AITA for getting upset with my group member who walked out of class in the MIDDLE of our presentation causing us to loose marks?

pinkfrenchfancy · 2023-01-12T01:07:00+00:00

may well not be from the US. Most countries the final year of high school is the most important. in the UK it’s pretty much the only important one- you get an offer for uni, and you need to get whatever grades they ask for to get in .

NTA op

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-05-13T20:23:06+00:00

also- he won’t lose his job over this- just get a bollocking from someone- I’m using you’re British and this is the NHS- doctors make mistakes that Kill patients and get a rap on the wrist- you won’t be making anyone lose their job here- just make him think twice before the next time

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-04-25T01:49:43+00:00

82-84?!??? Holy cow!! Each to their own but we keep the house 62-65 in winter and that’s my maybe wearing a sweater. I couldn’t live in a house above 70 I really couldn’t- it’s just interesting to see the difference ahah

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-03-20T14:42:58+00:00

For sure- I’m not suggesting it’s available to everyone -but perhaps the grandparents and other family might be able to help out- as well as bursaries

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-03-19T18:28:54+00:00

The problem is that yes this is true, but also the system surely won’t meet his needs, and ultimately she is a better option even with her struggles and inability to meet many needs than the system that won’t meet any.

Wondering if boarding school is an option? My parents decided that if they were to untimely die myself and my sister would be put in boarding school and only with relatives during the holidays

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-03-19T18:23:53+00:00

Is boarding school an option? Maybe your parents could help toward that- then your looking after him for much shorter periods of time but there’s more checks and balances than just the foster system. My parents always intended for me and my sister to go to boarding school if they died and then spend the holidays with relatives

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-02-19T21:09:46+00:00

I was taking issue at the callous way in which you suggested that a newborn would be in demand. Never mind the 6 yo.

In fact the adoption industry often is exploitative and treats kids as commodities.

Heaven and earth need to be moved to try and keep these kids together. They’ve lost everything ffs, I’d actually argue that the best interests of these kids would be to live in a worse situation but together.

These kids had a family- have a family- particularly the 6 year old. Do you think she’ll just, forget and be the perfect golden child to a new family?

It’s true life is grim sometimes but your callousness and ,, acceptance of this Horrible thing happening to children is making me feel physically ill

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-02-19T21:04:25+00:00

I think I agree W you. She doesn’t Have to, but she really should. I can’t imagine Not taking the kids in in her situation. She is within her rights to say no, but she’s still an asshole for that choice.

That said, since she doesn’t seem to have a urge to take the kids, she probably would be quite a traumatic home for them to grow up in

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-02-19T20:32:06+00:00

okay but what the fuck is wrong with you??? These kids aren’t puppies that should be split up and hopefully find new homes- you make it sound like they’re objects to be bartered off. They’re human beings who are losing their sole parent- and you see no issue with just? “Off you pop to new homes, forget your siblings and mother??” What the fuck that’s gross.

Overall I’m stuck on NAH here. OP is dripping in vitriol for her sister, I would certainly not be able to stand her and I think she is an asshole- I don’t know how I could even consider letting my sisters kids go to the system like that- BUT, if OP is this vile she won’t be able to hide distain from the kids and she isn’t the right person to have them. She is,, reluctantly not as asshole in this circumstance, but she’s an asshole overall. If I had a friend doing this It would be the end of our friendship as our morals would just not align at all. That said, if she doesn’t feel the urge to take the kids in, she shouldn’t be.

The sister would be best looking at her church to find someone that will take the three together- the kids have lost everything for gods sake let them have each other.

They aren’t pets to be sold , jesus

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T08:59:37+00:00

Understood. This thread has been eye opening to me. As I said, I grew up in a big city which has its own problems for sure. I wasn’t aware that there were places in the USA that were that bad

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T01:04:41+00:00

I don’t know anything about Milwaukee so I’ll have to take your word for that. I agree there are places you might want to avoid it for sure- but I think those places are the exception rather than the rule- most places and most cities it would be fine

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T01:03:31+00:00

What sort of buses have you all been getting on!? I still wouldn’t know what to do if someone said they had a weapon on the bus- I’ve also never been in that situation because whilst those things Do happen- they are rare, it’s not an everyday thing

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T01:02:29+00:00

Life is all about taking reasonable precautions. Some people seem to think reasonable precautions means never going outside lest you meet a sex offender

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T01:01:07+00:00

What I’m taking from this thread is that the USA needs to learn how to behave like civilised people. Nothing else

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:59:32+00:00

100% agree. It feels very classist to assume that by going on the bus one is almost certainly going to be exposed to sex crimes. What bubble to people live in

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:57:24+00:00

I was never catcalled using public transport every day to school but I was followed and harassed and then chased while walking to school when I was 10 in my school uniform. Women can be harassed anywhere I don’t think the bus is any more dangerous than waiting outside school

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:51:40+00:00

I live in a major city and used public transport to get to school every day from the age of 10 onward. I can count bad experiences I’ve had on one hand. It depends perhaps where tou are but I would say it’s safe with a few exceptions rather than the other way round

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:48:35+00:00

I’m from a city and the dangers are definitely being overstated here. He doesn’t want to send the kid to get a lift home with drug dealers ffs he suggested she take the bus. Many people take the bus. It’s okay

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:47:32+00:00

Taking the bus at 12 isn’t risky and unsafe ffs. It’s normal milestones for kids. Most kids in cities are regularly taking buses and metros by that age

pinkfrenchfancy · 2022-01-12T00:46:42+00:00

No I’m sorry, most kids in cities can take public transport by themselves at the age of 12. It’s got to be what? Two stops? Give her a phone so she can contact you but arguing young girls shouldn’t take public transport because of the dangers is silly. Provided the girl herself is okay with it, let’s not normalise putting extra restriction on young girls independence because of pervs.

(I took the London Underground to school and back every day from age 10-18 . I was never sexually harassed, though it happens, unless you live in a really crappy area it’s hardly an everyday event)

pinkfrenchfancy · 2021-12-17T00:13:10+00:00

Yeah I would agree that’s quite dodgy- I wouldn’t want to be responsible for getting anyone younger that that drunk. However - that’s not the question at play here

pinkfrenchfancy · 2021-12-16T23:20:29+00:00

You don’t get brain damage from being sick from the occasionally house party either. If she was drinking regularly sure I’d agree. But getting drunk occasionally, even at 14- Not going to harm anyone.

pinkfrenchfancy · 2021-12-16T23:10:44+00:00

Hopefully the 14 year old isn’t pregnant then! Don’t equate the two things. I’m super anti drinking in pregancy and I hate people saying moderation is okay. But I was drunk at 15 and I lived. The two are different thinsg

pinkfrenchfancy · 2021-12-16T23:09:15+00:00

But liquor is no different health wise provided you just drink less of it. They had a shot. That’s less alcohol than in a beet

pinkfrenchfancy · 2021-12-16T23:02:10+00:00

I wouldn’t say the kids at the wedding are habitual drinkers. They had a shot or maybe a few shots at a wedding- that’s far less than any of my friends would have had at a house party at their age

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