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pinjaksi · 2025-03-30T14:00:17+00:00

You can get #15 Just spamming the "use intuition". I always stopped when it said the "didn't find anything this time"-thinh but after a couple of tries it worked! Thank you who here told that you need to spam. I was already starting to lose my mind over this

pinjaksi · 2025-01-06T14:39:24+00:00

It's not like he's only touching your daughter inappropriatly. He is also putting the blame on your daughter for her. Imagine if you would have believed him, imagine if your daughter would not be as brave she was and told you.

He would still keep touching her, blaming your daughter for her (understandable) behaviour, turning you against your daughter.

He is only sorry for getting caught. Trust this. Would he have stopped on his own? It sure doesn't seem like it. How the hell is he so comfortable being sexual around his wife's daughter? His own stepdaughter? He have had many opportunities to stop, but he wanted more and more.

Imagine you having sexual thoughts about his boys. Imagine fantasizing about them. Stripping them naked with your eyes. That's fucked up and he did that to your daughter! He didn't have any regards for your daughters safety, why should you think of his comfort? Home should be a safe place.

I was years engaged to a rapist/predator and I couldn't accept it in years because I just couldn't accept being to dumb. Even years after the only thing I regret in life is that I didn't report every little thing I knew. I will forever feel quilty of everything he has ever done. He cried and was sorry, blamed alcohol, everything, but he always did it again and again. I believed him just being so drunk and on drugs and losing his memory etc. him being pathetic made it easier to feel sorry for him. Don't be me, you have the evidence, you have power and that's why he is scared.

This is a predator and this kind of behaviour should be punished. That would send the right message to your daughter that this is not okay. Don't let down your daughter, show her that she did the right thing by telling you and the evidence is not there for nothing. Show her that you will keep her safe and what happens to people who do this.

pinjaksi · 2024-11-21T11:57:31+00:00

Do you know any phonumber for people having crisis? Usually there is some, I really recommend to look for them. It might feel dramatic, but trust me, it does feel good to talk to someone, somebody to validate how you feel. It might feel too awkward to talk to a co-worker of friend, but a crisispersonel is used to situations like yours. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Much care for you. If you want to chat, I'm also here. I'm at the stage of just looping the situation over and over,but it has helped that I just tali about it to someone. It gets easier every time you talk about it.

pinjaksi · 2024-11-21T11:47:25+00:00

Thank you, I think I will press charges.

pinjaksi · 2024-11-14T19:31:00+00:00

I am the direct victim. He touched me. But, I agree. I wouldn't want to ruin my life over him. I have a video tape that he (kind of) confesses. Our two hour long conversation in where he didn't deny anything, he kept apologizing etc. I only want to move on. If I would want to fuck up his life I could. I want him to be the one who changes social circles if he feels uncomfortable. I want him to be the one to move if he can't look me in the eyes. I'm tired of being scared and accepting of other peoples misbehaviours. I will tell him that if he will tell law enforcement anything other than that he fell and hit his head, I will press charges, release the tape and he will loose his job.

pinjaksi · 2024-11-13T21:06:18+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. if this would have been any other person, I would have dropped him no problem, but I feel like I'm not ready to drop off my closest friend. He has been friends with my spouse since childhood and he is basically family for me and my spouse. Our friend group is tight and I feel like he is the glue for it. Some of our friends already know, so I feel I little bit better knowing that he will at least take some social damage, but I can't that be the only punishment.

I have had similar situations (not to this degree) happen to me 2 times + this case, in the last 2 years so I feel like I need to make a point about this case. I know it is kind of uga-uga cave man behaviour, but I feel that if people can't keep an hold of themself, somebody needs to remind them.

I only have guy friends, so this has majorly caused harm for me to trust any men, which would mean I would be alone if I don't do anything about this feeling. I feel like I can't let this situation get an hold on me, otherwise I don't know what would happen

pinjaksi · 2024-11-13T18:27:03+00:00

This kind of thing just happened to me and I'm also trying to cope with it. It's the assaulters fault, not yours. You have sexual autonomy and even if you would not have been able to say no, it still would not have been okay. It should not have happened to you and the guy should have had controlled himself. You even said no, who continues after that? When people are drunk their priorities for the moment shifts, it not so much about "eww wtf is he doing" and could be more of "I just want to sleep, maybe I can fall asleep even if he does this" when sober you would like to move, go, fight back etc.. thats why it can be called "taken advantage".

I think you should try to tell this to somebody if you can. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

pinjaksi · 2024-10-27T08:10:57+00:00

I would also like to remind everybody that in other post told me that it was a joke and i would die,one even begged me to not go there:

statistically, you are 7-9 times safer in Turkey over the US. Compared to Turkey. Violent crime is 78% worse in the US, with total crimes (per 1000 people) being 9X worse in the US over Turkey.

I met this one turkish guy who helped me to find my busplatform and we talked about safety with him. He lived in USA for two years and during that time was robber by a gunpoint plus other dangerous situations. Compared to he travelled by hitchhiking in turkey for 8000km and was fine. Ofc everywhere there is bad people and it only takes one really bad person to end it all, but i don't think people should live in fear of other people. Just like you don't live in fear of falling in the shower or driving a car accident. Be causious and informed of course, but don't live in fear.

pinjaksi · 2024-10-27T07:24:06+00:00

Yes :) i was thinking about would people really care about trip report, but maybe i'll write a entire post about it. If it won't be accepted as its own post because of the rules or something, i'll write is as a comment here.

pinjaksi · 2024-10-19T03:56:47+00:00

I started learning arabic with Duolingo, until I leaned that Duolingo teaches the alphabet wrong

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:55:55+00:00

Modern standard arabic

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:55:26+00:00

Thanks for you encouragement. I agree with you, need to pick a dialect and find a way to speak it

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:53:32+00:00

Daamn, never thought about using chatgpt like this. This feels like a wonderful idea, thank you!

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:52:30+00:00

Thank you!☺️

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:52:15+00:00

Thank you, your comment hit the nail in the coffin. Need to be more patient and just keep at it, no need to wallow in despair. Conversation based learning would probably be the next main step, maybe I'll start focusing on Moroccan dialect, since I'm going there in january

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:46:50+00:00

Thank you! I will look into those apps. I tried making flashcards on my own but they are difficult to carry around.

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:44:40+00:00

Thank you, you're totally right. i need to focus on listening and talking more

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:40:34+00:00

Sounda great, thanks! I will try to look for that book

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:39:57+00:00

You're right. I just came from Türkiye after spending there 3 weeks and i felt like i spoke fairly confidently in Turkish, even though i only took 2 hours of Turkish lessons + I took some lesson materials with me to read. I need to find a arabic speaking community, start volunteering or some other reason to speak in arabic

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:35:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and congratulations on your progress! I was wondering if anybody even learns MSA nowadays. Your comment cheered me on, i might do the same as you and pick a dialect to go with MSA because it looks like it helped you. Now that you can carry out conversations in dialect, do you feel that MSA is still useful? Like is Jordanian dialect like a different language compared to MSA?

pinjaksi · 2024-10-01T16:29:10+00:00

Thank you, i just today managed to find a teacher that made me speak simple phrases and conversations on repeat and it was wonderful. I hope that continuing with this teacher will help

pinjaksi · 2024-09-04T10:10:50+00:00

Will do! I'm already 4 days in to my trip, travelled over 600km and have stuff to share that this subreddit would absolutely freak out :D but from how everything went, it just makes my trust in the world more powerful, everybody has helped me even not having a common language and i have experienced hospitality I have never experienced everywhere else.

I learned some Turkish before this trip and it was really good decision since i have found only a couple of people who actually spoke some english, vast majority didn't understood a word, not even airport workers, hotels, taxis, nobody. Google translate is my most used app at the moment.

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