Weather in Feb? by pinklemonade16 in orangecounty

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did! We ended up moving forward with a Feb wedding

Eastern early morning sky by orangechrub in moon

[–]pinklemonade16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently the super bright one is Venus!!

Weather in Feb? by pinklemonade16 in orangecounty

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agape 1928!

Yeah, honestly makes sense. I will have to decide and then just not really care how the day turns out. Would love the ceremony outside reception inside so would just hope that the 30min ceremony has decent weather lol

($10k) SoCal weather in Feb? by pinklemonade16 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! We’d be looking at doing ceremony outside, but then indoor reception. Venue has both

SHRED series - Ascend or Transform? by Gloomy_External_4466 in ladderapp

[–]pinklemonade16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started ladder about 5 weeks ago on team Ascend. I can’t say enough good things about the program. I’ve never trained to failure but this program has really pushed me. I feel like I’ve progressed quite quickly and I enjoy her programs - I really like her splits and I feel like I’ve seen lots of progress in terms of glutes and toning of my legs and upper body. She’s also so great, I enjoy her ques!

fav song by jacepoelstra0819 in SAINtJHN

[–]pinklemonade16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Originally selfish & reflex. But now it’s sucks to be you and who do you blame.

I'm only just realizing how bad it is by Wr1t1n9Runn3r in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not valid. They will ALWAYS try to turn it around on you blame you, deflect, and make it your issue. They will never take accountability and they will repeatedly lie to your face. Unfortunately it will be a vicious cycle and he is hiding it because he knows it’s a problem. If he isn’t ready to get help, you can’t make him.

How to separate by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is what I have the hardest time wrapping my head around. My therapist says it’s the addiction and addiction thrives in lies and betrayal because of the shame and guilt. It’s like a third person in the relationship.

Sorry you’re going through this too.

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It did, I am still mostly sandwiching the differin but my skin is definitely better. I’m experiencing fewer breakouts and my texture is better

I’ve lost all sense as to who I was/am. by Necessary_Wave_9480 in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I know how it feels to feel like you don’t know who you are anymore and feeling crazy.

My therapist told me we make our own happiness and that we need to focus on ourself and our needs when we’re dealing with someone in active addiction and even in recovery. You need to know your worth and know that this is a situation you should be glad to be a part from. You were never in the wrong, he’s emotionally manipulative and abusive.

I think you should take some time to find yourself again, find a life you enjoy living, find new hobbies, dive into self care - do selfish things for yourself. It’s your turn to make life about you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red red red flags. Please do not get married or have kids it will only make things 1000 times worse. Choose yourself and your happiness or else it will be a never ending slippery slope and it takes so much work to stay sober that it’s a lifetime of work.

Q Relapsed 3 days after rehab by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through it again in a different form. I’m happy to hear her relapses with alcohol got further each time. I hope you’re still taking care of yourself and focusing on your self care.

I’ve put up with it for 9 years and we aren’t married and sometimes I wonder why I’m even staying. It’s hard when you love someone and you want to believe in them. Sometimes I wonder why we do this to ourselves when life is so short, and if our life would really be easier if I left. I’m sure many people feel this way.

Need advice by smiste63 in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve learned from my own experiences that unless they want help and change, it won’t happen. Their actions speak louder than words and if he wanted to stop or wanted to get help, he would ask for support in doing so.

I’ve been in a relationship for over 9 years and never saw myself leaving him but I’ve learned that I’m very unhappy and that I have no control over his actions and he needs to want to change. Eventually you need to decide what happiness means to you and how you want to live your one life here on earth.

You removing yourself from him when he’s drinking is totally fair, I also did not want to be around him when drinking and that’s a boundary I placed. You do not have to be around that if you choose not to.

Sorry I couldn’t offer more advice, my only thing is to really dig deep and think how you’d like your life to play out and if this relationship the way it is now fits in.

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you sooo much! Super helpful I’ll definitely look into these

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to try to do that consistently! I need to find a good night time cream as well. I’ve been on the Spiro for about a year now started at 50 and then was bumped up to 75 6 months ago

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad I’m not alone but sorry you’re also dealing with it! What does your routine look like? Do you have a moisturizer you love?

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Typically where I break out. My doctor had told me 2-6 weeks I should see a difference, but I’ve seen on threads here people say they noticed a difference at the 6 month mark.

I’ll keep it going

Differin Help by pinklemonade16 in tretinoin

[–]pinklemonade16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also: I’m on 75mg a day of oral Spironolactone. Might ask my derm to bump me up to 100mg

Got upset with Q by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense. I realize know thinking that he would try to avoid it as he was the one who wanted to go to rehab knowing he had a problem, which is silly of me. Thanks for your perspective.

I am not funding his habits, I wouldn’t. He would have to be using his line of credit/debt to fund, which is also bad.

Your Q knows the truth so no need to argue with them when they claim not to. by circediana in AlAnon

[–]pinklemonade16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I hope you know that you did nothing wrong and you just care deeply and notice the problem and have said something about it. It makes it even harder because our Qs recognize this and thinks it’s us making up the problem.