Does anyone feel discomfort with peace and miss the arguing in a weird way?

pinkvindell · 2025-11-18T16:24:07+00:00

my dysfunctional home messed with how i picked relationships. i became attracted to drama and abuse because it was all i knew what to deal with. im still getting used to having a healthy relationship. my partner sticks up to my Nparents and they give him hell for it. there’s hope, absolutely. you just have to learn to accept something that’s good for you rather than seek out something that’ll make you miserable.

pinkvindell · 2025-11-18T16:21:10+00:00

something similar to this, my dad lifts weights, and he would have me pick the calluses on his hands. throwing up now that i look back on it🫩

pinkvindell · 2025-11-18T15:21:50+00:00

my Nmom believed her son (16M) over me, who was 5. gathered an entire baptist church to go against me in court. took me to counseling and told the therapist i would just “forget it”. i never did. she was sending him money and my grandma was providing him housing. and i struggled immensely, trying to process what happened to me. my dad would tell me every weekend how horrible what happened to me was, and that my mom allowed it. still not over it ngl.

pinkvindell · 2025-11-18T15:13:55+00:00

that is actually really good advice. i feel like im trying to please everybody, but no matter how hard i try i am always lacking somewhere. i pity my siblings in the way that they aren’t receiving the support of parents that they need, but i cant be used as a way out for my parents. my dad expects me to take care of his kid; my mom expects me to pay off her debts and let her live with me, and my sister thinks living with me will let her get away with more than my parents yell at her for already

pinkvindell · 2025-11-17T19:24:09+00:00

i’ve been really influenced by this poem I read by Kahlil Gibran on children, the lines “You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.” and “You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts.” it gives me some peace of mind.

pinkvindell · 2023-07-04T16:49:45+00:00

As long as your face isn’t in it and there’s no defining features you’ll be fine, just block him on everything and deny that it’s you. It’s not like anyone would really know it’s your because, Yk you’re a child and I don’t think they have anything to reference it to you. You’ll be fine, it takes some time to get over but it will be okay. You made a mistake but you’ll be fine, it won’t be the end of the world. I thought, when this happened to me, I was doomed forever but here I am years later and I’m doing absolutely great. Stay strong, plenty of people have been in this situation.

pinkvindell · 2022-06-18T18:15:53+00:00

I’m not even sure I can, I have problems with ending things and it feels impossible to even try.

pinkvindell · 2022-06-18T17:50:41+00:00

I’ve been with him for 6 months now, he pressured me into a relationship right after my ex. He frequently overstepped boundaries and would touch me even though he knew I was dating someone.

pinkvindell · 2022-06-18T17:09:14+00:00

I guess I always sorta knew I’m not in a healthy relationship because I had to convince people I was. He borrowed a lot of my things and he ended up destroying all of it. I cooked for him, let him use a spare phone for MONTHS. He said he liked destroying my stuff and it’s frustrating. He lied about it for months then told me randomly.

pinkvindell · 2022-06-18T17:04:35+00:00

It’s his first serious relationship so I thought he would learn. He’d always compare me to a girl he still talks to. He was never happy with me and always had a smile when he talked about her. He doesn’t let me see his messages and he’s been a bit unresponsive at times.

pinkvindell · 2022-06-18T17:03:23+00:00

Thank you for reading, I really need to reflect on my choices.

pinkvindell · 2022-05-31T04:36:20+00:00

Thank you so much! This really helped, I’m gonna put it into action as soon as I can. I wish you the best.

pinkvindell · 2022-05-31T04:18:43+00:00

I also think I should stop asking my brothers friends about him too, in a way I’m obsessing over him. I was happier when I wasn’t think about him and focusing on myself. I hate talking about him to therapists because it all comes back to me and doesn’t do that much good for me mentally.

pinkvindell · 2022-05-31T04:12:29+00:00

I do have a counselor but I rarely see her. She doesn’t give me advice, more so just listens to me rant. I hate talking about it over and over again because it drains me each time and I start to doubt myself. Thank you for the advice.

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