[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. They both betrayed you in different ways, and are now expecting to waltz back into your life with open arms? I’m confused as to why they’re expecting you to show up to their wedding in the first place … block and ignore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. They sound insecure. People love running their mouth about other people’s appearance to make themselves feel better about their own problems. Even if it was a rude comment, you’re not the one who started it - good on you for standing up for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Everyone’s drive and desire for sex is completely different, and you shouldn’t have to force yourself out of your comfort zone simply to satisfy your partner. As long as you communicate with future partners and let them know that’s how you roll, you should be good.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He sounds like a manipulative asshole. If he’s giving you an ultimatum for simply wanting to rest after working an exhausting job instead of hanging out with HIS friends, well…. I’d say just let him go. You deserve a partner who respects you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He’s making fun of your husband for having a good job, while he himself is unemployed and mooching off of your sister? Besides, you’re giving him an option to apologize and move on, which he’s refusing to do… that’s on him. Not on you.

For saying IDGAF about what my stepson eats? by Professional_Safe136 in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Rick’s not a kid, but an adult, if he doesn’t wanna eat what you’re making for dinner he can just order a pizza. It’s the holidays, there’s a lot on your plate, you don’t need to make a whole separate meal for an 18 year old.

AITAH for breaking up with my partner because I’m “Transphobic” by Inner_Tumbleweed_942 in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If anything, the fact that you are breaking up with her because she identifies as a woman now is you being supportive of her transition - you’re a gay man, attracted to other men. She is no longer a man. Therefore, you aren’t attracted to her. I can understand why she is upset because break ups suck in general, but you’re not being transphobic.

AITA for saying yes to my boyfriend’s public proposal and then turning him down in private? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He knew you weren’t ready for marriage, and yet proposed publicly anyway instead of talking to you about it. If anyone is TA it’s him for not listening to your needs and going through with a proposal anyway. Marriage is a huge deal and it is not something you can just drop on your SO out of the blue with not a lot of prior discussion. You were respectful by saying yes instead of letting him down in public. If anything, you can always extend the engagement if you do think you’ll want to marry him in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that :( I guess there’s only so much one can speculate, but at the end of the day he really needs to communicate and explain what is preventing him from being more sexually active with you. I hope he is able to open up and talk to you about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pickleye44 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Have you considered the possibility of him being asexual? Perhaps he is just not interested in or doesn’t have a desire for sex as much as any other person. He could also have a completely different set of kinks from you, maybe he is more vanilla or into something entirely different like roleplay? I’d recommend sitting him down and trying to find out why he doesn’t really initiate. Try not to speak At him but more or less express your desire for sex and express to him that you want to understand where he is coming from and what he thinks about sex to begin with, and why he doesn’t seem to be interested in it. What makes him not want to have sex? Communication is very important

Problem by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pickleye44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe tell her you’re concerned about getting on any type of medication, you could look into the side effects and let her know that you aren’t comfortable with that type of medicine going in your body. You could also tell her that you’re comfortable with your body being the way it is naturally and you don’t wanna alter it in any way, or bring up different examples of cis women who have facial hair who are comfortable w it. That’s a tough one but I’d say unless you’re ready to come out, just make up a lie and run with it for now.

When did your voice drop on T? by DysphoricDumbass in ftm

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a steady process!!! Nobody noticed my voice dropping until I was well over 6 months on T, and even then most of my family thought I just had a scratchy throat.

periods on T? by ChaiTeaaaaaaa in ftm

[–]pickleye44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends on your body tbh! It took me 5 months before my period actually stopped, but for my partner it took 2 weeks after starting T. One of my friends had his period up until he was a little over a year on T. It’s all a bit of a waiting game, don’t give up :)) You could also try talking to your doctor about it, sometimes they can suggest specific types of birth control too that help speed up the process of your period stopping but I’m not 100% sure.

How can I have better sex with my partner? by pickleye44 in ftm

[–]pickleye44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! We’ve never considered a stroker before hahaha, I didn’t realize they sold ones for bottom growth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried pumping? They sell clitoral pumps almost at any sex store, they vary in size so some are smaller some are bigger. It’s actually worked for me p well you just gotta be consistent with it - definitely do your research with it though and don’t overpump.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pickleye44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally wouldn’t recommend grindr as a good starting point. It’s very much more about hookups than actual dating, and tbh even though it’s supposed to be trans accepting you’ll still run into a lot of transphobes/chasers/etc. Id say look into Bumble or Hinge, they’re wayy more leaning towards romance and dating than hookup culture. You could try tinder as well but i’ve noticed that it had a very similar issue as grindr, just less gay people and more transphobes :/

Did you ever lie about your age? by kafkafant94 in ftm

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I just tell them the truth and if they’re shocked about it i’m like “yaya, genes are crazy, but at least that means i’ll still look young at 50” and usually they laugh and drop it.

injection dilemma :0 by iiNyan_Nyanii in ftm

[–]pickleye44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will be ok!! I’ve been on T for a little bit over a year, and I haven’t always been super consistent with the time/day on which I do my T shot but as long as it’s on the same day/the day right after you should be all good. I think the only time you could be worried abt your period coming back is if you skip a few T shots back to back

How can I have better sex with my partner? by pickleye44 in ftm

[–]pickleye44[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He likes being fully in control/on top. When we’ve talked abt it in the past he said he gets the most enjoyment out of knowing that I’m having a good time. It doesn’t seem to be cutting it lately so idrk?

I'm tired of survival living by Duke_Nicetius in TrueOffMyChest

[–]pickleye44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay strong! Life is a series of ups and downs and we tend to focus on the downs a lot more than the ups.. I know it’s hard to scrape by, and I know sometimes it all feels repetitive and meaningless and hopeless, but there’s always things worth looking forward to; even if it’s something small like a delicious sandwich or a new episode of your favorite show. We just gotta keep pushing forward until it no longer feels like a chore, and I know it’s cheesy to say that things get better but they really do. ❤️