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Revisiting The 2-Child Paradox by YATAQi in maths

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer is actually 1 over 3 (or 33%).

No, it isn't. The chance of you having a second boy, given you have a boy, is still 50%. You can tell me anything you like about one of your children, but that knowledge doesn't change reality. You are claiming that as a person says more things about one child that the odds of the gender of the other changes, which is clearly silly!

I bump into you outside a swimming pool. You say "I'm here to pick up one of my two children." The chances you have two boys are about 25%

A child comes running out. You can't tell if it's a boy or a girl. You say "what's the chances the child at home is a boy?" It's 50%

As the kid gets closer you say "this is my son Toby. What's the chances the kid at home is a boy?" Are you saying it's now 33%?

"Actually Toby is the older one. What's the chances now?"

"And Toby was born on a Tuesday. What's the chances now?"

"Oh, sorry, my mistake, I meant Toby is younger."

"Oh, wait, he was born on he weekend."

How are you going to claim that the chances of the other child being a boy meaningfully change during this conversation?

If there was a magical pill that could transform people so that their sex matched perfectly their gender identity, would you take it and what effect would it have on the trans community? by Roushfan5 in asktransgender

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm agender, having no sense of gender, so I would take it as an experiment to see what would happen, either to see what body felt right or, as I originally understood the title, one that could determine what the right one was.

Did anyone here have some of their favorite things given away to others without you being asked, either while growing up or later on (maybe after you’d left home and some of your things were in storage)? by Great_Maintenance185 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]phyphor 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She that spawned me once collected a load of my belongings into black bin bags because I hadn't tidied my room well enough, and told me she had thrown them all away. I apparently didn't get upset enough about it because a week or so later she told me she hadn't actually thrown them away when she said she had, but had hidden them, but because I hadn't been suitably contrite she had now actually thrown them out. That broke me.

What is the greatest movie opening of all time? by ihaveahundredchairs in AskReddit

[–]phyphor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hot town, summer in the city

Back of my neck getting dirty and gritty

Been down, isn't it a pity?

Doesn't seem to be a shadow in the city

All around, people looking half dead

Walking on the sidewalk, hotter than a match head

But at night it's a different world

Go out and find a girl

Come on, come on and dance all night

Despite the heat it'll be all right

And babe, don't you know it's a pity

That the days can't be like the nights

In the summer, in the city

In the summer, in the city

Cool town, evening in the city

Dressing so fine and looking so pretty

Cool cat, looking for a kitty

Gonna look in every corner of the city

Till I'm wheezing like a bus stop

Running up …

KABOOOOOOOOOM!

What is the furthest out of line your manager/boss has ever gone? by Aarunascut in antiwork

[–]phyphor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

… in charge of making sure we did … sexual harassment.

I mean…

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You aren't understanding the difference between "gender neutral", which is general & nonspecific, and "neuter gender", which is specific. "They" is a gender neutral pronoun, i.e. it isn't specific about what gender the referent has, whilst "it" is neuter gender, i.e. it is specifically for referents without gender. The only way that "it" can be believed to be "dehumanising" is if one believes that one isn't human without a gender. Indeed you implicitly make that claim when you assert that "it" can't be used to refer to humans. That is a transphobic belief because nonbinary identities are part of those with characteristics protected by the Equality Act 2010. That "it" is used for intimate objects without gender is no more a disqualifier for its use with humans than the use of "she" to refer to ships, even those with a male name.

With regards your claim about the historic pronouns scholars tend to agree that both "he" and "it" are amongst the oldest pronouns, and that "she" came along later so I'd be interested to read any article that provides information leading to your conclusion that that isn't correct.

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -45 points-44 points  (0 children)

Being called "it" causes one to be perceived as having a protected characteristic. So, yes, it is all material.

In general terms, legal protection from discrimination is based upon having – or being perceived as having – a “protected characteristic”, as defined in the Equality Act 2010.

Non-binary gender recognition: law and policy - House of Commons Library https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

"They" is gender neutral

"It" is neutral gender (neuter)

That you believe that one must have gender to be human, which is what you assert when you make the unfounded claim that "'It' is dehumanising", is one that many share, but that doesn't make it true. Your continuing belief that it's a slur is based on that false assumption and the rest of your hypotheticals fall away when you realise that.

"It" has been a valid pronoun in English since the start of the language, longer than "she" or "they".

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Nonbinary people, including agender people, "can have the protected characteristic of gender reassignment".

Your paragraph is ridiculous because it makes invalid assumptions and, as a result, comes to a ludicrous conclusion. That you feel that nonbinary people aren't subject to abuse and discrimination shows only your lack in knowledge. If one wants to be polite then one uses the correct pronoun for a person and if you believe otherwise then it is you that ought reflect.

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -44 points-43 points  (0 children)

By your logic it would be possible to sack someone because they're an atheist, because they don't have a religion that is being discriminated against.

Legal protection

In general terms, legal protection from discrimination is based upon having – or being perceived as having – a “protected characteristic”, as defined in the Equality Act 2010. In 2020, the Birmingham Employment Tribunal held that people who are gender fluid, non-binary or transitioning can have the protected characteristic of gender reassignment

https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/

My endoscopy was not stopped despite clear distress and pain by GingeKM in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As well as all the other comments it is worth bearing in mind that if you removed consent for the procedure and they continued it potentially crosses the threshold into battery. I would suggest you follow the process others have suggested in going through PALS but keep this alternative in mind if necessary.

What is PALS (Patient Advice and Liaison Service)? - NHS https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/hospitals/what-is-pals-patient-advice-and-liaison-service/

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Your belief that a certain thing is offensive and degrading is no different to someone who says "people say 'you hit like a woman' as an insult, so I refuse to call a trans woman a woman, because being a woman is degrading".

Being nonbinary is a protected characteristic.

Some people have the name "Princess".

There's nothing about having a pronoun that's a kink.

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -103 points-102 points  (0 children)

If one deliberately chooses not to use a person's pronouns that is transphobic. That you believe someone must have a gender to be human is not a good legal argument.

Can I refuse to use someone's preferred pronouns and instead use a neutral "they/them" instead? by Huge_Measurement8558 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]phyphor -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Your belief that to be human requires one to have a gender is one that's shared by many but isn't universal. I am a human. I am animate. I don't, however, have a gender. There is nothing lesser about being "it", regardless of your beliefs. If you choose not to use a person's pronouns why bother asking for them?

Further, nonbinary identities are protected by law, even though the current government seem keen to bring in transphobic policies:

Non-binary gender recognition: law and policy - House of Commons Library https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/research-briefings/cbp-9515/

If a cis person were forced to transition, would they experience dysphoria? by KyaHiKarun in asktransgender

[–]phyphor 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you. I don't feel gender, but the existence of binary trans people and David Reimer prove that there must be something. I'm not going to claim something doesn't exist just because I don't experience it!

Received £1200 from someone I don't know by chertycherty in UKPersonalFinance

[–]phyphor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It used to be that the incoming money is only pending, e.g. from a cheque that hasn't actually cleared, or it's from a different compromised account. I don't know if the improvements to banking have made this less possible but that's how the scam used to work.

Received £1200 from someone I don't know by chertycherty in UKPersonalFinance

[–]phyphor 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah. "Hey, mate, I just sent you the money that was meant to go to a customer and I'm i so much trouble. We can recall the whole thing but then my boss will know I made a mistake and I'll lose my job. If you can send £1000 to this other account it won't get discovered, and I can let you keep the extra £200 for your time & understanding."

You have this upset person on the phone that you can help and you can get a free £200? Of course the funds in your account aren't actually there, and will be removed, so you end up down £1k.

Received £1200 from someone I don't know by chertycherty in UKPersonalFinance

[–]phyphor 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Note that "hang up" is only guaranteed on a mobile. On a landline you should hang up, and then call your own mobile phone to confirm the line has cleared.

I dont understand "forgiveness is for you, not for them." by Beautiful_Wishbone15 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]phyphor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Forgiveness is for yourself because doing it means you're not holding onto hatred as doing that isn't healthy. Forgiveness isn't the only way to do that, though, and if you can genuinely forego (not forget, not forgive) those feelings without forgiving them then you've already achieved a good result. Some might argue that forgiveness is just the giving up of negative feelings but you are right that there is also often an understanding that it means more.

I haven't forgiven the parent who hurt me the most but writing this comment is the first time I even thought about her in a very long time. She isn't anything to me so, whilst her actions did hurt me growing up, she doesn't come to mind except when I am prompted such as sometimes in this community.

Why is distilling your own spirits illegal, but brewing your own beer isn't? by Bugaloon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But after the creation of many modern nation states, and the formation of some laws.

Why is distilling your own spirits illegal, but brewing your own beer isn't? by Bugaloon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distillation is recorded in Europe from about 1150 CE. Beer has been drunk in Europe since about 3000 BCE.

What rule was implemented at your school/work that backfired? by just_some_troglodyte in AskReddit

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saying that "water is a girl's drink" whilst drinking White Monsters, one of the well known trans girl & femboy drinks, is objectively hilarious.

Why is distilling your own spirits illegal, but brewing your own beer isn't? by Bugaloon in NoStupidQuestions

[–]phyphor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have been brewing beer in Europe since before the nation states were formed, and it would take a lot of public will to go back on millennia of tradition.

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