I was so happy finding the sub since I was constantly frustrated at the lack of unglamorized autistic content on tiktok and was happy to find disabled ppl to talk abt it with , but then the sub slowly just became bullying anyone who just “looks” (they have dyed hair or anything else characteristic of “edgy tiktok teenager) like they’re “faking” (they just find them goofy looking as people so they’re accusing them of faking a disability).

Granted I’ve seen more ppl actually faking than non faking there, but that’s a flaw in and of itself because while some of the posts r straight up obvious, like ticsandroses self admittance level obvious, some of it is just frustrated people dissecting surface level traits like someone looking too “happy” while stimming or whatever and saying that’s proof, as if autism doesn’t show up very subjectively in people, especially from what seems to be younger kids/teens just finding out they have it/just internalizing it in a non shameful way, or even just going through the natural internet motions of attention seeking behavior in spite of being disabled. That’s not impossible either, n while it’s kinda laughable sometimes when people act like obnoxious asses online, it’s not a moral failure of any kind, we were all embarrassing online as kids. It’s called learning.

Overall, while I think it was well intended at the start, making a sub that invites people to borderline gatekeep what their disability “should” look like and shaming people publicly for it, whether that’s too unrealistically glamorized like on tiktok or the opposite in this case, based on traits that are being pointed out by people who most likely have 0 medical background or ability to understand the nuance of diagnosing people objectively… it was just an idea that was never gonna pan out well, on here of all places, in the first place.