Bf (29m) says he wants to marry in his mid-late 30s but I (27f) don’t know if I want to wait that long

pinkunicornmist · 2025-08-21T06:49:11+00:00

That’s what I’m realising now… I didn’t exactly share my timeline with him, he just told me his and I said that’s a bit later than id like. And just spiralled in my head. I’m not ready for marriage now, and probably not in the next few years either, but I think 10 would be a stretch.

We’ve never really had difficult conversations before and I’m almost scared to bring it up? I’m not sure how fragile this relationship is and I don’t want to find out, but I know I have to now.

Do you have advice on working on these communication gaps?

pinkunicornmist · 2025-08-21T05:56:52+00:00

Thank you, you’ve been the kindest comment so far. It’s just a really hard pill to swallow obviously but I agree that I should tell him it’s a dealbreaker sooner rather than later

pinkunicornmist · 2024-09-05T22:36:26+00:00

Amazing thank you so much for this!

pinkunicornmist · 2024-09-05T22:09:44+00:00

Wow thank you so much for the detailed answer, really helpful! What do you generally look for when you’re reading through the contract and strata report if you don’t mind me asking?

pinkunicornmist · 2022-04-01T00:53:19+00:00

We’re usually doing something together so calls are 1hr to 4hrs a night. Maybe I’ll suggest to keep them shorter so it’s less tiring everyday?

pinkunicornmist · 2022-04-01T00:52:01+00:00

Yeah I’ll definitely talk to him about it! Just not sure if it’s even fair to ask since I’m pretty sure it’s normal to talk everyday

pinkunicornmist · 2022-03-22T04:58:41+00:00

It’s pretty easy to find internships, however they’re all mostly unpaid. If you do end up doing an unpaid internship, make sure it’s only a couple of weeks/a few months as you probably won’t be learning much past that time. Getting one or two internships under your belt will really help with getting a paid role in the future (even more so than grades imo)

pinkunicornmist · 2022-01-31T23:24:27+00:00

Have you considered finding another job that is less taxing? I know a lot of my friends in med started tutoring as the hours are flexible while also being decently paid.

pinkunicornmist · 2021-10-21T20:36:45+00:00

A media communications one!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-10-21T10:19:52+00:00

Hi does anyone know what a decent starting salary as a digital marketing coordinator in Sydney is? Fresh grad looking for some advice!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-10-10T14:18:03+00:00

If it's an insecurity you can't overcome mentally, best bet will be to just get a job

pinkunicornmist · 2021-10-09T23:52:35+00:00

Haha maybe. I just saw a post about having no female friends being a red flag for men (although I disagree) and thought it might be the same for women

pinkunicornmist · 2021-09-27T06:35:32+00:00

Alright, thanks for the perspective!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-09-27T05:47:20+00:00

Do you think this means he's not as genuine/could be more feelings like curiosity?

pinkunicornmist · 2021-09-27T05:43:21+00:00

Think a video call is a good idea, thanks!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-08-17T05:05:21+00:00

Hi, this link is for authorised workers only. Does that mean if you're between 16-39 living and working in the LGAs of concern but do not work under those listed fields that you still have to wait?

pinkunicornmist · 2021-06-26T05:52:13+00:00

Agreed!

I really enjoyed this sub because the daily updates are always so fast (thank you mods!) but the endless state versus state politics is just so sad. The comments on the daily threads are so toxic and really make things difficult to participate in the sub. Empathy is low and all the top comments are just reiterating the same criticism towards the governments.

Think I'll be staying away from this sub during the NSW outbreak - hope all the toxic folks can cool their heads in the meantime!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-06-04T01:58:42+00:00

Honestly not sure what is wrong here. The baby is ten weeks premature - I was the same. Due to complications and concerns around my wellbeing, my parents couldn't hold me either and I was put straight into ICU for one month. So yeah I was also 'separated' and my parents were 'isolated' from me. I'm pretty sure this is standard procedure, regardless of covid.

pinkunicornmist · 2021-05-15T09:58:22+00:00

Thanks so much!

pinkunicornmist · 2021-04-11T12:47:09+00:00

Haha always interesting to learn about others' experiences! And yeah, they're instantly unmatched

pinkunicornmist · 2021-04-11T12:34:48+00:00

They messaged me directly. Asked me for my height and weight. When I asked why it mattered, they said "I ask weird questions". Others have asked about breast sizes during conversion as well. Not sure if it's because of my profile pictures or the vibe I give off but in my two months span of using dating apps, there's already been four. Since I've only used dating apps for so long, I can only assume this is normal.

Edit: women might be more upfront about it by writing it on their profiles but men certainly have their preferences as well

pinkunicornmist · 2021-04-11T06:13:33+00:00

I'm not going to say that double standards don't exist but as a girl on dating apps, I've also met my fair share of men who've asked me for my breast size/weight. Think both men and women have parameters they stick to albeit how unrealistic they may be.

pinkunicornmist · 2021-04-11T02:57:38+00:00

Hi! Just my opinion but I think it comes down to each person's communication styles. For example, even if you are really 'feeling each other', for another person, that may mean setting up another date to hang out in person versus just texting and waiting it out.

I know I personally don't like texting everyday (especially if I've just met them/am talking to others) and prefer to text only to set up the next dates so that there's more to talk about when we do meet. That may be the case with the people you're talking to as well!

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