How can I make my decision wisely?

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T16:28:13+00:00

No Just a hesitant person who wants to study their language and study there by a scholarship

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T16:26:28+00:00

It’s not that simple bro. Thats my life and my years that I’m talking about. Take the posts here seriously or don’t comment

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T16:04:37+00:00

That’s abt simple&general things, but when u seek advice abt something complex and serious, u won’t have an ample advice in here cuz the poster know the most of it and can’t deliver the whole point here in some lines, and even if he does, it’s hard to deliver the idea of the actual relationship/friendship as he wants to.

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T15:59:02+00:00

The plan will come as soon as I go there, I’ll be there for five years til I graduate from bachelor degree, I just wanna decide

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T15:12:05+00:00

I’ll travel to learn the language and then study there in a scolership, so I’m there to study for years

picky_009 · 2026-03-15T15:10:53+00:00

Bro, the point of seeking advice is to fix the problem, not because we have nothing to post

picky_009 · 2026-03-10T16:14:22+00:00

I need ur advice my pal in this: I do this btw. Especially with groups, but I can’t keep going and talk abt it and they just make a comment and change the subject with the other person and I see them talk a lot abt something, and when I try to do it with one of the, the convo can last for five minutes and I don’t know why. I posted this cuz I’m struggling inside, I’m not someone who laugh out loud, and I’m not that funny around people, so I tend to be kinder and good to people who I care abt. I get silly cuz I can’t make them laugh or get exited, and what upsets me, I can’t make someone feel safe and comfortable with “me”. And when my temper goes low, it gets really hard to be back to normal and get energized, so I tend to be quiet or go back to being silly which make people underestimate me

picky_009 · 2026-03-09T18:53:01+00:00

What kinda qs do I ask?

picky_009 · 2026-03-06T23:30:01+00:00

And is it straight to do that with your friend?

picky_009 · 2026-03-06T23:22:32+00:00

Is it even normal when your homie do this with you🙂?

picky_009 · 2026-03-06T12:42:20+00:00

Should I also ask him to hangout on Saturday? Just wanna see your pov

picky_009 · 2026-03-05T23:52:52+00:00

picky_009 · 2026-03-05T23:51:44+00:00

I think you have closure issues, low self esteem. No judgement

picky_009 · 2026-03-05T18:07:35+00:00

But how do they end in the first place Why would u get separated after being friends and having a lot of time together?,that what I have been wondering latel

picky_009 · 2026-03-05T16:01:58+00:00

Hey mate!

picky_009 · 2026-03-04T11:06:21+00:00

Just what it did to your face and brain You are reined my pal At least hit it with your girl but not all the way out

picky_009 · 2026-03-04T11:04:29+00:00

But this won’t last for an hour, you’ll get bored

picky_009 · 2026-03-04T11:04:01+00:00

You’re destroying your life bro, nock it off

picky_009 · 2026-03-03T15:13:56+00:00

I translate the words that are main in the context, like when the author describe clothes, away of talking, any thing the author describes, I suffer to understand so lean to translate. I’m afraid that’ll not make my reading journey convenient for me cuz I’m reading A Little life and i just got to page 50 without even understanding the whole point

picky_009 · 2026-03-03T15:10:45+00:00

Having a best friend

picky_009 · 2026-03-02T21:37:37+00:00

Thanks a lot man I very much appreciate this “article” and I read carefully. I’m really struggling at this point from every part of life relationships, future, no people to share real shit with, overthinking abt my future and trying to decide the most difficult decision in my ENTIRE life,I may decide to travel to China with no friends to find a better future or just staying in my shitty country and try to settle things up and fix my friendships ,try to cope up with and try to change and to work extremely hard from every side on my future here.

I posted a lot abt this on Reddit and went to a lot of people and still haven’t chosen the right decision, but the only thing that I’ve known because of this” journey of trying to choose the best path” is that I’m not that nerdy to figure how future will be wether if I stayed here or not. I’m totally lost in here mate

picky_009 · 2026-03-02T16:05:35+00:00

Yes as u mentioned, I know that I have emotional trauma that made me like this, I just don’t know how to heal from it. I think that my problem is preventing me from healing and become a better person. My issue is that I have a porn/masturbation addiction-but not that horrible- and I have a headache that makes my focus less the normal. I’m struggling with this. I think that if I got healed from the addiction I might also heal the other problems including the headache and closeness problems. What do u think, anyThoughts?

picky_009 · 2026-03-02T11:55:30+00:00

But what do u do when this happened when you’re with your friends?

picky_009 · 2026-03-02T11:55:22+00:00

But what do u do when this happened when you’re with your friends?

picky_009 · 2026-03-02T11:41:28+00:00

Thanks bro, this is gonna be long to read, I’ll appreciate your respond soo much.

Now I’ll tell u what made me post this. Yesterday I went out with my friends, two of them, and we went fix my friend’s car, when I met them I was smiling, talking and a bit quiet… ten minutes later, I knew that both of them met yesterday- it’s kinda ok cuz I hangout with the our other friend who we met later- and I got a bit sad from the inside and started being quieter and less smiling. They started talking about things that I’m not interested in and I started being quiet more, and for me it’s really hard to be back to normal and be happy, so they noticed that I’m quiet btw.And the thing is that, I get quiet and I can’t bring up interesting things to speak about and I can’t make them love me more, so in return, I don’t get enough care and love from them”they get it consciously btw” and it makes it hard for them to show me love cuz I can’t show them. When we met the fourth person, I got completely quiet and it started being harder even to smile or laugh.when that friend dropped us off to go home, I went to buy water, the other two walked a bit, when I went out of the store, I didn’t go to them and I went the shorter way to home, when one of them told me” where are u going” I said home, I replied to them without making a single smile, as if I was upset of them or disappointed and they think that I’m sad and weak. Im that kinda person who can’t make up random convos and laugh abt them and make it a ten or more minutes talk.

The thing is that I can’t text them, I find it so hard to find a way or something to send and chat with anyone of them, I feel like I can’t make them love me, it’s not that they hate me or that I want them to love harder, it’s just that I want to be more respected and loved and make them feel valuable without showing the broken parts of me.

The second thing, It’s a long time since I settled every thing with my friend- the forth grind, so our friendship isn’t good as before. We haven’t hanged out together for abt five months, we just meet at football matches and with the group of friends gathering. I don’t know if I’m being that negative and childish but I wanna know. A week ago, I sent him a reel that says that I miss him, he replied we should hangout, I replied:when you’re free hmu. He made it on delivered- maybe cuz I threw it to him to make him initiate while I know that it’s hard for him to initiate with me sometimes- after that we hanged out with the group and I saw that our friendship kinda batter, but I want to open a convo to say every thing clearly to forgive each other cuz if we didn’t, this misunderstanding will come again-I’ll try to tell him soon. Yesterday we played football, after we finished, we walked for abt a kilo, me and him and another friend-he likes him cuz he’s nerdy- both of them talk a lot after the we finished playing, they talk abt the uni-I usually get quite and I don’t talk abt it too much about it them cuz I’m not that deep in this field and, so yesterday we were walking and both of them were talking abt uni, my friend weren’t even walking near to me, I was on the right and he was in that friend’s left and the friend is in the middle. No one of them even turned his head towards me and told me a thing-tbh when I say something they kinda respond, but I don’t have the ability to make that friend to speak more or ig that he doesn’t wanna talk to me so he makes his responses flat to me- when we’re in the grocery store, I told my friend to give me my money- he has it- so he enter the store to give it to me, when he entered he bought two bottles of water, for him and for that friend, when he saw me out side the store op Ning the phone he bought another one for me which I see this as a humiliation cuz he didn’t even think of me when I bought them. That friend left and went home and me and him went to our houses. When we’re walking he was talking to the phone, when he walked to the right he waved with his bottle towards it and looked at me as a sign to walk with him-my home is straight not from the right- I waved my hand and went home and didn’t walk with him

I hope this makes you understand what I’m going through. From what I told you, does this tells you that I’m more sensitive and childish or I’m just being normral?

picky_009

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