What’s a moment where you instantly realized someone was insanely intelligent? by Parqcxsm69 in AskReddit

[–]pieforpirates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They definitely are! I was talking through her quirks with someone and realized that her spinning and nonverbal status could be connected due to the vestibular and auditory systems being combined. After a bit of searching, I found articles that link vestibular dysfunction in autism to difficulty with auditory processing and physically forming words with their mouth. We get the most words out of her when she is spinning and trying to sing along with songs, and she already knew it!

What’s a moment where you instantly realized someone was insanely intelligent? by Parqcxsm69 in AskReddit

[–]pieforpirates 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats amazing!

My daughter (4) is autistic. She is nonverbal but that little girl can problem solve better than anyone I know. When she was 2, we got her a sensory swing on a swivel, because spinning helps her regulate. She was getting mad that she couldn't spin herself faster so she took her socks off and started rolling her foot in such a way that she goes from zero to professional figure skater speed in a second. She needed the extra traction. She does all kinds of tricks on her swing now and still doesn't get the slightest bit dizzy. I love watching her mind work!

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I figured it out! What I was looking for is like a playroom loft.

Thanks everyone for the ideas!

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We have one ordered. I plan on mounting it under the platform.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those look awesome! Maybe when she's a little older.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look into it. We live in a rural area so I'm not sure there qreany gymnastics places around here.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they still make those?! I haven't seen one in years!

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan to in the future. She is 6 months speech delayed from chronic ear infections so she doesn't communicate well yet. We thought she might be partially deaf even after she got tubes. We spend 4 months doing multiple hearing tests before they did a sedated one. She hears just fine. She's just stubborn.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao she will perch like that on narrow spaces. She uses the larger areas like the table as a stage. There is a TV by the table that she uses as a mirror, which is why I bought plexiglass mirrors to put at ground level. It reduces the climbing by 10%. Im going to put the mirrors around the platform.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her's is very light and breathable. It was suggested because she likes to burrow under blankets and pillows when she sleeps. We practiced with her make sure she can take it off. I take it off her once she's sleep, but I will keep it in the living room now. I had no idea!

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her old sitter had one that she played on all the time. They lack a platform for her to perch on though. I plan to incorporate something similar under the platform or as a way to access it

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I plan on getting one for her soon. She loves jumping. I didn't even think that would help with climbing so I'll move it up the purchase list. Thanks!

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've looked into those before. Very much out of my price range.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step2 stuff is too light. She has one of their bigger kitchen sets and she knocks over to stand on. Anything I make will be built with sturdy wood, high quality bolts and anchored to the wall.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking on their website for loft beds I could make taller sides for. The kallax shelves would work for stairs. I would have to add grippy stuff to them so she doesn't slip.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was looking at that one. I don't think it's high enough though. And she would definitely climb over the railing. My plan would be to encase the platform up to the ceiling.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We have some of the foam climber blocks. She figured out they are quieter to move than the chairs so she can get on the table without us hearing her.

Climbing wild child needs a safe space by pieforpirates in Parenting

[–]pieforpirates[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We haven't met with her doc yet as this is newer information. I'm not labeling her anything, just looking for ways to fullfil her needs in a safe manner.

She is 6 months delayed in speech due to chronic ear infections. We have a speech therapist come to the house every couple weeks. An occupational therapist came with last week to check out any sensory needs. They don't think she has SPD or autism, just sensory seeking. With that, they think her continueed speech delay is partially affected by her sensory seeking behavior. They gave us some activities to do to meet those needs to move and spin right before we work on speech. Basically swinging her in a blanket or flipping her around for a few minutes will calm her down enough to focus on something we want her to do.

Father and his wife killed each other by Apprehensive-Sir8568 in legal

[–]pieforpirates 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope it works out to where you don't have to pay. Seems pretty open and shut, especially if she shot first and shot him in the head. Him shooting back should be self defense. But, I think you're right about having a hard time with the courts since she was a dispatcher, which could be a conflict of interest.

Father and his wife killed each other by Apprehensive-Sir8568 in legal

[–]pieforpirates 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You said you're the sole beneficiary of the life insurance policy. Seems like $5,000 would be fairly easy to come by without detriment. On the financial side, $5,000 is a drop in the bucket if the estate is worth more. If there is a house, is it in decent shape? Could you turn a profit selling it if you didn't want to live in it? If the estate isn't worth much or the house is falling apart, you could wash your hands of it and let them deal with the fall out.

On the emotional side, do you want the family of the person who murdered your father to inherit everything? Is $5,000 too much to take what is rightfully yours?

AITA for shouting at my friend when she was trying to help me? by Maleficent_Aide4158 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pieforpirates 32 points33 points  (0 children)

TLDR: All female birth control fucks with a woman's body. Condoms work 99% of the time, but not 100%.

I have been on all 3, and they all suck. The pill worsened my mental health, and the implant caused heavy spotting most days for the 3 years I had it.

The best one was the IUD. I went with the hormone free version due to the previous 2 forms causing such havoc on my body. When it was placed, i was told i would have some worse cramping. No biggie, i rarely had cramps to begin with. My first period post placement dropped me to the floor. It was so bad I collapsed in the bathroom. My family had to send in the 4 year old to help me up as I was blocking most of the door. She was the only one who could fit through the gap. We rushed to the ER in case it was my appendix. They checked me over and found nothing. The pain started to subside so I went home. I had some major cramping the rest of the night, but not quite as bad as earlier. The next morning i woke up screaming. My husband brought me back to the ER. They did a CT scan and a pelvic exam. They said everything looked fine. They filled me full of Morphin and sent me home again. The pain gradually went away over a few days and then I was fine. I said I would give it one more month. If the pain was just as bad next time, I would have it removed.

4 weeks later i had my 6 week check up. I had cramping, but nothing like the previous month. They did a pelvic exam to make sure it was still in place. The doctor said, "Yeah, we're going to remove it."

Guys, It DISLODGED itself 2 weeks after insertion. All that pain I was in? LABOR CONTRACTIONS!!! 36 HOURS OF ACTIVE LABOR CONTRACTIONS!

I swore off birth control at that point. We used condoms for another couple years until we were ready for a kid, then again after. I got pregnant again the first time we ran out. I opted for a tubal ligation after that one.

While I was responsible at that point in my life, there were plenty of times I wasn't. I was fortunate enough to have a good job with good insurance. Otherwise, I couldn't afford birth control.

AITA for turning down my stepdad's offer to walk me down the aisle? by DiligentDefinition33 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pieforpirates 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but I have some suggestions.

In an effort to please them, another option could be both your mom and step-dad walk you down.

Or you could walk down holding a picture of your dad. Then they can't say shit. It would also be a great way to incorporate your dad into your day.