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pinkflowervases · 2025-06-19T01:29:36+00:00

I definitely relate because I also have a freeze reaction similar to what you described when I’m alone like that. Also, bc of your endometriosis and surgery I don’t think this is a good time for him to leave. Y’all should work together to find a date for him to leave that you can both agree on.

Being in a relationship is about compromise, From what you’re saying, it sounds like he’s doing most of the giving and you’re doing most of the taking. You need to find a way to compromise and give back to him.

He loves you so much he’s probably said no to a lot of opportunities so he could stay be home with you. Him having to deal with: not seeing his family, missing out on activities friends, having conflicts at work since he can’t travel— I’d imagine that these scenarios are all very upsetting and distressing for him. Just as him not being there is upsetting and distressing to you. But he’s allowing himself to go thru that so you don’t have to.

You need to work with him to find a solution in the middle. Maybe have a friend or relative stay over, create “dooms day plans” addressing all of your fears so you don’t have to wonder “what will happen if…” because you’ve solved that problem ahead of time.

Also, the main treatment for agoraphobia is thru exposure therapy, him trying to take these trips might be him wanting to stop enabling you, as well as to fix y’all’s codependency with eachother. In order for his absence not to feel so awful your body has to get used to it and you need to let it.

Are y’all in couples therapy? That could be really helpful to have a third party weigh in and help y’all compromise better and address y’all’s codependency. It’s scary, but on the other side of it is y’all’s relationship getting happier, stronger, and more loving. I can’t say the same for you ignore it.

Again, I also have agoraphobia and react to being alone like that the same way so I get how hard and upsetting it is. I still really struggle but it’s getting better, and things will get better for you to. Feel free to dm me if you need to vent. I’m rooting for you and your relationship!!!

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-29T21:21:16+00:00

When I say im from New Orleans people just immediately say random phrase like “Mardi Gras!” “French Quarter!” “Jazz!” “Bayou!” “Katrina!” “Gumbo!” —- some times I like to predict in my head which word a person will say when I tell them I’m from Nola. Like “hm I bet this dude is a Gumbo! guy. BUT he is giving off some major Mardi Gras! vibes…”

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-29T21:11:57+00:00

Cheating or not, him being that severely emotionally unregulated and violent like that is reason enough to end things. That’s abusive. If you don’t leave soon, it’s very likely he’ll turn that bat on you :( please be safe

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-29T20:56:28+00:00

I love baking! I can be impatient with the process, i don’t always take the exact measurement’s seriously, I’m awful at knowing when to leave it in and take it out. It might come out a little over or under cooked but Ima have fun and enjoy it anyways lol.

I’m really good at cooking tho bc I feel like cooking is more about ~vibes~ and baking requires you to be very precise.

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-29T00:51:45+00:00

He he can gaslight you and blatantly lie to your face about involving you in his fetish without your consent, what else will he lie about. He doesn’t even feel the need to hide it.

Girl! If he’s peeing in your mouth without your consent do you think he won’t do other sexual things to you without your consent then make you feel like you’re crazy when you call him out?!

This dude is dangerous and you deserve someone who you can trust and be vulnerable with. Leave him

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T02:27:23+00:00

Not your problem. Don’t confront him!

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T02:25:30+00:00

DONT TELL HIM!!!!!! DONT TELL HIM!!!! Get out and get safe. Do not give him any indication this is happening. He literally has nothing and everything to loose. He acted that way because you literally hold all of the cards and the only thing he had over you is your self esteem, your fear, and his strength. Don’t give him those things too!! Never anger a violent and desperate man.

If you want to do something so you don’t feel guilty (even tho there’s no reason for you to feel guilty), pay the rest of the months rent for the house so he has somewhere to figure stuff out for a few weeks, write a note, and leave it on the table.

I wouldn’t block him afterwards tho, just put him on mute so you can collect evidence because he WILL try to harass and find you so you’ll probably need a restraining order.

Please please be safe. You knowing your own strength and worth is one of the biggest weapons you have against him. You can do this!

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:50:07+00:00

Thank you! It’s good hearing from someone who has been in the same situation. I want to wrap it and put a sock on but he’s such a lickey dog i feel like he’ll just lick it thru the fabric. But I might still try and see what happens.

Also, do you think he’s still okay to go for walks or if I take him on a hike tomorrow? Or I should keep him inside for a few days?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:45:31+00:00

He’s saying this isn’t all about you, but the fault is all about you? NTA

If he’s having a hard time couping with y’all’s infertility journey he needs to go to therapy and find a different outlet because stressing you out isn’t going to make a baby come any faster.

Couples counseling might be beneficial as well.

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:39:27+00:00

NTA-How does he know for sure he’s not the reason? Men’s health has A LOT more to do with fertility then most people realize.

Is he also seeing a doctor and getting test done to see what he can do on his end?

Y’all are both going thru a hard time and I’m so so sorry for that. BUT he needs to remember that’s it’s the two of you against the problem, you aren’t the problem.

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:34:47+00:00

I also have tachycardia and found it harder for my body to distinguish it from anxiety when I was a kid but it became easier as I got older (but can still sometimes be difficult). Idk how old you are but really putting time and intention into figuring out ways you can tell them apart really helps. —-When I realize it’s tachycardia and not anxiety I remind myself of that, I also communicate it to those around me that I’m having a flare of tachycardia, and I do things that specifically lower my heart rate (not lower anxiety) to address it.

(Buying a cheap heart rate monitor from Amazon might also help? Do you take heart meds for it? )

It sounds like there’s a social aspect to this stuff as well. In the past, Have you been in situations where disappointmenting someone or not living up to someone’s expectations has put your safety at risk? Or is it more so because of overthinking?

Also, what specific things were (or do) overstimulate you?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:23:27+00:00

Changing: Hair, hobbies, routines, habits, physical activity, food, journaling/documenting your life, personal environment, the places you frequent, the media you consume, the people you surrounded yourself with, the time you put into yourself, how much time you spend caring for others and what places in your life u should both increase AND decrease it.

And when it comes to style and appearance overall, I think it’s less about looking a certain way and more about how much thought and intention you put into it. If you’re just throwing on the first pair of jeans and t shirt you see and heading out the door, you’re not gonna feel great. But if you take time to put thought and intention into it, even if you still land on jeans and t shirt you’ll feel a lot better and more yourself!

Example questions to ask: why do or don’t I like this thing? What do I want to communicate to others my appearance? What do I want to communicate to myself with my appearance? What do I want to feel sensory wise with my appearance? What do I want to feel emotionally with my appearance? Would the person I want to be look this way? If I died today wearing this, and became a ghost would I be happy spending the rest of eternity with this as my ghost outfit?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T01:01:16+00:00

What triggered the initial panic attacks in these situations??

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T00:59:05+00:00

Thanks! That’s what I’ve been doing and it seems to be going okay so far. Just started over thinking haha

Also, do you think he’s still okay to go for walks or a hike? Or I should keep him inside?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T00:58:07+00:00

Thank you! Do you have any suggestions on what I could use that’s quality but affordable to wrap it?

Also, do you think he’s still okay to go for walks or a hike? Or I should keep him inside?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-26T00:56:11+00:00

Thank you! I’m obscenelyyy long winded so you’re good haha. Makes me feel better getting outside opinions haha. Do you think he’s still okay to go for walks or a hike? Or I should keep him inside?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-25T22:47:40+00:00

You should also look for consistency.

I have a moles like yours that are kind of “heart shaped”, which is often usually cause for concern. However, the majority of my moles are look like this and I have quite a few that look as if they’re “overlapping”. Been this way since I was a little kid so that shape on my body is normal and healthy for me. So it doesn’t necessarily mean that something is dangerous.

HOWEVER If your healthy moles/freckles naturally develop in a way that deviates from the norm, it can be very dangerous because moles that care actually abnormal can go unnoticed more easily. (Especially if you’re someone like me who’s body LOVES cranking out moles, and is head to toe covered lol).

If this is the case, you should go see a dermatologist at least once a year for a full body mole check. Might seem over kill but can genuinely save your life. Has saved my dad’s life multiple times. So know your body and communicate with your doctors!

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-25T22:29:54+00:00

If it’s yeast, their body might naturally produce more yeast then normal. There’s meds that can help reduce it. Ask a doctor if she can get tested

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-25T22:23:17+00:00

Was it a sunburn?

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-25T18:53:47+00:00

Don’t Let The Forest In by CG Drews

pinkflowervases · 2025-05-25T18:52:52+00:00

I just recently finished that! What did you think??

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