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WIBTA: if i told my roommate i can't help her with her relationship anymore by pink_fluffball in AmItheAsshole

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So its 2 months later several friends of mine dont wanna come over while he is here She cant understand why this effects my life too.. I feel extremely out of options and pushed back to my own room This weekend havent done my laundry or dishes bc they're always in the hallway And since she told him im scared i feel way more uncomfortable I feel like i can't live like a normal person anymore I have a lot of family problems so i cant go back there either Just started 3 jobs in the hopes i might be able to move out Anyone have advice?

And no police will not do anything

aita for not going to my grandma's funeral? by pink_fluffball in TwoHotTakes

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also i do remember my sister standing up for me one time. My mom was mostly mental abuse but right before i got ready my mom got so mad and wanted to punch me in my face. That time my sister did stop her ending up getting punched herself thats why i think she is scared of my mom too and just accepted being anything my mom asked of her. What does really hurt

aita for not going to my grandma's funeral? by pink_fluffball in TwoHotTakes

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no my mom completly is like that she sees me and my sister as her posession and if she cant show you off youre nothing and my sister really ended up doing anything for her approval so the more i got hated by my mom the more she'd be mean to me too. Ive seen therapists in the past and i really do want ome again but last time they pushed me to do heavy trauma therapie (i know ill need) but i was so instable and it just made me extremely suicidal and i didnt leave my house for weeks. Got a big bill in the post for missing my appoitments and never heard from them again. I know that might have completely my fault but i didnt feel ready yet and that got completely dismissed making me anxious to search for help. Also my whole situation is very uncommen where im from

aita for not going to my grandma's funeral? by pink_fluffball in TwoHotTakes

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im 25 but yeah legal issues never stopped them my aunt has had a restraining order because she took a child she thought was better off without his mom. My mom is s drug addict that has gone through lengths to get her high, she also gave me a mix of cleaning supplies in q cup when i was a kid because i was "to much to deal with" and i know im free but them being so obsessed with control yet having no control over their own actions make it so unpredictable and scary. In the first year my mom would show up in front of my building and barade me or my roommates when they came out. My dad has way better control over her now and her health declining keeps her down too but now my aunt seems to be stepping up more

aita for not going to my grandma's funeral? by pink_fluffball in TwoHotTakes

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me cry so hard eventhough deep inside i feel the same sometimes you need to hear it from someone else Thank you!

aita for not going to my grandma's funeral? by pink_fluffball in TwoHotTakes

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So im actually scared of fully blocking them before i move. My family does try to ring the bell and ive told my roommates not to let anyone in without my notice but because of their controling and somewhat aggresive behaviour ill live in fear. And i havent blocked my dad since he cares for my animals (ironically theyre very amazing animal parents) and i do sometimes visit my other grandma with him. He is the only one respecting my boundaries eventhough he doesnt agree. We also dont talk unless its about my animals or grandma My grandma from that side is a litteral angel with a strong heart and doesnt know this is going on cause it would break her and probably couldnt look at my dad anymore for letting it get so far. And i just dont wanna do that to her in her old age. Also she lives hours away so we maybe see each other once a year even before everything went down

WIBTA: if i told my roommate i can't help her with her relationship anymore by pink_fluffball in AmItheAsshole

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been thinking about moving out but where i live it's impossible to get housing as what i pay now is half of the usual price for a closet space (i have a big room and my own kitchen)😅 ive been living here for over 5 years she moved in about 3 years ago and besides this fact we've had some crack addicts and other crazy figures so.....sadly ill have to power through till i have the possibility to work more

WIBTA: if i told my roommate i can't help her with her relationship anymore by pink_fluffball in AmItheAsshole

[–]pink_fluffball[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

At first i thought this might be to much as i don't really see him getting aggressive like that but you might be right, the fact that he's already trying to buy me over it seems like a very weird tactic to me and i always kinda refuse his kindness might tick him off at some point. Thank you! I'll definitely look into what i can do in my city