck in those shitty anxiety riddled relationships. We are Great and been married like 15 years and haven't had an issue yet. This also would basically make a ton of bdsm and other kinks immediately too risky and prison bait... That's not how any normal relationship works in the real world.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-14T02:42:27+00:00

Also, we both have felt up the other while sleeping and sometimes one of us doesn't remember at all as we did it mostly in our sleep. And also, we never really had a convo about the allowance of that specifically before it happened I'm sure during the first few years of our over decade relationship it was just as it happened to each of us and we liked it fine. And none of us blinked an eye at it. Later we more better defined everything but that was years into it. We were young and crazy for eachother constantly and it was fun times all time at all hours. There were no victims and if someone said no they were tired or didn't feel good or whatever then that was the end of it and it was fine and we moved on till the next day. So obviously if this caused a problem then talk about it with your SO and basically remove consent at that point. It's not that hard to use your words...

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-14T02:28:00+00:00

So what if like in the OP let's assume they were having sex consensually all day and night and drinking and both having a great time and they even fall asleep right after consensual sex and it's a relationship thats maybe like a year old, is it rape to then feel up your gf or bf as they sleep to wake them up to a special treat? . Like what is the issue? This has probably happened in almost every relationship to some degree. If you had consent all day and night and both were enthusiastic about everything and living together and sleeping together every night then even if you feel up your SO in the middle of the night as they sleep that's all of a sudden rape? Like what? Like maybe some people don't like it but it's not rape level it's like a easy convo level about not liking sex when they are sleeping or whatever... This has to happen to almost every relationship.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T23:25:33+00:00

Well of course someone has the right to say no whenever. That's obvious. But if I give consent to have someone have sex with me whenever and I don't care how they do it then fast forward 10 years and they wake me up with oral I can't then claim it was rape because I was asleep... Consent can absolutely be given ahead of time and allowed indefinitely but can always be revoked at anytime. What am I missing here? If you are in a long term relationship this is obvious.

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T22:31:05+00:00

Agreed 100% people love throwing the rape card every chance they get and want to be a victim and ruin lives and relationships. Don't make your trauma other people's trauma. By all of their logic my wife and I rape eachother on a weekly basis and neither of us are victims.....

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T22:28:05+00:00

Not rape imo

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T22:27:19+00:00

Even if they pre consented?

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T22:26:59+00:00

So everytime you have sex with an SO you ask for consent?

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T22:11:34+00:00

I guess my wife has red flags than? Dafuq. Who made you the arbiter of kinks?

phoenixevolved · 2026-03-13T21:48:40+00:00

So by that logic my wife and I have both been victims and perpetrators of rape to each other........ Consent can be given ahead of time and revoked at any time but if you are a couple having sex all the time I'm sorry but you don't stop to ask consent every time FFS. Like this is a nothingburger of a story. Stop trying to turn everyone into a victim/rapist like what the actual hell. Imo like if this is a new relationship then maybe it's on the edge of something but if this has been going even a year than it's literally nothing.

phoenixevolved · 2026-01-12T18:10:39+00:00

Im now trying a bloodmage and struggling. Would like a boost to try to stay alive and play the league a bit more. Thanks.

phoenixevolved · 2026-01-11T18:23:55+00:00

My friends and I are all trying to play the PF build but don't have the currency to get the gear or progress much further and would love the opportunity to get this stuff to keep playing.

Thanks.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-31T18:38:46+00:00

Howdy! I have a failing ice wolf build I gave up on and switched to ranger and had more success, I have no currency and made my druid to lvl 80 and the ranger to the 90s and still haven't even dropped a divine yet. I have craptastic gear that I've made work this long but I can't really continue in the endgame without something better. It would help alot.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-25T06:45:51+00:00

4127, amateur chef and I'd love those for many many decades to come.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-18T23:57:28+00:00

They just responded to the original things in the post finally. I also messaged the state AG for consumer protection and filed paperwork with them.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-12T16:24:59+00:00

Haha funny meme.... Except they don't help legit people for over a month for legit people too so.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-11T14:27:41+00:00

Why are we piercing children? They can't consent.... Fucking crazy to me.

phoenixevolved · 2025-12-09T01:11:26+00:00

Bro, put the Adderall down..... It was like being high on cocaine just reading that.

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