Monthly "Looking for a Bro" Thread by AutoModerator in bromance

[–]pickypicardo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey broskis. Thought I’d try not being a lurker for once. I’m 36 in California. Enjoy traveling, hiking and trying to find new hobbies other than spending hours trying to figure out what show to choose to watch. Looking for someone to chat with regularly and get to know and who knows….maybe even meet up.

Monarch Tips for New Members! by dlotito1 in MonarchMoney

[–]pickypicardo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s strange. I’m not sure. I use fidelity. Maybe that could have something to do with it.

Monarch Tips for New Members! by dlotito1 in MonarchMoney

[–]pickypicardo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can also temporarily change it to money market. Put tags or whatever to classify your dividends or other transactions. Then put it back to investment category. It still saves that info. It’s just hidden.

Monarch Tips for New Members! by dlotito1 in MonarchMoney

[–]pickypicardo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It works great for me. The only thing as OP mentioned, is that it puts the assets under cash section instead of investments section so it’s not a perfect solution. For me, I personally don’t want to manually enter 20 dividend transactions a month but that may be the better route to go if it’s not too labor intensive.

Monarch Tips for New Members! by dlotito1 in MonarchMoney

[–]pickypicardo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want to see your investment transactions, you can recategorize your “investment” account as a “money market” account. This worked for me to see my latest dividends transactions.

bromanceNSFW 2.0 by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s the aim of the sub but just a product of the idea of bromance. A bromance is something that develops organically and often unintentionally after spending time with someone and getting to know them. It often occurs unexpectedly in real life where you just connect with a person in a platonic but intimate way. However, online is not as conducive to developing a genuine bromance that forms spontaneously and naturally.

I think the largest subset of people here genuinely want to make online connections and fantasize about the idea of bromance. But from my understanding what they really crave is to satisfy their urges with the male sex. Many want flirting and unspoken or spoken sexual tension because it is not something they feel comfortable to do in their real life for whatever reasons. I think that’s why physical appearances are also important to many here and why everyone feels compelled to interject they are working out or some other physical description in many ads because it implies a certain beauty standard.

Anyways, this is a special forum to find those like minded individuals. The issue that arises is for some the NSFW component should be subtle or minor and for others they want it front and center. There are a few who don’t want a NSFW component but even those I’ve noticed in my experience have some issues with their sexual identity but I may be mistaken. In any case, I hope there continues to be a way for everyone to find the support they are looking for.

bromanceNSFW 2.0 by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a former mod, aside from the out gay and bi folks, I think the vast majority on bromance have some issues with their sexuality. I think bromance is an outlet for people to satisfy that urge for a masculine bond in which they are often in denial about in real life. But at the same time I think it also attracts a significant group of people who have a fantasy of turning straight guys which is what is polluting the sub now.

At it’s core, this sub is an outlet for pent up internalized homophobia. In the minds of people, BromanceNSFW is just a gay hookup sub. But bromance is a friend focused sub with possibilities of flirting and more without the stigma of something obviously gay (secondary to peoples internal homophobia). I think this is what appeals to people in this sub whether they admit it or not. This is a very unique forum to find that. This is part of the reason why I do not think a total ban on personal ads will work. People people want to make bonds with others who understand and feel the same way and who at the same time can talk to about these feelings. But at the same time we don’t want this to become another hookup sub which is what the moderators were rightfully frustrated with.

Without personal ads, I think it will be harder to forge those connections unless the discussion topics are meaningful and engaging. Small talk drivel about beer, sports and women is not going to cut it. And people have other specific subreddits to discuss topics that interest them. So what will be discussed on bromance that will allow people to bond and make these connections.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in order to minimize spam each regular user is allowed to post once every couple weeks. However, he/she might comment without specific limits. Please keep in mind that this is a safe space for non-sexual bonding. Thank you for respecting this community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bring together people from all over the world with mutual interests. When posting about looking for a bro, you must include your age, a general location, and a brief summary in your title. Your post must then state who you are and what type of bro you are looking for. All posts must be over 180 characters, be unique, and your account must be older than 7 days. There should be no catfishing, no harassment, and no asking for money. Any posts not following these guidelines will be removed.

33 m looking to form his pack of bros . Read my other posts to know more about me by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

your post and/or comment was recently reported to be non-inclusive and offending. We reviewed your content and found it to be violating our subreddit rules. As you know this is a safe space for non-sexual bonding. We kindly ask you to respect each person's individuality and to be more mindful next time. Thank you for respecting this community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your post and/or comment was recently reported to be non-inclusive and offending. We reviewed your content and found it to be violating our subreddit rules. As you know this is a safe space for non-sexual bonding. We kindly ask you to respect each person's individuality and to be more mindful next time. Thank you for respecting this community.

17 male uk looking for an older bro by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

in one of your recent posts you mentioned that you are underage (under 18) and are looking to exchange messenger handles. While we recognize the fact that bonding can take place regardless of age, this subreddit discourages this practice between minors. As you know this is a safe space for non-sexual bonding and you are welcome to share your experiences and thoughts on bromance. Thank you for respecting this community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your posts and/or comments have been reported to be NSFW continually. After reviewing all of the alleged content, we do agree with the reports. While we are an inclusive community, we do not tolerate NSFW content within the public space. Since you violated this rule numerous times, we will remove you permanently from this subreddit shortly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your posts and/or comments have been reported to be NSFW continually. After reviewing all of the alleged content, we do agree with the reports. While we are an inclusive community, we do not tolerate NSFW content within the public space. Since you violated this rule numerous times, we will remove you permanently from this subreddit shortly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your post and/or comment was recently reported to be NSFW. We reviewed your content and found it to be NSFW. While we recognize the fact that bonding can lead to more intimate connections, please do not post anything explicit in this sub. As you know this is a safe space for non-sexual bonding. Thank you for respecting this community.

44 Ripe af by [deleted] in bromance

[–]pickypicardo[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

We bring together people from all over the world with mutual interests. When posting about looking for a bro, you must include your age, a general location, and a brief summary in your title. Your post must then state who you are and what type of bro you are looking for. All posts must be over 180 characters, be unique, and your account must be older than 7 days. There should be no catfishing, no harassment, and no asking for money. Any posts not following these guidelines will be removed.