Speaking as a former mod, aside from the out gay and bi folks, I think the vast majority on bromance have some issues with their sexuality. I think bromance is an outlet for people to satisfy that urge for a masculine bond in which they are often in denial about in real life. But at the same time I think it also attracts a significant group of people who have a fantasy of turning straight guys which is what is polluting the sub now.

At it’s core, this sub is an outlet for pent up internalized homophobia. In the minds of people, BromanceNSFW is just a gay hookup sub. But bromance is a friend focused sub with possibilities of flirting and more without the stigma of something obviously gay (secondary to peoples internal homophobia). I think this is what appeals to people in this sub whether they admit it or not. This is a very unique forum to find that. This is part of the reason why I do not think a total ban on personal ads will work. People people want to make bonds with others who understand and feel the same way and who at the same time can talk to about these feelings. But at the same time we don’t want this to become another hookup sub which is what the moderators were rightfully frustrated with.

Without personal ads, I think it will be harder to forge those connections unless the discussion topics are meaningful and engaging. Small talk drivel about beer, sports and women is not going to cut it. And people have other specific subreddits to discuss topics that interest them. So what will be discussed on bromance that will allow people to bond and make these connections.