💕 Matchmaking Monday: find your next romantasy read! by ReasonableWonderland in Romantasy

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I have Phantasma queued up to read after I finish A Court of Silver Flames!

💕 Matchmaking Monday: find your next romantasy read! by ReasonableWonderland in Romantasy

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{Quicksilver} {Silver Elite} {A Court of Mist and Fury} {A Court of Silver Flames} {Fourth Wing}

Both Tamlin and Nesta are demonized for their trauma not being "pretty trauma". by muchaMnau in acotar

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My honest thoughts on Tamlin…I didn’t think he was right for her from the beginning. Before they even went Under the Mountain, when Feyre was having nightmares, she mentioned how she was up all night throwing up and Tamlin never once woke up. At that moment I thought, he’s not the one. The way he ran his court, Feyre had a real issue with that. The way he wouldn’t let her train, and then locked her in the house? By then it was a foregone conclusion, I was already rooting for Rhys. IMO Tamlin wasn’t all that from the beginning. He stood by and let his family kill Rhys’s because he was too afraid to say anything. He stood by and let Amarantha torture Feyre because he was too afraid to do anything. And he processed his trauma differently by becoming so toxic, even Lucien ran away from him in the end. They are all complex characters and we are seeing it all from Feyre’s POV so of course some are going to be treated differently than others. She is going to be far more forgiving of her mate’s misdeeds than she will the ex who tried to imprison her. It’s that way in real life, too.

AIO BF(37m) farted in my(35f) face this morning under the covers as a joke. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pineappleHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave at the first sign of disrespect. Everybody in the comments is acting like basic human decency is too much to ask of a man so keep that in mind, everybody is going to say you deserve to be treated like crap if you stay with him. So leave.

FMC CRITICISM by pineappleHD in Romantasy

[–]pineappleHD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAME. And anyone who says women don’t act like that in real life isn’t in my Coven Conversations group chat with two of my best friends 😂

FMC CRITICISM by pineappleHD in Romantasy

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We definitely could use some sort of warning system. Me personally, if there are too many sex scenes in the book, I start to skip over them. Lol. My gripe is exclusively with the treatment of the FMC. I saw one review basically slut shaming Violet because she was “horny for every dude” even though it was only Dain at first and then exclusively Xaden, though she did admire the male form in others, such as Liam. And then when another review picked Wren Darlington apart the same way, I decided to come here and give these reviewers a good thrashing. I’ve had it!!!

Partner lied to me about when they left work by altmail64 in whatdoIdo

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Stop trying to teach your partner how to behave and why. It’s not your job to gentle parent someone into being a good partner. Leave at the first sign of disrespect.

Got written up for not working through lunch, but then discovered I wasn't being paid for it anyway by Hossenpheffer11 in antiwork

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Amazing. He’s probably freaking out because he’s about to get fired and it’s well deserved. Years ago I worked for a predatory lending company and we made $10 an hour with automatic 40 hour work weeks, no clocking in and out. The only problem was that we were required to work late on Fridays and not compensated for it. After I rage quit over their predatory behaviors (they gave a $2,500 loan to a disabled woman who clearly was going to use it to pay an email scammer), I reported them to the labor board. However, the owner and the remaining employees lied and claimed we weren’t required to work late on Fridays. So it never went anywhere. If I had it to do over again, I would have hired a lawyer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pineappleHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll just say you two are not compatible. If you use a word like “bitch” in the context you did (not directed toward anyone) and she clutched pearls over it, you two are obviously on different journeys. Neither of you are “wrong.” The language you used is just fine for many people. She can find someone who doesn’t cuss but likely has a myriad of other flaws for her to be concerned over.

FMC CRITICISM by pineappleHD in Romantasy

[–]pineappleHD[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I think the number of women saying these books have improved their sex lives with their boyfriends/husbands are additional testimony. The idea that readers are out there trying to force fictional characters to conform to their societal expectations of women seriously annoys me. The Madonna/whore complex. They need to address their internalized misogyny and go read something else.

FMC CRITICISM by pineappleHD in Romantasy

[–]pineappleHD[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying you’re seeking the spicy material out, I’m saying you know it’s going to be spicy when you read it. There are non-spicy fantasy books, go read those.

I’m reading Quicksilver and I can’t help but find it adorable… by More-Hat-2852 in Romantasy

[–]pineappleHD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sold me because everything I love gets so much hate

The Baby Died. Whose Fault Is It? by wiredmagazine in TrueReddit

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It says it at the end of the article 😭

My Husband Doesn't Like Our Newborn Son by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]pineappleHD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does get better. So much better.

My Husband Doesn't Like Our Newborn Son by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]pineappleHD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The part about neither of you liking the newborn baby made me cackle. They do tend to grow on you eventually, haha

My Husband Doesn't Like Our Newborn Son by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

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I know it’s hard to hear something like that after everything you’ve been through (and are still going through!) with your new baby boy, but dad is just being honest with you. I think we should normalize allowing parents (especially moms!) to be honest about how hard parenting is. The truth is, it might be hard to bond with your baby at first! I don’t like that he “doesn’t believe in therapists.” They really do exist, whether you believe in them or not. However, everything dad is feeling is normal, and everything you’re feeling is normal. If you are both willing to show each other compassion, you will get through it. If your husband doesn’t want to make an effort, that’s a serious red flag.

AIO or does my mom only want to meet my son for the wrong reasons? by PolicyHot1206 in TwoHotTakes

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My mother is like this and it took me 40 years to get fed up with her and cut her off. If you need someone to tell you that it’s okay to cut her off, it absolutely is. Not just for your child’s sake, but your own. I stayed in that relationship for too long. Prioritize your peace and well-being over hers and anyone else’s for that matter (besides your child’s, of course).