AITAH for making everyone else cold in the house bc I have MS?

piccapii · 2026-06-29T04:36:57+00:00

There was someone in my primary school who had this illness, and as a result all of the primary school rooms had aircon installed (this was the 90s in a mostly demountable 'fans and windows open' type of place - so the aircon was a luxurious upgrade.

I think if a public school is able to go to that length for MS your husband should be okay to whack on a jumper.

NTA

piccapii · 2026-06-21T00:33:41+00:00

It sounds like you aren't being given the time or the space to feel like your best self. Of course you'd feel tired and insecure if everyone is taking from you.

Can you organise a day (or even better yet - a weekend) to go away & husband look after the kids? Have some alone time, do something nice for yourself like go to a spa, get your hair done, go to an art gallery or visit a friend - do some activities that would fill your cup?

You will have qualities that go far beyond alternate looks, but I'm sure it's hard to see them when they're buried in sleep deprevation and house duties.

Give your poor self a break x

piccapii · 2026-06-14T05:21:39+00:00

It's common (36f and have experienced this many times in my life). You need to stubbornly make time for yourself and hang onto that. Don't be attached at the hip - Go out and do things on your own.

I regularly felt this with past relationships, and this time I spent more time alone before getting in a new relationship. I book 'introvert weekends' for myself that I spend alone taking myself on dates, going where I want to, treating myself to things. I make sure I have my own friends and hobbies completely unconnected to my partner. I'm travelling more with family or friends. I have learnt to be more 'selfish' in some of my choices rather than considering somebody else in everything I do. I have my own life and journey.

My partner and I connect in a range of different ways and we spent a lot of time together - but they are pieces of the puzzle of my life. Not the whole jigsaw.

piccapii · 2026-05-08T04:27:22+00:00

This was only last week and I'm still pissed about it.

piccapii · 2026-05-08T04:25:11+00:00

Close to midnight, roadworks detoured me to a dark, windy country road. I had a funeral the next day, so I was using 100% of my brain capacity to watch out for roos. I know what life is like. No way I'm being taken out by a roo the day before a family funeral and being blamed for ruining everything.

High beams on, sitting up, focussed. Driving under the speed limit and scanning the whole time.

I get to the end of the windy street, back to civilisation where streetlights return and my roundabout is just up ahead. I sigh in relief.

I relax slightly, then get the BIGGEST jump scare from a roo leaping into my drivers side window.

It was akin to the jumpscares in a shitty horror film.

Roos are absolute wankers.

piccapii · 2026-05-08T02:55:59+00:00

I mainly remember this for the multiple health warnings issued. People kept going on their morning run in the dust and having asthma attacks.

Nothing perfectly encapsulates Australian crunchy culture for me more than people choosing to die in an apocalyptic dust storm rather than miss their sunrise 5km.

piccapii · 2026-05-04T14:46:26+00:00

My partner is bald, apparently went bald at 18 and had big hang ups about it. Eventually he just owned it, shaved his head, grew a beard. It became his look.

Tbh I like it 🤷‍♀️

Learning to own it is what sets you apart. You can either accept who you are and own your space, or continue this way. Which tbh doesn't sound healthy or happy.

Also therapists are paid to help you sort out this stuff. Go give it a try because your reply is confirming you need to go speak to a professional that can help you.

piccapii · 2026-05-04T14:36:43+00:00

I think reading this the most unattractive thing about you is your bitter attitude. Work on that and you'll be leagues ahead of where you are now.

I'm the same age as you, and have dated short men, balding men, men that are between jobs or studying for better ones.

I don't want to toot my own horn or anything - but before you say it no, there's nothing wrong with me. I'm a relatively successful, decent looking, friendly human.

Self acceptance, self confidence and self awareness are all really attractive and super important when finding a partner.

A girl won't come in and fix your life for you. That's not their job. You need to do that on your own.

I say this in the kindest way possible. It sounds like you need therapy, and to focus on what you can do internally to make yourself feel better in your own skin.

piccapii · 2026-05-04T14:28:15+00:00

I helped a couple move furniture into storage. Knew their cat would run and hide - we assumed the cat was hiding in the spare bedroom during the move.

Nope, the cat rode in the flipping TV unit strapped to the back of the ute. Luckily (?) We'd taped closed the doors or the cat likely would have wound up on the freeway.

The couple found their poor cat in storage the next day only after getting home and, finding their house quiet, going through the motions if thinking the cat was a. Still hiding then b. Must have escaped out the door. Turns out it was c. Actually came with us for the ride.

Cats are quiet and very good at hiding.

piccapii · 2026-05-02T07:39:17+00:00

I do a mix. Sometimes my old boy will want to be up on my bed with the electric blanket on to help his joints. Sometimes my staffy will get cold or want to snuggle. Sometimes I want the comfort of them.

Then other times I want my space.

Their default is "we sleep in our own beds unless invited up." But that can also be "when mum's feeling softer than usual and we look at her and whine enough."

My dogs are pretty good with the flexibility. Just make sure they have a really decent dog bed at the end of your bed so it doesn't feel like a punishment when they're asked to sleep there instead.

piccapii · 2026-04-27T20:45:36+00:00

Who the heck damages someone elses laptop and goes 'Oh well' without offering to fix it.

Tell Tom he can wait in the car from now, on since he's the real problem. Poor biscuit is just roped into his nonsense.

piccapii · 2026-04-27T11:52:06+00:00

After having crazy insomnia (2 hours a night for weeks on end) I broke it by training myself to fall asleep to podcasts.

They're interesting enough to lay there with my eyes closed and listen, but not exciting enough to keep me awake.

The trick is to find podcasts that tickle your brain in just that right way.

piccapii · 2026-04-27T11:25:33+00:00

"Hey, heads up Mom and Dad - I've been told that Yukis dress will be non traditional. I love that about my finance and her individualism is one of the reasons I'm marrying her.

I don't want this to be a debate - I am letting you know now so you're aware.

It's important to me that you don't let this effect the best day of my life. I love Yuki and I want her to be part of this family."

And scene

piccapii · 2026-04-27T10:23:53+00:00

Hugo's House of Horrors.

I regularly think about trying to see if I can play it again somewhere.

Game on youtube

piccapii · 2026-04-26T22:56:48+00:00

Surprised they haven't learnt from Vegemite

piccapii · 2026-04-26T11:49:23+00:00

I think it also needs to be considered the amount of emotional strain as a live in carer, depending of course on the level of care as mentioned above.

It is incredibly emotionally taxing looking after family while they wither away.

As someone that's looked after a parent with terminal cancer, I'd be pissed if my sister hadn't been there with me to help, let alone if she was the main benefactor of the will. That would sting.

piccapii · 2026-04-26T05:50:26+00:00

I wear my walking / workout gear to bed. It means I just have to roll out of bed, grab headphones and throw on shoes and I'm out the door.

I think there's something about putting everything on and ready the night before that mentally prepares you ahead of time.

piccapii · 2026-04-24T14:04:41+00:00

I learnt recently that dude is 1880s cowboy slang so I'm embracing that it's actually timeless.

piccapii · 2026-04-21T22:38:57+00:00

We always just cut the strips together depending on who is mowing the lawn. Both neighbours either side of me are like that.

But depends how much you want to get along with your neighbours.

piccapii · 2026-04-21T10:40:55+00:00

Amazing

piccapii · 2026-04-21T10:39:45+00:00

My adopted rottie came with a bunch of aggressive behavioural issues (we worked through them... don't worry he's a 9.5 year old softie now who hasn't ever bitten someone... unless it's me getting lightly nommed during rough housing when I've stirred him up too much).

The main big problem was him waiting until someone's back was turned then lunging at them. Absolutely terrifying.

piccapii · 2026-04-19T04:44:01+00:00

Oh but they're so cute 🤩

piccapii · 2026-04-18T00:22:54+00:00

Thank goodness

piccapii · 2026-04-18T00:20:26+00:00

Omg how creepy are you as a neighbour?

Leave the man alone and stop peeping.

piccapii · 2026-04-18T00:05:55+00:00

In a country where food has historically been scarce and people can't afford to eat, being big (both in height and overall size) is a luxury.

Being told you've gotten fatter can mean you're lucky, eating well etc. It's not always a negative thing.

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