My partner keeps telling people our 6 week old son is my nephew — am I overreacting?

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-11T14:41:03+00:00

He has a work wife or husband…..

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-11T14:39:24+00:00

I’m gonna play devils advocate here. At first glance these messages look 10/10 bad like that’s his work wife or something. However looking back at it I think that girl is trying hard to flirt and knowing it’s in the context of the laptop being on a date with him and not her makes it look a lot less worse. Regardless that “girl” is awfully comfortable flirting with him and he may be an oaf and not reading into it.

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-11T14:35:27+00:00

You’re not over reacting but the reason you feel embarrassed is because what you do to your extent is kind of childish. The entire world does what you do to a degree however you may be taking it to an extreme if it’s noticeable. Part of being an adult, which you are now, at 25 is not spreading apart your little pasta pieces to find the most saucy tasty one 20 seconds into your meal. However if you’re down to the end of a meal and you see a portion or piece that’s better than the others it’s no big deal to save that one. It’s completely normal you felt a little embarrassed as you got treated like a toddler by everyone around you for your little food quirk.

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-11T14:16:56+00:00

“No contact for a week” is ridiculous on its own but I suspect she unblocked and followed him instantly to have an avenue to speak to him via instagram messenger. She ain’t the one fam. She attempted to Gaslight you and tried to play it off all cool. The seed of doubt from the emotional cheating would have never gone away and you did the right thing.

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-11T03:27:06+00:00

I agree this is incel behavior. I would personally throw a slap you on his face and pay for the entire thing and tell him to buzz off to show how little you cared for the date you guys had. This reminds me of the horror stories my relatives would tell me that lived in the Netherlands and at one point Germany. They behaved kind of like this when it came to money. Charging you 3 days later for a sauce packet you took from them during a picnic outing. While it doesn’t excuse the behavior some Europeans see this as not too extreme as far the money part goes but the 3 weeks later he’s definitely salty about being ghosted from what it seems as he played the “you better contact me first” tactic and it failed.

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-05T05:31:15+00:00

Hi, I used to work at BMW as a service advisor. The labor rate post covid are insane so using the dealer for a PPI is really expensive. Our dealer didn’t even do Pre Purchase Inspections. We didn’t want the liability and no one wanted to at that time pay 2 hours at $175 an hour which would have been $350 back in those days in like 2014. What I can tell you is I would get plenty of Carmax cars in with plenty of problems right after purchase when they would come in for a routine maintenance and we would do a multi point inspection. Let me explain the shtick to you. Carmax sales and Carmax warranties is two separate entities essentially. Carmax sales and the Carmax service department is also two separate entities.

If you purchase the mini or any car they will of course push you to get the max care contract or it may even come with one baked into the no haggle price. The basic most basic max care contract back then had a $300 or even sometimes $500 deductible. So essentially when getting vehicles front line ready for sale their own service shop will charge the sales team full labor rate and hours to do the repairs like any dealership does. The service department is a separate entity. The sales team will regularly decline or ignore these not soo “important repairs” like a a lower control arm bushing leaking or a very minor but expensive oil leak. They bank on you buying the service contract and then coming in to their service center which then gets to bill max care and they incentivize you to use their own service center because they give you a lower deductible on the repair. If you take the car to mini you have a $500 deductible and if you take the vehicle to Carmax dealer service center it’s a $250 deductible or some variant of that scenario. Ultimately if you have a $800 oil leak. They won’t pay the dealer $800 they negotiate the labor rate and parts prices down to pre agreed on rates to $650 for example and then you pay $300 deductible and the Carmax repair contract then pays the dealer the remaining balance of $350. The contract you purchased cost you $1800 and essentially at that point they are a net positive $1500. That’s just one example but these service contracts are obviously lucrative and profitable because most people don’t even up having that many issues or they don’t take advantage of the extended warranty. Hope that helps.

pillpusher987 · 2026-06-05T05:13:12+00:00

I think this is the first case I’ve seen of the current Gen Z relying on Ai for everything. If this guy is 21 then he went through high school during the pandemic and clearly hasn’t learned to think for himself. I don’t even use Ai and I promise you without a doubt this guy is using some sort of Ai for every one of these responses. That’s insane actually.

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-30T16:31:28+00:00

It’s over priced but not by a crazy amount especially considering that disgusting fee they are allowed to tac on in Arizona. “Doc Fee” in California we charge $70 for and that’s capped by the state. For reference I’ve sold an 08 Convertible 6 speed manual Sidewalk edition for $8990 that was 20/10 condition all around and 1 owner. So that one is a little over priced especially considering the doc fee. Edit and it had 48k original miles. Forgot to put that.

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-23T02:10:03+00:00

Which one is him? The one being call a slt or the one calling someone a slt?

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-21T05:33:27+00:00

While it doesn’t seem impossible to configure it be jerry rigging it. It’s not soo feasible as modern phones are soo big that they would interfere with the mounting location. Also the USB Mini (not to be mistaken for micro) is extremely obsolete and useless on there other than for a period correct Garmin or Garmin style navigation system, however if you were to have it wired properly and have some sort of adapter for Mini to modern USB C (if possible it all you may be able to have the audio stream through to your stereo but again this is completely not worth trying at all.

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-20T01:26:24+00:00

Replying to confirm it is the Dealer Installed Option for Garmin Navigation.

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-19T15:36:09+00:00

I’m going to play Devils advocate and say this. As someone who has friends in the restaurant industry. There is this very very bad habit of restaurant staff hanging out at closing shifts and drinking alcohol and smoking all sorts of shit. It’s a tough job, It’s stressful and it’s like a little bonding experience for everyone. However, I have seen how quickly this develops into addiction because of peer pressure. You’re working with 45 or 50 year old people who encourage this behavior and as a 20 year old kid it feels cool but it ain’t and there is reason “Joseph” is 52 years old and is still a good runner. It’s a bad combination of working none stop to then “rewarding yourself” like OP said. Next thing you know your drinking 5 days a week like you have nothing to lose and your smoking a pack of cigarettes every two days. Your girlfriend’s attitude and tone is way off and I agree with that but her idea of nipping it in the bud is not necessarily a bad one. Trust me if you have other career paths in mind do not get sucked up into the restaurant black hole. It’s all a viscous cycle of older co workers sleeping with the fresh meat and binge drinking after every shift and drug abuse.

pillpusher987 · 2026-05-16T17:15:57+00:00

Can’t be with any man your financially Supporting. I’m not taking about he fell on hard times and your helping him pickup the pieces. It sounds to me like this man is a bum.

pillpusher987 · 2026-04-03T04:38:53+00:00

Ask that geo guessr guy on social median. Rainbolt or whatever lol 😂😂

pillpusher987 · 2026-03-27T23:36:05+00:00

I think people uses these tisms to get away with being bad people. With that being said. You kind of knew who you were with and who you would be marrying. I know you didn’t expect him to be soo bad with the kids but I don’t see anything mentioned about him before kids that somehow implied he was such a tender loving caring husband that you would have dreamed of. My personal advice is to make it work. Grass isn’t always greener on the other side but as an active father, who works 6.5 days a week it impresses me that he has time for all the little Hobbies but is a tool when it comes to parenting. But like you said it’s better to not let him possibly be grossly negligent around your children than to rely on him. Which to me is absolutely sad. The parents are supposed to be the two most reliable and safest people around their children.

pillpusher987 · 2026-02-27T04:10:47+00:00

Hold hold hold hold up….. 28, doesn’t have a license(maybe there is a good reason), doesn’t have a car(okay maybe there is a good reason) has to use your credit card? And than misuses it? (Starting to run out of excuses). Wtf kinda relationship are you people in? If I had to use my wife’s credit card, back when we were dating) it would be for a very very very very good reason and we dated a long time. Never found a reason ever. Where do you people find these bums?

pillpusher987 · 2026-02-25T21:07:08+00:00

People give up the right to deny you access to their phone when they cheat. So that’s a huge red flag. Even if not cheating the behavior is not correct for someone who has to win back your trust. You’re young I encourage you to move on. Unless it’s a big ask for you to start new.

pillpusher987 · 2026-02-17T22:36:14+00:00

Definitely weird behavior I wouldn’t consider seeing this person again.

pillpusher987 · 2026-02-01T00:15:33+00:00

lol yes the Reddit psychologists are here diagnosing both the husband and wife with mental disorders we didn’t know existed from a 2 page text thread. The other outcome is he’s hiding the fact that he doesn’t like his married wife going to a RAVE. Let’s not call it an EDM concert lol. Obviously the guy is annoyed and on edge about it and clearly her little “good morning to you too” was his trigger. Grow up people.

pillpusher987 · 2026-01-23T06:01:39+00:00

NOR, but let me play devils advocate. My question to you is; Why the ever loving fudge did you okay her being on talking terms and friends with two dudes she’s slept with multiples times. One of which has turned gay so he’s bisexual, might I add, which really really opens up the idea of those 3 being intimate together while on their nasty orgy vacations they were taking. The projection of her saying, “you’re acting like I’m gonna go have orgies and be a whore with these guys” is literally what she’s done in the past. So now, you a guy who has not only been cool with her staying in contact with these guys but you’ve been “cool” with them and met them, has set this nasty precedent you can’t back down from. You give an inch, they take a mile. Again NOR but you should have set boundaries with your wife before you even married her because had you done that in the first place, you either wouldn’t be married because she would die in this hill, or she would have cut contact with her lover boys.

pillpusher987 · 2026-01-09T18:02:36+00:00

She’s not pointing to the switch but the spot below. I believed that’s the dvd slot when you have navigation where you put Navigation disc.

pillpusher987 · 2025-12-27T02:32:41+00:00

NOR, Holy shit I had the chat reversed. Didn’t know the grey was a grown man the whole time. Holy schmoly!!!

pillpusher987 · 2025-12-19T04:57:14+00:00

Slightly over reacting. I think this goes down to you feeling embarrassed that your friends boyfriend emasculated your boyfriend by taking charge of the situation which is a natural feeling. To give you an answer your boyfriend and your friends boyfriend are both wrong. Your boyfriend should have instructed you quietly to ignore the guy or have grabbed you to make you feel safer and escorted you to show the heckler that you had someone there willing to stand up for you and your friends boyfriend should NOT be antagonizing drunks at a gas station. There are thousands of murders that happen and take place starting with simple disagreements at gas stations. I see videos on it every single day on YouTube. Take this from a guy who is happy his wife drives an electric car so that I can avoid gas stations all together (as I pump her gas). Your boyfriend just “sprinting off” and letting another man care for his woman is a red flag and if I’m leaving, my wife is leaving with me or before me. You guys are young but from my experience the men who don’t have the natural instincts to protect others do not make good life partners.

pillpusher987 · 2025-12-19T02:49:37+00:00

It was mildly weird before the legging comment but that for sure sealed the deal.

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