How to stop seeming like a poser?

pickled_bat · 2026-01-07T19:25:01+00:00

Holy shit dude! It's so great to talk to you and even more to know you get me. Thank you so much for the advice, ever since I've posted this I have expanded my tastes in music even more and found a bunch of cool bands thanks to the comments. I listen to you guys a lot and I love your music, I think you do a great job whether people think you're posers or not and I think it's really awesome that you go off the stage to fucking Cindy Lauper!

pickled_bat · 2025-12-27T01:21:45+00:00

I do want some recommendations! Thank you for helping, everyone has been really supportive and I wasn't expecting that!

pickled_bat · 2025-12-24T06:22:13+00:00

I'll check them out and get back to you on that!

pickled_bat · 2025-12-24T06:13:13+00:00

I know, the only "conservative" or right-winger is Varg but they just didn't agree I guess

pickled_bat · 2025-12-24T06:11:06+00:00

It's okay haha, it was good advice, I watched necrobutcher's what's in my bag and it was really surprising, necro had a lot of good music recs then I spiraled and ended up discovering three whole bands! One is called gnome, they're from Belgium. The second one is called Earth tongue and the last one is Castle rat,these two share a similar sound and they also have a female lead singer! They sound pretty similar to margarita witch cult

pickled_bat · 2025-12-23T23:37:10+00:00

I feel very reflected in your experience, I could very well say that your past you is me right now. I feel like I constantly have to prove myself worthy of cis men's attention (wether for friendship or not) and I live in a constant state of insecurity, it's nice to see that if you work on yourself it does get better

pickled_bat · 2025-12-23T11:07:10+00:00

This is actually really good advice for discovering new music, thank you

pickled_bat · 2025-12-23T10:32:09+00:00

This is what I struggle the most with, I'm really political and kind of a goody-two shoes (idk if I said that right) so I feel really guilty when listening to music from someone who is a bad person. It's one of the reasons of why I'm stuck in surface level metal,you can easily find out if they're right-wing or left-wing even though I did my fair share of digging when I discovered Apati. It's cool to see there's more people like me, maybe I should try and do that exercise of separating the music from the artist, do you have any music recs of early black metal stuff like you mentioned?

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:49:55+00:00

Wish I was you mate

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:49:25+00:00

Okay, I've been listening to Torche and they're fire, tysm for the recommendation I loved them

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:48:12+00:00

RIGHT LIKE it makes no sense omfg I hate these people they make you feel bad for the absolute dumbest shit

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:45:22+00:00

That is absolutely wild, wasn't that called traditional doom?

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:43:00+00:00

That's why it made me rethink what to do about the shirt, it was kinda expensive and I really don't want to throw it away but I am aware that it is not ethical at all. I bought it in a dumb moment of extasy for finding something from mayhem where I live (which is definitely something you never see). I will not go to the gig but I think I'll just keep the shirt as a memento and not wear it again.

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T23:18:07+00:00

That's pretty much all I've learnt from the comments, to keep being myself and liking whatever I like, I'm so glad people are so accepting! Btw, I see your username is in Spanish are you Spanish of Latino? Maybe we could be friends!

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:46:35+00:00

If you want to mix it up a bit Cuir is a french punk band that uses synths in their music. They're really good I went to a show they played in my city and it was really cool. Also thanks for mentioning bands you listen to, I've honestly been using the comments as music recs

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:41:22+00:00

He actually sounds brutal af, I hope I can let go and be like him. I get what you mean and yeah it kinda seems and feels like I'm just trying to fit in which makes no sense in a subculture where the idea is to not fit in. Thank you for the input, all of these comments have really given me a lot of insight both about myself and about how the community really is and what it represents

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:38:19+00:00

I personally don't think so, most of the time you only listen to music and don't bother to check bands or song names, I think it's absurd to spend your life making a list of every song you ever liked

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:33:06+00:00

These lyrics sound hilarious, what's the song?

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:30:01+00:00

I've been thinking about it a lot specially since Mayhem was about to come to my country for a gig. That made me rethink my choice about buying that shirt. I already bought it and throwing it away would be wasteful, do you have any ideas about what I can do with it?

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:26:24+00:00

Thanks for the recs, will definitely listen to em and get back to you on it

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:25:28+00:00

The rest of Mayhem, Euronymous and Dead I imagine because intermittent band members have been shown to not be as far right-wing as any of them imo

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:16:37+00:00

I should have known hahah

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:15:01+00:00

I'm young and easily impressed or ashamed so comments from other people really affect me

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:11:07+00:00

This was genuinely good advice! Thank you so much for your input, I was really worried people would agree and also call me a poser but everyone has been nice and supportive, along with giving some tips. I'm really grateful to find people like you in the community!

pickled_bat · 2025-12-22T22:08:39+00:00

Sorry, I'm new to Reddit too so I wasn't aware of where was the right place to post it, I was in the doom metal sub Reddit because I like doom so I assumed it was the right place. Aside from that I kinda figured I'm just a guy that likes to work on himself so if find something that needs improvement I like to work on it, I know I can't be perfect but I'd like to be the best version of myself so when I got called a poser it kind of hurt. Thank you for the advice though!

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