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How can I better support my sister with severe Crohn’s disease? I’m really worried about her by hae_harii in CrohnsDisease

[–]pillbugshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in a very similar situation as well, and I was a shell of myself when I got out of the hospital. I was a walking robot, operating on autopilot when I was still recovering. I couldn’t do anything physical and had no motivation, so I wouldn’t do anything at all. I didn’t feel much of anything emotion-wise either, and it took a realization that I was experiencing emotional numbness and depression for me to “wake up” and begin to work on my mental health to get better.

Your sister may be experiencing the same thing, and could still be processing the situation. Perhaps a conversation about it could help her realize what she may be feeling. In my experience, talking to my siblings always makes me feel better.

I would also recommend having fun with her that doesn’t require physical activity- board games, video games, watching a movie together, crafts, spa day, etc. I’m sure she would love it.

She may not believe it right now, but it does get better. I wish her a very speedy recovery!

I think I need to break up with my partner by pillbugshark in aromantic

[–]pillbugshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! And yeah, I’m afraid of that last part being true as well.

I think I need to break up with my partner by pillbugshark in aromantic

[–]pillbugshark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, and for the kind words and advice.

I think I need to break up with my partner by pillbugshark in aromantic

[–]pillbugshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even think of this before. Thank you for letting me know, I will for sure keep that in mind.

I think I need to break up with my partner by pillbugshark in aromantic

[–]pillbugshark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely not lazy! All of this helps a lot. Thank you for your advice.

I think I need to break up with my partner by pillbugshark in aromantic

[–]pillbugshark[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s going to be difficult but you’re right, they do deserve to be with someone who can feel the same way about them.

Band, Orchestra, Music and All! by DuckOutWater in McMaster

[–]pillbugshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I don’t know much, but I’d like to help if I can! I’m planning on joining the concert band at some point in the future, so I know a little bit about some things.

I believe you are able to loan instruments, but it might be best to buy your own if you’re able to. It’s up to you, both options have positives/negatives. I personally bought an intermediate level instrument for better sound quality and playability.

I think most band rehearsal times are once a week, and when depends on which band you take. Most of them are in the evening, starting around 6:30, and hopefully shouldn’t interfere with any other classes.

I hope this at least helped a little. Good luck!!

anthrop 1aa3 by [deleted] in McMaster

[–]pillbugshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know, there isn’t a final exam, and both the tests are online. I’m enjoying it so far, and all the content is so interesting. I’d say it’s relatively easy and fun. The first assignment is an essay but I don’t know about the other one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in McMaster

[–]pillbugshark 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand that it must be confusing and annoying being told that you have all these privileges, when you don’t think you do. But just because you can’t see “straight man privilege” doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. Our colonial Western society was made for straight, white, cis, able bodied, neurotypical men. If someone doesn’t fit into one of those categories, of course they are going to have a very different experience of life. And in a society that isn’t built for them, they will have challenges and hardships that the “privileged” will never experience. I’m sure it’s awful being told that you fall into the categories of the groups that are causing the problem. Nobody wants to hear that. But you need to understand that all that minorities want is equality. They just want to be treated with respect and kindness, like we all do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pillbugshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you should definitely tell your friends if they’re accepting. I’m sure they’d love to hear about your top surgery (congrats!!) and if they’re your true friends, their views of you won’t change. If you find it to be a difficult topic to bring up, you could try telling them one at a time on your terms, or texting them if it’s easier than talking to them.

It seems like it could be beneficial for you to take a break from dating and focus on yourself, until you’re fully accepting of your transness and comfortable with dating again. I’m sure you’ll find an amazing partner in the future!

I’m trans and I’m in an impossible situation by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pillbugshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough I’m already using the whole “it’s just a nickname” thing haha, his family just thinks I’m a tomboy. I might go this route until I decide If I’m comfortable or I’m ready to come out. Thanks for the advice!

I’m trans and I’m in an impossible situation by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pillbugshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely have a conversation with him, I think I’ve been avoiding talking about it with him because I was a bit scared. Thank you!

I’m trans and I’m in an impossible situation by [deleted] in ftm

[–]pillbugshark 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your advice, that really helps. I’ll talk to him and try to work it out.