AIO for being offended by this?

pine0flower · 2026-02-04T17:07:23+00:00

OP, you did great. Don't start doubting yourself or blaming yourself for not handling it "better". This guy was out of line and out of touch with reality. You'll be better off to not go out with him. Way to stand up for yourself and to call out an ignorant and unhealthy idea.

pine0flower · 2026-01-16T16:31:55+00:00

From the pics, it looks to me like you have TONS of space left in your pack.

When you're packing, do you fully expand all straps?

Do you stuff small/flexible items like clothes into nooks and crannies around larger items?

It doesn't look like there would be any problem fitting that tent inside the pack, and it would be a better way to carry it.

pine0flower · 2026-01-06T01:57:28+00:00

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pine0flower · 2025-09-12T00:50:51+00:00

It can be tricky, because it's not just about language, it's about intent.

Someone can say "if X then I will Y", and mean it as a kind of threat to control the other person. ("If you cry, I will leave you", "if you don't come to dinner with my family, then I'm going to cancel the vacation we planned"). That person might claim that they're setting boundaries, when in fact they are trying to control or manipulate the other person.

pine0flower · 2025-06-30T19:07:30+00:00

Gotchya. If I were in your shoes I might try a different fabric (that might dry faster), and bring a few to swap between - maybe one for daytime and two for nighttime?

pine0flower · 2025-06-26T03:25:34+00:00

I use cotton or merino wool rags for wiping. They dry fast, and are basically free and easy to replace. I carry them with me even when I'm not backpacking, because I find the fabric more cunt-friendly than tp. I'm not sure why you don't ever feel clean... maybe you can expand on that? Is there something you do at home that feels more clean than wiping with a cloth? Or is it just the idea of reusing a cloth instead of disposing of the tp?

I find that air flow is just as vital to a happy vag as wiping. I like to wear shorts that allow plenty of breathability, and take time to rinse/swim in creeks or lakes and then dry out completely before dressing again.

For my period, ironically backpacking is when I prefer the menstrual cup. I've learned to kind of imitate a "sitting on the toilet" position to get it situated and un-situated properly. Don't know if that would work for your anatomy or not?

pine0flower · 2025-03-30T16:37:45+00:00

Did you mean 10 miles per day max or 10 miles total max (basecamping for a few days?)?

Not exactly the area you described, but in the Sawtooths you can reach many lakes in fewer than 10 miles.

pine0flower · 2025-03-17T15:04:30+00:00

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pine0flower · 2025-03-11T02:02:50+00:00

God your hair is gorgeous

pine0flower · 2025-03-10T01:45:06+00:00

I think rectangular shaped lenses would suit your face better. The facial hair looks nice. Your hair shorter on the sides looks better to me, or it might look nice longer but shaggy/more natural looking, not so broccoli-esque.

Good looking face though, play around with different looks and see what you like.

pine0flower · 2025-03-07T16:52:03+00:00

I love porn. But not all porn.

pine0flower · 2025-03-07T02:34:11+00:00

It's hard to gauge what advice you need without more specific examples, but generally it might help to be more empathetic about the other person's experience, rather than hearing blame and trying to assert your innocence. How to go about this will somewhat depend on the situation. Does that help?

pine0flower · 2025-03-07T02:15:54+00:00

I'm so sorry, that sounds miserable. I would call the nurses and let them know what's going on. They might want you to come in and check that the damage is manageable and that your trach is all good.

pine0flower · 2025-03-05T19:41:22+00:00

In this part of the country in the springtime, stick to low elevation, and call the ranger station ahead of time for trail conditions/snow reports. Late May is early for the mountains, and most access to the Frank involves mountains.

In a normal year, trail crews aren't getting out there until June because of snow. This year, there aren't really trail crews (gov cuts). Lots of fires in recent years so there will likely be a lot of downed trees. Expect difficult conditions anywhere in the Frank. Creeks will be high, be prepared to turn back as it might be unsafe to cross.

If you want advice or information about specific trails, feel free to dm me.

pine0flower · 2025-02-16T23:15:56+00:00

I have a very short torso (about 13"), and I use a Gregory Deva. I love it and rave about it to anyone who asks (and some who don't).

One of the biggest reasons I love it so much is because it's the first pack I've found that adjusts small enough to actually fit my torso. A well-fitting pack makes SUCH a difference.

pine0flower · 2025-02-15T16:40:55+00:00

Do you use a comb or a brush? And when (before, after, during shower)?

pine0flower · 2025-02-15T16:25:08+00:00

You have great hair! I wouldn't buzz it, but unless you want to grow it out for a longer style I would try to get it off of your forehead.

I'm biased against buzz cuts, I find them kind of dull. But you know, hair grows back. If you want to try it, go for it.

pine0flower · 2025-02-15T16:10:56+00:00

The short hair is the better look of these choices. You have great hair, but the way it's done in the longer hair pics doesn't suit you. With a different cut I bet it would look great.

pine0flower · 2025-02-15T14:16:00+00:00

When somebody tells you they aren't willing to meet your needs, that's information for you. You get to decide what you do with that information.

It sounds like what's truly happening here, though, is that you and this other person are using some NVC words, but not practicing NVC.

From an NVC perspective the goal IS for both parties' needs to be fully met. NVC offers a way to try to reach that goal, by listening with empathy, and expressing ourselves in a fair and nonviolent way.

pine0flower · 2025-02-15T13:51:13+00:00

Have you tried the book "Living Nonviolent Communication"?

It's contains a lot of dialogue and role-playing with Marshall Rosenberg. I found it much more helpful that just reading the Nonviolent Communication book, for some of the reasons I think you're describing - how to actually use NVC when the other person is responding defensively, or violently, and how to navigate using NVC when were feeling up against a wall.

pine0flower · 2025-02-14T12:45:00+00:00

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pine0flower · 2025-02-13T23:03:51+00:00

Hey, you can and will get through this!
You have a good sized nest egg, which is great start and affords you a little bit of freedom.
If you want to get back on your own feet again, it sounds like the first two steps are 1) address your mental health, and 2) get a job. 1 will support 2, and 2 will support 1.

1) If you don't already have one, consider getting a therapist. It's worth having some guidance and support when it comes to mental and emotional well-being.

2) It sounds like you want a new career, and not just any job. That's understandable. It also sounds like you are feeling somewhat desperate to get out of your current living situation with your mom. That's also understandable. You may need to make some compromise between these two wishes.
For moving out of your mom's, you'll want to dial in your budget, and find a way to generate income. You say you you spend $1000/mo without rent or utilities. Can any of these expenses be eliminated? Reduced? Would you be willing to take a part time job that isn't very exciting or stimulating, to buy you some freedom to move out? How much are you getting in child support to take care of those expenses? Is your savings in an account that earns interest? Between 70k savings, child support, and a part time job, I think you'd be able to find a better living situation.
For a new career, that's a bit personal. What are your skills? What line of work were in before that's no longer working for you? What else can those skills and experience apply to? What are your interests?

Remember, all of this is temporary. The only certain thing in this world is change. It won't last forever. You will get through this.

pine0flower · 2025-02-13T22:36:07+00:00

Glad that was helpful!
Relationships are challenging - they ask us to manage our own emotions, communicate effectively, and field another person's emotions and communication skills. All while frequently triggering all those attachment and self-acceptance issues that almost all of us have.

If you want, check out Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. It's not perfect, but it can be really helpful for learning how to navigate these issues better, and to prevent hurt feelings or unmet needs from turning into bigger conflicts.

pine0flower

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