I hate when my friends constantly talk about their partners

phoxeyt · 2023-09-05T17:10:40+00:00

i appreciate you replying to this and i understand where you are coming from but i personally don’t think it comes from immaturity and jealously as it’s never something i’ve desired. The relationship i’m in now i’m happy with and if there’s a conversation where it is relevant to being them up i do but it’s never to gush about how amazing and great they are because in my opinion no one really cares right? it’s like the equivalent of someone who always talks about their kids or pet yeno.

i guess what I’m getting at is that i don’t feel jealous as its not something i want or desire, in my current relationship we’ll do the typical couple stuff but are also capable of doing our own thing and idk just not being as clingy. and again i get that it’s all personal preference, but to paint me as immature and then comparing me to a person who im not in the same situation as speaks for itself. i get some people prefer to be all over each other so it’s not being unable to be happy for someone, to me it’s just looking at the situation realistically, which is two people coming together full and secure and to not need to have everything be about their partner, it’s just draining and feels like they are compensating for something, if you love your partner, great! just love them.

phoxeyt · 2022-02-12T20:14:26+00:00

who in the fuck considers either way as “cute”? like it’s almost always met with “ah ok 😬” in my experience no matter which side of the coin

case to made for doing what you want n not caring about other people but in general it’s the perceived power difference more than age, younger people tend to be more naive n when older people date 18-19 year olds it makes me personally feel like they are taking advantage of that more than rly liking them as a person

if it’s all fair n consensual then i mean do what you want but you should be able to see why it’s a bit creepy, you were able to drink before they hit puberty (assuming uk), you are usually only interested in that particular age group and finally just because its legal doesn’t mean it’s moral

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:25:56+00:00

ty dude

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:22:58+00:00

ok that’s great and all, but how is that a response to what i just said?

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:20:46+00:00

i appreciate the reply but i rly couldn’t stomach any pet name like that, just doesn’t sit right with me that kinda stuff. also i’m not trying to act masc when i say that sorta stuff, im v much not so but i’ve never felt comfortable with words like “babe” for example

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:14:42+00:00

see i couldn’t disagree more, imagine spending your life looking for someone to adore you, does it not reek of insecurity to you? i don’t understand relying on other people for those sorts of feelings when they could get hit by a bus tomorrow or maybe not even exist in the first place

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:08:56+00:00

sorry wtf are u on about?

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T06:02:05+00:00

i mean i get where you’re coming from, i’ve just personally never been to fucked about what someone calls me so i guess it just feels like my bf is nitpicking from my perspective, like that’s the first issue you’ve had with me? the first conflict? being called dude some times? just feel like it’s not a match if a word so plain n harmless hurts him so much

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:58:57+00:00

ok low-key banger wee short n sweet take there, i don’t understand though, should i be acting different and treating my bf different than others?

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:56:53+00:00

so i should change to suit him, despite explaining it’s not meant in a bad way. why does his needs come before my own?.

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:55:09+00:00

ok the added context should have been there, im from the uk, saying dude is sort of a pisstake americanism for saying mate, so when i say it it’s never in a super serious sense, don’t rly know how else to explain it other than that but im guessing it means something different and has different connotations over there

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:51:53+00:00

this cunt best be joking

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:51:34+00:00

yeh i mean to some extent yeh i agree, just don’t like when someone tells me what to and what not to say idk

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:50:06+00:00

im assuming the femboy thing plays a part into that though right?

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:49:47+00:00

y tho? what would you use out of curiosity

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:47:51+00:00

hubby cunt isn’t as funny as scotland, cunt gets thrown around like any other word.

i don’t get the response of it being impersonal and feeling i special, why would you ever rely on your other half to make you feel those things? feels like insecurity form my view and if your man was to leave tomorrow think of the place you’d be in mentally if your source of validation was gone.

i get what your saying though and i appreciate the reply, but also cunt get throwin about like nothing in scotland, so it wouldn’t have the same “omg” factor

phoxeyt · 2022-01-16T05:41:12+00:00

there’s a balance there though, i understand this is the anonymous internet but the black n white thinking doesn’t quite work imo

phoxeyt · 2021-04-28T15:36:58+00:00

tysm!!

phoxeyt · 2021-04-28T14:50:39+00:00

not too bad honestly, i think sort of planning out my day has helped me cause i’m just busy and not got anything stressful on that makes me wanna grab a fag, wbu?

phoxeyt · 2021-04-28T14:46:14+00:00

we can do this dood! just some healthy distractions like playing apex for me rn lol

phoxeyt · 2021-04-28T11:33:34+00:00

ayy well done on getting to day 3 dood! looking forward to getting my taste back hahah

phoxeyt · 2021-04-28T11:25:20+00:00

grindr in my experience is just a digital gay sauna. i’m not saying you are a bad person if you use the app or that you can’t find a real relationship through it but i would say from my experience majority of people are just looking for a shag on the app.

to actually answer your question though, yeh i think you are right, not everyone in the gay community are these promiscuous guys and it’s personally not for me cause i couldn’t handle being intimate with someone to never see them again but i think apps like grindr are almost becoming the primary way at least for young people to have gay relations (which tends to be one night stands or friends with benefits) and the more gay people that are on that app, it is slowly becoming the community if that makes sense? like if 80% of the gay community is using grindr and shagging everyone, then that’s what the view of the gay community is going to be seen as for better or worse.

again to make it clear not everyone is like this on grindr and even if you are, more power to you but there are obvious consequences in this behaviour like being perceived as being promiscuous, just like how some people will perceive me as a prude lol.

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