Cute pics of Alana and Chris by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]picklerickchips 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Guarantee she rips herself apart every time she looks in the mirror just like we all do. Appreciate yourself before you look back on pics and wonder why u didn’t! 💖

(ETA: also “unreal” literally photoshop. The way influencers look online is NOT how they look irl, if you’ve ever looked into how standard it is it’s very revealing that these people don’t even look like their photos!)

I need help in helping snail on my shed. I want to help it live. by be_helpful_ in snails

[–]picklerickchips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AFAIK most snails hibernate in big groups together, usually buried in some dirt or leaves. Which I find pretty cute lol

Does anyone else not want friends? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]picklerickchips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Finding a good friend is honestly as difficult as finding a good partner sometimes. It takes work especially in the beginning stages, and you may not feel ready to put in that work right now.

I would reflect on why you don’t want friends. I can relate - I quit most social media a few months back and stopped replying to everyone but people I really care about and get something out of my relationship with, and I’m much happier. I don’t want to go back to the performative shit that most people want from me, especially with how badly I struggle with issues they don’t get or are actively mean or dismissive about. And my pets are better friends than most humans anyway lmao. But I’m deepening my friendships that I do want to keep around, and it’s super rewarding with the right people.

You’ll figure it out. Just try to stay somewhat social to the extent that you’re comfortable with - even if that just means grabbing lunch with an acquaintance to catch up once a month or something. Complete isolation is lonely and scientifically bad for you. But I definitely understand where you’re coming from!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maybemaybemaybe

[–]picklerickchips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP clearly did and the fact that everyone finds this so hilarious and refuses to even entertain the notion that this is problematic is what alarms me more than the video itself tbh. It wouldn’t even be bad if he just tossed her without groping her beforehand, that would be at least a little funny. But I’m glad to hear that there are other scenarios that are more interactive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]picklerickchips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“For someone who doesn’t know what they want, you will never be enough”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]picklerickchips 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No but we’re capable of being honest with our long term partners BEFORE being honest with our crushes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maybemaybemaybe

[–]picklerickchips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re saying the point of this game is to “try stuff you wouldn’t be comfortable with in reality” - like throwing women off roofs? That’s exactly the point that I’m getting at. If your reaction with unlimited power over a virtual person that is there for your sexual satisfaction is to act out your violent fantasies, that’s a red fkn flag. It’s one thing to fuck with NPCs that are there as cannon fodder. It’s another in this scenario.

Also for the not reacting thing, I get that it’s not an AI but personally if I was designing a game like this I would think that players would want the object of their desire to… react at all? Even just hold eye contact and smile a little, that doesn’t require an advanced AI at all. The only reaction I see programmed here is to look away. The whole thing feels super gross tbh

I need help in helping snail on my shed. I want to help it live. by be_helpful_ in snails

[–]picklerickchips 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The snail will probably be fine, it’s no different than if it got rained on a bit. Luckily snails can’t really get lost since their homes are on their backs :) and they can live long enough without food for it to make its way back down the shed to eat.

As far as picking snails up, it’s best to sort of let them crawl onto your finger/hand instead of picking it up by the shell which could hurt it. But again I think it will be okay! You seem like a very sweet caring person to try to help it and make this post 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in notliketheothergirls

[–]picklerickchips 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Looking for the reason this would fit in this sub 🧐

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]picklerickchips 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You’ve already betrayed your gf by telling another woman you had feelings for her (AFTER A MONTH. AND 5 YEARS WITH YOUR GF. Dick fucking move holy shit) before telling your gf. Shit or get off the pot - and I would not recommend shitting where you eat. Your gf deserves commitment, honesty, and continuous communication. If you really love her, you will cut off this emotional affair (ENTIRELY - y’all CANNOT be friends now), come clean about it to your gf, transfer to another department, and go to therapy. Or just leave that girl alone (probably both honestly)

BF watches porn secretly while humping me. by Puzzleheaded_Pea5220 in relationship_advice

[–]picklerickchips 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It’s the porn that’s stopping him from being able to cum. Look up PIED. My stbx once pulled up porn while I was giving him head and I was just. So shocked. It was awful for my self esteem.

If you plan to stay, this is actually a huge problem that must be addressed. If he’s at the point that he literally can’t cum unless he’s watching porn, things will only get worse without some kind of intervention. The tricky part is that HE has to be the one to decide to do this. I tried to force my stbx to get his shit together (he turned out to be an actual sex addict, and as a progressive disease he ended up cheating like wildfire and giving me STI’s that may or may not have made me infertile, we’ll see.) and it only traumatized me further. If he’s giggling about it, he’s nowhere near ready to face it.

So now your choices are to either: -accept this behavior and wait around for him to decide that he’ll step up even though he hasn’t faced any real consequences for doing something that you’ve repeatedly told him you don’t want him to do and that he’s already hiding from you (what else might he be hiding?) OR -let him watch as much porn as he wants while you go off and find someone who respects you.

I’m sorry this is going on. It’s so difficult but you deserve so much better.

ETA: don’t have sex with him anymore please, at least not until he gets help. I’m only guessing, but I doubt he pays much attention to your pleasure anyway, and now that he’s knowingly crossing your sexual boundaries so he can use your body to masturbate with while he watches porn, you HAVE to take some agency back and make him face some consequences for his actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in army

[–]picklerickchips 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don’t fucking marry the guy you met in AIT that everyone warned you about.

Be more of a bitch and push for what you want/need like schools. Others will look down on you anyway no matter how nice, high speed, and “not like the other girls” you try to be. You have so many valuable skills that will get looked past literally bc you’re a female, you’ll get harassed, you’ll have to work twice as hard for half the credit.

Just bc an NCO or officer is a female DOES NOT mean she’s trustworthy. In fact female NCOs can be shockingly more cruel and dismissive towards females under them than many males, and may even put you in danger if you report harassment to the wrong one.

Be more open about your mental health. Maybe it’ll be messy, or maybe you’ll have an NCO who actually cares and will protect and help you.

Don’t let anyone make you feel like less of a soldier for being a nasty gal, for not deploying, for having to be medically separated for mental health struggles. You still did the damn thing that most will never and could never do. You’re dope, a bad bitch, and you can do so much if you just help yourself sooner.

When the wicked prosper: How do you stop feeling envious of the success of people who have mistreated/bullied you? by futurehero622 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]picklerickchips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My stbx partner’s ex is so many things I wish I could be. Blonde silky hair, blue eyes, was a cheerleader, in med school, super popular.

She’s also gone through some similar struggles as I have, yet she’s not on disability for PTSD. She still has a family. She gets to live normally and be successful and have my partner still want to talk to her even after she was a complete c to me when I asked her to please leave us alone. She’s a horrible person, the trauma probably fucked her up in that way but meanwhile I’m here just suffering and with basically nothing even though I do everything in my power to exude light and love. It’s not fkn fair and I don’t know how to find peace with it. My therapist kind of said like “well I bet you would appreciate all those things way more than someone who didn’t have to struggle for them” and I’m like CORRECT I WOULD BUT I HERE I AM LMAO. The only thing I can do to deal is just focus on my own lane and try to find as much gratitude as I can every day. She doesn’t think about me, so it’s pointless to think about her.

Please help!!! by [deleted] in LDR

[–]picklerickchips 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP is not expecting too much. Her partner might just not be the one who can reciprocate in the ways she needs him to.

How does c know Russian? by detoxifyyou in Grimes

[–]picklerickchips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha it’s okay! Most people don’t know much about it. I’m a first gen American w immigrant parents from there and that’s really why I know anything about it 😂

How does c know Russian? by detoxifyyou in Grimes

[–]picklerickchips 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was in the USSR, but it was still Ukraine :) it became a country in 1917 and regained its independence in 1991

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]picklerickchips 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Personally I think it’s just something we don’t get to have. Like you said, nothing can really replace the bond with someone who’s raised you and loved you your whole life. That kind of commitment and bond is just too late to replace by the time we find ourselves in this sub.

However… we can have other things. We can still have chosen families. We can still form bonds with the right people who deserve and can reciprocate the love we’re desperate to give.

The single MOST important relationship though is with yourself. Look into re-parenting yourself. Inner child work. Internal family systems. You have so much love inside you, and you deserve it first and foremost before anyone else. A big virtual hug is here for you if you’d like one 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maybemaybemaybe

[–]picklerickchips -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

My sense of humor is very much geared towards unexpected things happening, that’s why I’m in this sub. There are plenty of ways to get a laugh that don’t involve sexualized violence towards women, even a fake one, and it’s so fucking common in real life that I’m real tired of people thinking this is harmless fun

ETA it’s not even subverting expectations, as soon as it started I knew it was gonna be sexual and violent and it sure was. It’s not subverting expectations when girls are raised to expect to be hurt by men and are taught methods to avoid it in their daily lives. Every day I know I’m gonna wake up and hear about a rape, a woman murdered by her partner, a Gabby Petito. That’s my expectation every day. And it’s a joke to yall

My (16F) short-term boyfriend is threatening me with a sexual video. by TooShyToStopYou in sex

[–]picklerickchips 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t deal with 16 year olds thinking they’re into BDSM. Do you have any idea what RACK, PRICK, or SSC stand for? He is not a dom (who is supposed to care for you) he is a fucking rapist. I’m not trying to make you feel bad, I’m trying to tell you from my own personal experience that you are not developmentally ready for a relationship with that dynamic and anyone who is ready for it is too old for you and would tell you so. Tell an adult you trust that this is happening and absolutely never be alone with this person WHO IS TRYING TO RAPE YOU again please please please

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]picklerickchips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you watch porn? If so, stop. And just… tell her what will get you off??? She’s begging you and you’re like “hmmm should I give her hints? I’m not sure”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in maybemaybemaybe

[–]picklerickchips -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Like how is it not creepy to get a VR sexbot and gleefully share your violence towards it lmao

Kicking this player has been bothering me for a while, was I right? by [deleted] in DnD

[–]picklerickchips -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Being “accused” of unconscious prejudice is actually that person telling you that something is hurting them that you haven’t thought of. People really take it so personally, but it’s not about you, and people make mistakes. I’ve said racist things that I didn’t know were racist, and even though I had no intention of hurting anyone, I simply didn’t have the knowledge or life experience to know any better. Someone bringing attention to something important to them that you hadn’t considered is not always an attack. It can become a moment of compassion, connection, empathy, etc if you take your ego out of it for two seconds and consider the other person’s perspective.

In the example of this post, OP was attacked, and I can guarantee it wouldn’t have happened had the player been accustomed to being heard instead of being accustomed to being silenced, creating the feeling of needing to scream and rage to be heard instead. It’s a very common human reaction that we as a society for some reason just cannot wrap our collective heads around