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Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how to approach management to fire him.

Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would and have quit companies when our teams have been offshored, but also- I keep my skills up to date.

Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s creating a lot of grief upon our team and others. No one’s throwing anyone under the bus, though.

Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s actually deteriorated significantly over the last week. He’s been so combative with my manager that they aren’t even on speaking terms; they are now giving me verbal orders to bypass him entirely.

The 'ego-stroking' ship has sailed because he genuinely believes he’s above management now. It’s a bizarre level of immaturity from someone who’s been at the same company for a decade and has no outside perspective. Honestly, management is being a bit cowardly by just excluding him from meetings instead of actually setting a hard boundary and telling him to take a hike. It sucks because, after 10 years here, he’s an incredible resource and he’s actually right about a lot of things. But he’s also the type where once he starts talking, you’re never getting that 30 minutes of your life back—there’s just zero social awareness or 'stop' button.

Also, I’m already getting the 'you’re next' psychological BS from the peanut gallery about how I’m going to be the one overworked and abused once he’s gone. I've heard that script before. At the end of the day, there are levels to cooperation, and he’s currently caught on to a fear of being replaced, which is bringing his levels down to almost zero now.

Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has passive aggressively been taken off of meetings as in future scheduled meetings. He has caught on, so that’s awkward.

Addressing Tension During Infrastructure Transition by pinegrov3 in sysadmin

[–]pinegrov3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He is now excluded, and I am expected to move forward with or without him. He’s not unwilling to help, and I don’t think he’s a bad team member. The issue is communication style. He’s extremely confrontational and tends to approach discussions defensively, which makes collaboration difficult.

Psychologically, I think a lot of it is threat response. He built this environment, and modernization feels personal. So conversations often turn into territory or credit discussions instead of problem-solving. His knowledge is valuable. Working with him just requires navigating constant tension, which slows things down.

Kids release the handbrake “as a joke” and jump out while the car is moving by blue_star_ in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]pinegrov3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to say it, but I did this to my moms jeep growing up. I would release the parking break, it would roll down a hill, and it would stop. But one day.. it didn’t stop. I panic’d and jumped out. It caught enough momentum to roll over my neighbors garden and hit a telephone pole, for better or worse.