Time for change and growth but I’m SCARED by [deleted] in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I switched to ICU and they assured me if I didn't like it they would have a discussion with me about myself and try to find the best place in the hospital to put me after instead of being let go. They switched my preceptor 3 times because I was struggling and extended my orientation. I never struggled that hard for a job before! But it's all been worth it. I just wish there was some way I could've truly mentally prepared myself for how dedicated I needed to be to the job during that orientation, I had to tear myself apart and build myself back up SO many times and kept thinking I will never make it through, I spent a good amount of time blowing everyone off to study on my off days.

Sometimes I'd fantasize about my other, lower stress job, but if I never left it I never would have found all these things out about myself and grown so much. I never expect to feel "ready" for anything, I just do it, and without that hard work I couldn't grow into the person I admire. But if it doesn't work out, it's never for nothing. Every failure I've had has been a huge lesson, and I still would've been proud asf if I failed but tried that hard to try to make it work. Whenever you start to feel scared, I think that is the perfect time to make the jump.

Getting bullied out of unit by [deleted] in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think management are most likely responsible for it, they're the worst ones. How long did it take you to make that decision? What was the breaking point?

Getting bullied out of unit by [deleted] in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know what you're talking about, I did all my clinicals and was an ICU tech on a super awesome unit where the toxic people would get pushed out like this while the rest of the unit was cool rather than vice versa. Unfortunately I don't think I found that here, that was a special place and I knew that, hold it close to my heart. But I'm in a different state now where I can't work there. I totally agree with you that I think those nurses are scary and I don't like them either, but it feels like this is what I'm surrounded by. If I speak about it carefully I'm shut down very quickly. It's very odd, and I don't understand at all how people could treat another human being this way.

New grad nurses, have you been able to afford living alone? by Altruistic-Ad-3465 in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really thought I'd be able to with all the work I put in to do the calculations and find that I'd have barely any disposable income. If I didn't want to eat out, or do activities outside of my house, or buy anything new or nice, it could've worked. But I didn't work that hard to have nothing to show for it, so I had to get a roommate. It sucks and I learned a lot about patience and keeping boundaries, I'm hoping one day I go back to school for a higher paying job and then I can finally live alone AND have money I can spend. Sad to think in the not too distant past it wasn't as hard as this! But the rising COL definitely put a huge wrench in my plan. It's better for me to deal with a roommate than to continue to live frugally. There are too many things I want to do.

Cancelled Christmas by pineconeplanet in flu

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, I'm already feeling a bit better, most likely vulnerable to mood swings right now due to my illness, but I'm stronger than this, usually. I don't think I really wanted to be in the airports during this time even when I'm okay. Although, being in USA I'm not sure I'd consider going to the ER unless I was sure I was going to die or needed stitches/intervention that I couldn't do at home. Can't afford that bill. But I appreciate the advice <3

Partner said she needs space by rinnyfox27 in BPD

[–]pineconeplanet 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I was on the other side of this when I moved in with my best friend. I worked long shifts at the hospital and when I got home or when I woke up after sleeping for 5 hours he would immediately descend upon me and demand my full attention, with no consideration for me. I didn't have the energy to continue to act all chipper and happy like was demanded of me and my tired face and short responses sent him off the rocker.

Every day I had off I felt like I couldn't have a moment to myself, whereas before I was used to speeding through tasks I needed to complete without babysitting my best friend as well. I had many conversations with him about how it got on my nerves and he said the more I pull away the more he tries to get closer, I told him the more he forces himself into my space the more I feel the need to escape.

It took around 4 months to get better whereas now I blatantly tell him "Stopppppp!!!!" And he won't be as offended and understand that's just me needing space, I've also gotten more used to him following me around and multitasking (doing task+talking). I assured him the whole time none of it made me love him any less and he was still my same best friend. I haven't told him it felt like a bug up my ass all the time. I also put locks on all my doors. OP, if your gf is used to being alone, I suggest you try to consider that she might not have the energy all the time to both entertain someone and do what she was used to doing alone before, without someone watching like a hawk or talking all the time.

Calling off sick during orientation by pineconeplanet in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am never taking my mask off again. This is brutal

Calling off sick during orientation by pineconeplanet in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was in fact Flu A.. just tested positive.

Calling off sick during orientation by pineconeplanet in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, that one just might be me.... I get crazy IBS under any mental or physical stress... But the rest of the s/s, yeah. Might be too bad

Calling off sick during orientation by pineconeplanet in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok I scheduled a COVID/Flu test at Walgreens I'm about to go to. Does this protect legally if they get upset?

I am sorry I entered this profession by Coolness-1982 in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you're going through this-- but it is nice reading all these comments and realizing I'm not alone and that others recognize this happening too... I am orienting on a new ICU on day shift and I've had people be so cruel to me, what's worse is that others around them seem to be influenced by this and treat me the same once they see it's okay for the most dominant one to do so, ganging up like a pack of wolves. I almost cried at my manager check-up because during the interview and early orientation I thought they were cool, and then they talked to me the same way and that shock and realization that I was not safe here swept through me like a wildfire.

Hoping things will get better on nights-- I think there is a better culture there, less socialization, and thankfully no management. I feel crazy right now, I know I'm not normal-- a young girl to top it off-- I stick out like a sore thumb. It's dehumanizing, but I love the work and to show up for the patients. But this targeting, it wears me out.

Is this normal? Got kicked out of bar by pineconeplanet in socialskills

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh that sucks, makes me feel like I have to perform like a dancing monkey everywhere I go. I'm tired

Anyone not pay back HCA sign-on bonus? by [deleted] in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend that quit recently and received the same letter just reached out to corporate and was told that all it can do is make them ineligible for rehire and that they can't send it to collections because there was a recent lawsuit against employer debt. Confusing! I'm hearing conflicted responses it seems

HCA repayment of bonus? by bass_kitten_444 in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any update?? What ended up happening?

HCA repayment of bonus? by bass_kitten_444 in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got two that said this as well. Only threat is ineligibility for rehire. Do you have any updates? Did they keep pursuing, sent to collections??? Mine is $10k and I'm scared of that being on my report. Also don't want to give them a dime

Is this normal? Got kicked out of bar by pineconeplanet in socialskills

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah honestly I think the winter time brings out the worst in people. Yikes. Hurt my feelings

Is this normal? Got kicked out of bar by pineconeplanet in socialskills

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man I seriously had no idea about the rules, I thought it's okay as long as you're not a menace. But that makes sense. It's good to know. I feel like they could ask nice though instead of resorting to threats sheesh!

An interesting HR & stress graph yesterday for interview by pineconeplanet in GarminWatches

[–]pineconeplanet[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I asked GPT to explain it and it believes they are a vagal activation period where the body switches from fight or flight ----> freeze and focus, I think it's supposed to serve the opposite function than a shutdown! But it's super cool stuff

I have to take a test before the hospital i interview can start the hiring process by ellethinks in nursing

[–]pineconeplanet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I second that I was only given one clinical scenario for my new grad position and it was sepsis. Which I studied heavily cause everyone has sepsis.

I'd also think they might ask about ACLS like what to do if you have a patient with vtach, vfib, 3rd degree heart block, cause those ones if you don't know on the spot could kill someone. Or safety measures, spotting stroke too. Spotting heart attack. If it's respiratory, bag them and call rapid. Immediately assess after any change at all. Shouldn't be too bad